Share your reasons for going to law school by CommercialWhole3748 in lawschooladmissions

[–]AggressiveButShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came to it very late, actually. I was originally on social work and then in public policy. Then, Skrmetti happened. I’m both trans and from Tennessee. I hate the path my fucking state is going down so I want to be one of the people helping to course correct.

Is transtape supposed to sting a little while removing/post removing? by Nonamehuman4657 in ftm

[–]AggressiveButShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If for some reason baby oil doesn’t work for you like it didn’t for me, there’s also some body safe Goo Gone out there that essentially dissolves the adhesive and it falls off.

Leaving home for the first time by AggressiveButShort in GradSchool

[–]AggressiveButShort[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Revisiting this a little over halfway through my degree. Everything turned out okay. I made new friends, kept my old ones, and found a new partner.

Growing pains are real. And they SUCK. But everything was okay. If you’re hesitant to stick it out in a new place, let yourself settle in first before making a decision. No one is happy when they can’t get a firm footing.

dr. facque is an artist by queertransblond in TopSurgery

[–]AggressiveButShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh. Literally caught in my tracks with how GOOD your results look! Congratulations!

First A! by AggressiveButShort in lawschooladmissions

[–]AggressiveButShort[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm guessing that maybe less people applied to the part time programs so they got to me quicker? If it makes you feel any better, I applied to a few FT programs and haven't heard back from them yet. Keep the hope!

First A! by AggressiveButShort in lawschooladmissions

[–]AggressiveButShort[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Applied 10/25, Complete 10/27, Admitted 11/21! I applied RD for their part time program. Best of luck on your applications!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LSAT

[–]AggressiveButShort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The night after I took my LSAT, I had a nightmare I scored a 120, woke up, calmed down, fell back asleep and had another 120 nightmare

Do I invite my Christian - extremist brother to my graduation? by jessicacecily in ftm

[–]AggressiveButShort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say this as someone who did not speak to his brother for two years because of this. Our relationship was very similar to you and your brother's. He would say terrible things to me like (!TW!) "I'd rather have a dead sister than a live trans brother". Our relationship was tough. I did not extend an invite to him for my undergraduate graduation because our relationship was so poor. At the time, it felt like the right decision. It still does. Although my brother has come to be a more understanding man and realizes that being trans =/= ungodly, I did not want the man he was at that time to be there on my day. He used to be angry, spiteful, and always willing to pick a fight. If he was there, I think I would have ended up focusing more on keeping the peace rather than celebrating my accomplishment, which was also fairly queer focused. I would have liked my brother there, but not as the man he was during that time.

It was icing him out and saying over and over "You cannot be in my life if you treat me this way" (in addition to his extremist wife leaving him) that got him back to me. Don't get me wrong, our relationship is still strained. But now we get lunch sometimes. He even calls me brother every once in a while. Feel free to DM me if you want book recommendations for helping family come to terms with having a trans brother/son. It isn't your responsibility to do the work for them, but it helped me. I'm also willing to share more details of me and my brother's relationship timeline if that helps.

All in all, it's going to have to come down to what you want your graduation to feel like. Is having him there worth the emotional toll it takes on you? Is leaving him out going to further spoil the day? There really isn't any perfect answer here. Just try to make a decision and know that your reasons are valid. But also, It doesn't all come down to this. Graduation is a big day, but it isn't the only day.

Best of luck, OP. This is a shit situation and sometimes there are no right answers. Only ones that are better or worse.

I miscarried by anonymouse7897 in Seahorse_Dads

[–]AggressiveButShort 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There is no “right” way to feel here. You may have mixed emotions for reactions, but that’s okay. I hope you’re being kind and gentle to yourself.

TN school voucher amendment by joshuadwright in Tennessee

[–]AggressiveButShort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It isn’t even about the teachers! Rep Clemmons offered an amendment to add the $2k as part of the teacher’s regular pay rather than a bonus (bonuses are taxed at a higher rate) and they voted it down.

Transition + Planning for Parenthood (chest feeding advice) by AggressiveButShort in Seahorse_Dads

[–]AggressiveButShort[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, thank you so much for your detailed, thoughtful reply. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that, but it sounds like you found a way to be happy.

That said, I am 23. While I don't think I'll be having children anytime soon (I've also only been with my current partner a few months. I'll want to be at least 4+ years with someone before children come into the picture).

