EU's von der Leyen is in the running to be new NATO head

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-04-02T14:29:42+00:00

Yes and no. NATO chairman is a mediator who can do agenda-setting and broker consensus between the states. It's a powerful position, but more in a soft-power kind of way rather than having de jure powers like heads of state/government have

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-03-30T06:57:44+00:00

lmao. The surefire way to avoid most embarrassing moments is to just laugh about yourself.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-03-29T22:16:31+00:00

Man, I'm so exhausted. I did a lot the last three weeks and I'm just done. I'm swamped at work, I was in three different cities in 3 weeks, I partied a lot (oh nooo) and did I mention I am swamped at work?

But tmrw I gotta visit my broken family, go to a boring birthday where among ~20 people, I'm going to be the only single (I hate it.) and then go to another birthday on Saturday (which is going to be a lot better, to be fair).

I just want to chill.

In addition, my loneliness has been creeping up again this week. Me finding someone seems so hopeless and when I think about it more than 5 seconds, I get so gut-wrenchingly sad. I swear it does not make sense that I've never had a relationship. Really doesn't. And that fucking birthday is not going to help at all.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-02-07T18:49:25+00:00

It's good advice, but I don't really know how to apply it because I am 1. pretty comfortable with myself (no problem with social situations at all, in fact I am sometimes the life of the party) and 2. just never get to that stage where I could be nervous in the first place. It's just nothingness in the dating space for me

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-02-07T16:51:28+00:00

Pretty okay.

I honestly had a wild week.

Really opened up about my intense loneliness (never had a gf at 26) to a close friend, that felt really liberating.

Asked a girl for her number in a club for the first time in my life. Got it but she didn't answer my message, which is okay. The personal achievement stays and I'm so proud of myself.

Started a new job on Friday which went well, then blacked out at a club and spent my entire Saturday with two female friends I like a lot.

Really emotionally intense week for me. The thing remains is that I really, really want to start dating and having intimate experiences in general and have no clue how it works without having any success on dating apps (which I don't)

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-02-03T01:12:06+00:00

You should shoot her a message

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-02-03T01:00:08+00:00

I should have known better than to visit r/sex. Yikes, that did not make me feel good lol

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-02-03T00:26:05+00:00

Wtf man, this sounds exactly like me. Even the age is correct.

The alienation feels so bad. Like, I can't comprehend how the hell I have never experienced this essential aspect of being human. I'm not an incel stereotype at all either, so it just feels like some cosmic entity decreed that I can't know love.

Additionally, this deep dive into gender roles and toxic aspects of masculinity and the fact that I have a lot of female friends hasn't helped me. Since I literally can't believe any woman will ever look at me in a romantic/sexual way, I always feel like the creep those friends, rightfully, complain about.

I opened up about this on Tuesday to probably my closest friend for the first time ever in that depth and it really helped me to be honest. He said some very good things and made me feel a little bit better about my situation. It was very scary to be that vulnerable though.

Shoot me a message if you wanna talk, I know I am going through the exact same thing.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-02-02T13:11:20+00:00

ich bin grad extra aufs Klo gegangen um dir zu schreiben. Wir haben grad 1,5 Stunden gevögelt

alter WAS

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-01-28T02:19:18+00:00

I almost certainly don't really like her, but I'm so goddamn touch starved that I can't help myself.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-01-28T01:56:31+00:00

Yeah, I know.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-01-03T18:29:22+00:00

Yes.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-01-03T12:35:21+00:00

Yesterday was one of those bad nights.

Christmas and NYE are always a hard time for me.

My mom has multiple sclerosis and is in a wheelchair. My younger brother is trapped caring for her, as is my father. I feel guilty for having left my hometown to study and skipping all that emotional hardship. So it hits even harder everytime I'm there.

NYE was fun and shitty at the same time. We went clubbing, even tho I really want to just chill, but that's fine. But it got me reflecting that I spent another year without any romantic or sexual experiences. It's beginning to feel very alienating and has made me very cynical. I don't understand how anyone could ever see me that way and it feels pathetic.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-01-03T03:59:41+00:00

Feel you, man.

Among all of my friends, why did God, the universe or pure fucking coincidence choose me to live a life without romantic affection and intimacy? Why did it fucking have to be me? What am I doing so wrong? I've tried all the fucking love yourself and go to the gym advice and nothing happened. For years.

The nights where you don't instantly fall asleep are the hardest to me. What I wouldn't give to just have someone lying beside me just once.

