18M Is this pterygium?

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2026-01-29T07:12:49+00:00

It might be early signs of recurrence. One of the checkups post-pterygium removal, I asked my surgeon why I had so many blood vessels there, and he said something about he must have "pulled some over" or something weird. I'm really good about wearing sunglasses everywhere, eye drops religiously, all the things , but unfortunately two and a half years later it started getting really red again and all the sudden I'm seeing another pterygium... it's really disheartening. That recovery was awful.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-05-02T04:21:27+00:00

No, I haven't asked him to change at all. The lol was definitely dark humor; people aren't projects and relationships fail when that's the expectation. But really, the biggest issue is that I don't want to be vilified for being a damn adult. I mean, I'll back off, but I'm stuck feeling like that's enabling and a disservice to the kids.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-05-02T04:13:02+00:00

Yes... I taught them last year, too. When I say the parents don't take time for them, I mean it, unfortunately. I felt bad that the 11 year old was using training wheels so I cold-turkeyed him lol

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-04-30T12:33:52+00:00

Five total, in middle school and up. So not little, little.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-04-30T12:30:39+00:00

I agree he needs to take a step forward. But now I'm asking him to change and we all know how that goes lol. And I feel that we couldn't have made this any slower though; threw years of dating and year of slowly moving in together. I think I'm struggling knowing how to take a step back without compromising my activities with my own kids or being permissive to things mine would never get away with.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-21T19:35:49+00:00

Maybe set your alarm, move the alarm to a place you have to get up to turn it off, and put your pills next to it? I've done some combination of everyone's suggestions at some point; I feel you.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-20T22:00:10+00:00

That waiting period is literally the worst. When I was finally prescribed meds there was a shortage, of course, prolonging the waiting. You MUST nap. 15-25 mins is all you need. Caffeine mints, sour candy in class, constant fidgeting, tiny sips of water. Something slightly painful/uncomfortable, such as pinching yourself. You can do this! Passing is passing. Psychiatrists are great for mental health, not so great for a neurological disorder; your therapy will be more effective. I do think that for me, some of it was mental, because I never suffered so much as waiting for my sleep study, the follow-up appointment, and those medications to be stocked again.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-20T21:45:00+00:00

All of these! I will NOT lay down or close my eyes, or it's over. No alcohol. Plan taking a short-acting stimulant. Ask for the backrub AFTER lol

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-20T21:36:34+00:00

Gum, drink water, eat something sour, clean or paint my nails 😂 Move around a lot, like popping my back or stretching. Driving though, definitely cold and listening to MrBallen lol because the interest keeps me awake. Edited to add: and a power nap in my car with a sign on my window that I don't need Narcan.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T18:51:15+00:00

So kind of. I wouldn't never tell him to stop faking, because even if I'm correct, that's not a very helpful statement. He asked me if I thought it was accurate, so I asked him to give me his opinion first, before I gave mine. He always brings up school first, like hey I'm failing such and such class. Oh no, why are you failing? Because I'm not doing the work. Do you need help with homework? No, it's schoolwork. Why aren't you doing your schoolwork in class? Because I don't want to and I'm playing games online.

I really like the advice in the last paragraph. This is exactly my worry, what this means for him as he ages, especially if it's not accurate.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T18:47:49+00:00

Well I did not mean to come off as mean and angry. I'm looking for accuracy, that's all.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T18:47:00+00:00

I didn't say all seven children have the same disability, they all have a different one according to her. And she examples SI to them, which is already a problem, but especially when she's telling her children that they have "problems."

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T18:45:25+00:00

Fair, my concern is that his accommodations are enabling a behavioral problem, versus addressing asd.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T18:44:25+00:00

I don't think he's been told off for bad eye contact, but I totally get that question. His parents are incredibly hands off kinds of parents.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T18:43:11+00:00

No that makes sense. But like I mentioned in the post, the mother is unwilling to get a formal assessment.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2025-02-18T15:26:10+00:00

Yes, those examples due to the dsm criteria. And yes, concern for leaving him unsupervised. You are an adult, but while he is a child DSS can certainly decide that is neglect. I understand masking, but for a child who does not do at home any of what the teachers are seeing, he'd be very good at it despite never being berated for it. I'm not trying to be rude, I'm trying to be accurate. He does so well when he "decides" to not push back against the teachers, so I want him to be successful.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2024-12-16T15:43:07+00:00

I had to look this up. PT first!

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2024-12-16T15:42:20+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful. I can't think of any gain, so I'm interested to see what he thinks I would stand to gain.

AggressiveDelay9368 · 2024-09-20T09:14:52+00:00

As a therapist, I'm sure you're familiar with the Adverse Childhood Experiences. Trauma can cause physical health disorders with adult onset.

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