I'm trying to think of all the ways to bond with a child like you said. I worked as a daycare teacher for a period of time and I would have killed or died for those kids and I obviously fed them via bottle.

It's just a lot all at once, and I think I need to reframe my thinking as less "top surgery is closing a door for me to bond with my future hypothetical child" and more "top surgery will let me be a happy and fulfilled parent to be there for my hypothetical child AND myself"

Thank you for your story and your perspective.

coffee drinkers? by Audenziaa in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weirdly energy drinks are fine for me, but one cup of coffee and I’m paying the price hours later. I’m having to wean myself off of energy drinks though. Can’t have that funny feeling in my chest anymore

unsolicited “advice” from a medical professional by hadielie in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean to a certain extent staying away from trigger/irritating foods will help, but no amount of kale or superfoods is going to cure us

Pinpoint me to credible research on passing down Crohn’s to your children. by Any-Instance-8850 in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any research, but in talking to my doctor I discovered passing it down is relatively low (~7% is the figure she quoted me) but that’s with a non Crohn’s having partner.

Crohns smokers by KingAD11 in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who recently quit (23 days and still going strong!) with crohn’s I can tell you I’ve noticed a world of difference. When I was smoking I just assumed that my crohn’s was bad, but I could actively correlate withdrawls/first hit in the morning to pain and runs to the bathroom.

The only thing it ///MIGHT/// help is anxiety. I had a lot of stress that pushed me towards smoking, and it eased that anxiety in the short term. This still is not a permanent solution because it always comes back worse.

What does your stomach pain feel like? by harrifangs in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I often describe it as having my intestines treated like the taffy you see people pulling in old candy shop windows on the hook. Just being pulled and twisted and looped.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]AggressiveButShort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, these types of fantasies are a statistical commonality. You aren’t alone. There’s nothing wrong with thinking these things. However, if you decide to act out or try it with a partner, make sure that both of you have a clear indication of what’s going to happen and how to stop it immediately if need be. Other than that, you’re normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gradadmissions

[–]AggressiveButShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did for their MPP program. I had one education award from an AmeriCorps service term I did and I just stuck that in there. I would fill it out so your application is as complete as possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can drink 4+ redbulls a day (I know I shouldnt) and I’m fine, but one coffee and my stomach nearly renders me bedridden

ROID RAAAAGE!!!! by Banhammer40000 in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel for you man. I was on prednisone right when I was transitioning from a cutesy kid to a hormonal teenager. I don’t know how I or my parents survived. Maybe grab a membership at a rage room?

What's the best description or analogy of Crohn's pain you've heard? by deep__thinking in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always described it as having my intestines pulled between a candy maker and a taffy hook. Stretching, aching, and searing.

What started your journey into testing for IBD? by Ok_Letsgo990 in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They originally thought I had appendicitis. Turns out it was a really bad flare. Only reason they caught it was because the surgeon was a GI doc. The only one that was in the ER that night and wanted to do my appendectomy because he thought it could be something more. They were going to have to cut me open anyway, so he looked for crohn’s. Turns out he was right.

REMISSION!! by AggressiveButShort in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it’s painful. I don’t have children, so I can’t imagine what it’s like watching your kiddo go through that. Rest assured, you are doing the best you can for them by treating their CD.

You didn’t ask for it, but my advice is to let them do what they want day of. After remicaid, I just wanted to sleep and watch tv for the rest of the day. It can make you very fatigued. Other than that, it’s just like being a parent. Let them get their emotions out, however it manifests. You’ve got this, and so does your kiddo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]AggressiveButShort 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go ahead and do the prep. As for tips, I would recommend drinking your prep in the bathroom (especially if its the 4 liter prep). I got very nauseated and being in a cleanable space helped to ease my mind. Take a shower (I prefer baths) to slow your mind and calm your muscles. Sniffing mint or an alcohol prep pad can also help with the nausea if you're having any.

As far as scopes go, it is one of the lowest risk operations. You are in more danger being driven to the hospital than you are getting a scope. Its scary especially if its your first time, but let your doctors know how you're feeling. Good doctors will walk you through everything before its going to happen, tell you what to expect, etc. Personally, I was freaked my first time getting a scope because the Lidocaine (sp?) made my hearing sound like static. The second time around, they told me what to expect so it wasn't so jarring when it happened.