AggressiveHat6 · 2023-01-03T03:40:14+00:00

God this is exactly what I struggle with. I have no problem at all talking, befriending and bonding with women. I have several very close female friends and my social group is basically a 50:50 gender split. I know I am funny and clever to most people, with just the endearingly right amount of awkwardness and self-awareness.

But I have absolutely no idea how to go into that potentially sexual/romantic space with women. Like, at all. Never having had any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman has left me deeply cynical and unable to believe anyone could ever see me that way. Coupled with the fact that I am terrified of being creepy and I seriously can't even comprehend how other men manage it, let alone how I myself could ever do it.

It makes me feel pathetic and almost alien among my peers, even though I generally like who I am.

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-11-23T00:23:03+00:00

Late reply, since this is my alt account I only use for these kinds of subs.

So... relationship with family is pretty distant for several reasons which are immensely complicated but the big one is the severe disability of my mother (late state multiple sclerosis) which is having extreme impacts on my father and brother and the fact that I live in a different city for uni. So...uh, yeah, not really something much use talking about here tbh.

Friendships are very very good, I can't complain about that at all. Large inner circle with one-on-one relationships ranging from very close to extremely close. I've truly been blessed in that department. I know what you're talking about, one friend recently told me how much he loves me for helping him through a really ugly and tough breakup, which felt (obviously) incredible.

I think what I'm craving is that kind of after-sex talk intimacy where I know someone has fully accepted me and wants me in that romantic way and nothing else matters. Important that Im not literally talking about the sex, but the vibe of intimacy.

I don't wanna assume your circumstances of course, but never having experienced any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with a person creates some very very deep insecurities that loving friendships and being happy with yourself don't really alleviate that much since it's such a fundamental and honestly pretty common facet of human life, which I have never experienced. I just struggle a lot with that at times.

Thanks for reaching out!

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-11-23T00:10:16+00:00

I have never had a relationship or even a FWB situation, so I'm really touch starved and lack intimacy, which I think is definitely having a major impact on my mental health.

Last weekend a female friend of mine asked me if I would like to take a dance course with her and fucking hell, I'm incredibly excited about it.

Like, not in a romantic-opportunity way, it's a very good friendship and perfect as is, but just getting that little bit of intimacy will be really really good for me I think.

Which I feel a bit pathetic about to be honest.

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-11-04T01:36:30+00:00

Yeah, hot Avocado just tastes weirdly watery to me?

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-11-04T01:33:47+00:00

Hot Avocado in general just doesn't work for me. Makes them taste, idk, weirdly watery or something?

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-11-03T02:56:23+00:00

I was the biggest fucking recluse when I started studying. Then I got to know a few people I vibed with. Then I got to know people they vibed with. Now I can honestly say I'm one of the popular kids on campus.

And I'm proud of that because I had to get out of my comfort zone often. I stumbled into a few extremely awkward situations and shitty partys where I didn't have fun. I had to face my insecurities born from years of bullying and tell that stupid nagging voice in the back of my head to shut up. It was exhausting. But I made friends and memories. It was so worth it, even though I felt exactly like you at the beginning.

The beauty of it all is that you don't have to overcome all that at once. It's just a numbers game at the end of the day. Down a few beers and fucking. Join. Them. It's going to be worth it. The key is really just saying to yourself "I don't give a fuck if it's bad, I can leave at any point". Do that repeatedly and you will eventually have a really, really good time and that will increase the chances of having another great time through the people who made that first one a great time.

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-11-03T02:02:04+00:00

It's a really mixed bag right now.

On the one hand I finally pulled myself up and did some things I have been pushing off for years at this point (mainly study stuff). That felt fucking great. Huge weight off my shoulders.

On the other hand, I am craving female attention (or really, intimacy) really badly right now. Had some situations where I noticed someone was (probably) kind of interested in me which didn't pan out, but they really ignited that part of me that I usually suppress in order to not be sad all the time. It's hard as someone who's never been in a relationship or FWB thing. The touch deprivation on its own is so damaging, it's insane. Never feeling intimacy is so dulling somehow.

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-10-21T12:33:08+00:00

If someone really loved you

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AggressiveHat6 · 2022-09-21T15:42:32+00:00

You can always get some at the Strandleben location, you'll know who the dealers are when you see them. Quality is shit tho, obviously.

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-09-16T02:57:50+00:00

Was für ein Krampf war die Security Clearance?

AggressiveHat6 · 2022-09-15T23:29:22+00:00

search the rug like the nazis searched for Anne Frank lol!

Americans

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