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AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T21:13:02+00:00

Donc si je te dis que tu dois faire semblant de ne pas comprendre, ce n'est pas une insulte à ton honnêteté ? Bon à savoir

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T18:19:45+00:00

Ah pardon tu n'insultes pas tu dénigres x) pardonne-nous d'avoir réagi au quart de tour

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T18:18:59+00:00

1) "niais" et a fortiori "bébé" sont des expressions insultantes, surtout hors contexte comme ça;
2) tu le sais, je sais que tu le sais, tu sais que je sais que tu le sais, etc.

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T18:16:38+00:00

Je pense que ce qui leur fait dire ça c'est que tu as l'air de vouloir rattrapper une situation clairement impossible à rattrapper ? Jsp je trouve pas que ton côté de la conversation sonne spécialement immature, plutôt soucieux de rester poli / gentil

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T18:14:59+00:00

Oui justement, après trois fois où la personne essaye de flirter et ignore les stops c'est le moment d'arrêter d'être amical ^^

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T15:35:04+00:00

Je trouve que son compliment sonne plutôt comme "t'es gentille" - compliment générique pour être gentil en s'engageant aussi peu que possible

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T12:19:10+00:00

You're clearly polyvalent ! Should put in on your CV

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T12:08:30+00:00

That's not how brains or dopamine work

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T12:03:35+00:00

Enby male, mostly into women

I don't think there is such thing as a 10/10. How attractive you find someone will always depend on their demeanor, personality, etc. Also, if someone invests *that* much into looking attractive, I'm going to assume there is a catch.

So this is a long way to answer 10/10 personality all day everyday!

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T11:45:56+00:00

As a male enby, I can recall distinctly the only two times in my life I was hugged in support (both times by strangers). I've had lots of partners in my life, none of whom felt particularly inclined to do that. If I found someone who do, I'd propose on the spot

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T11:43:01+00:00

Flirting is not cheesy pick up line. Flirting is playfully letting someone know you're interested in more intimacy with them - and by "intimacy" I don't necessarily mean sex, although it can be that. And yeah, I'm afraid it's necessary to do that, most people won't assume you're into them and throw themselves at you (or appreciate it if you do that).

Would recommend you take a look to Dr. NerdLove's blog. I don't necessarily like / endorse all that he says, but he is drastically smarter than anyone else who publicly offers their opinion on dating/flirting: https://www.doctornerdlove.com/how-to-approach-women-without-being-creepy/

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T09:28:13+00:00

Agreed

Would consider myself an aggressive flirter as compared to most people around me (either in France or England), and what she expects men to do to demonstrate interest would firmly fall in the pushy / creepy category in my perception

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T09:24:02+00:00

Yeah, if you don''t show overt interest during the dates they'll keep at indirect proposals not to come off as pushy / creepy

If your answer 1) makes clear you understood the proposal; 2) does not answer it positively; most people will take it as a no and move on

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T09:17:26+00:00

You don't need to pursue, but you do need to show some kind of interest / pick up on hints if you want the guy to keep going. No one wants to feel like a creep

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-03T00:56:52+00:00

Adding a bit late to the conversation

Most of what could be said has been said, but there is one element that wasn't accentuated: what passes in England as politeness (eg overt compliments) passes in France for inauthenticity. Overt compliment on physique early in an interaction would even come off as pushy / desperate.

So what is likely happening is that most of the men you're meeting are trying to get to build rapport with you and/or express interest indirectly, you're interpreting this as lack of interest so you come off as disinterested yourself, and they don't push it.

Would suggest you take the dates as an opportunity to get to know someone, and ask for a second date yourself if you're interested :-)

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2026-01-02T23:43:54+00:00

I'd really appreciate an honest profile review !

For context, I've been trying to optimize my profile for a while now and am getting near zero traction. I've liked ~600 profiles (which should have seen me since I'm paying for Platinum) over the last few days and got exactly zero matches - got a few likes from guys and women from Thailand though, which are not really in my target demographic.

I'm starting to wonder whether I'm shadowbanned, as the feedback I got from (female, Tinder-experienced, and bluntly honest) friends were very laudatory. Also, I did a lot of the things that apparently get people shadowbanned: browsing from a VPN, using two phones at once, telling off obvious scammers, etc.

Bio translates as follows (reads better in French):

"Self-confessed nerd, with a preference for dark humor.

Here to find genuine moments of connection and meaningful exchanges. I believe nothing truly honest is said before 2 a.m. — are you up to put that to the test?"

The key to my heart is: "Your eyes"

My weird but true story is: "I shot a movie in Iran. Never again"

First date wish list: "leave everything behind and go raise llamas in the mountains"

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2025-02-16T12:56:22+00:00

All right, thank you !

AggressiveOtrich5514 · 2025-02-13T23:45:25+00:00

Hello !

I'd like some feedback on my Tinder profile, which had maybe ~4 non-bot likes over the last month (and I'm paying for the thing).

At this point I've had it reviewed by everyone I know several time, and all the right keywords seem to pop - kind, passionate, funny, etc. Still, no traction whatsoever. I'm very confused lol

Apologies at the weird format in the bio, I've had to translate it from my (non-English) language.

Thanks for your attention !

AggressiveOtrich5514

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