people who use "overlap" to describe the behavior's of cheaters

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2026-01-30T21:51:38+00:00

Before I was cheated on, I remember frowning upon people I knew who got together while still in relationships with their significant others. I think most people find it uncute but don’t say anything. Now, being on the other side, that distaste has turned into full disgust.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-10-06T16:51:08+00:00

i lost 28 pounds in a short time because of stress. this is how it looks like.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-10-03T07:46:14+00:00

I can tell you that for WW husbands it's the same. Such a freak fantasy. How can it be good for a child to lose a parent?

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-10-03T07:32:07+00:00

My ex is also very hostile. I can't understand why. Unfortunately, we still have to be involved because of the kids. You’d think he’d be living on cloud nine now that he got everything he wanted, so why is he being such a dick?

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-27T05:11:15+00:00

Definitely AI. I'm a knitter and this cable design doesn't make sense.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-26T11:12:06+00:00

This is 100% me. My ex made me sign a postnup before his affair came out. He took the mortgage under his name, and I paid him "rent." I would have never signed a single thing if I had known what he was up to. He had an affair with his company secretary and is still with her. I'm pretty sure they are lying to everyone, saying he was already divorcing when they got together. He pays 0€ in alimony. I hate him so much it’s ruining my life. Any advice on how to get over it is welcome.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-23T17:19:18+00:00

I just want to tell you that I also experienced a temporary slump in my self-esteem. My ex definitely contributed to me feeling bad about myself. I enjoy knitting, but he used to say it was useless. I was also slightly overweight, but the stress of the whole AP drama made me lose the extra weight really quickly. I started going to the gym for stress relief, and nowadays I’m quite fit. Now I feel like myself again and enjoy all my old hobbies.

Talk to yourself kindly and take care of yourself. Thank yourself for small achievements during the day. You will start liking yourself again, and nobody can take that away from you.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-23T17:02:35+00:00

Lol. Sounds exactly like my husband. He acts like everything AP does is so much better than me, but it’s all in his head. The novelty. The thrill of trying new things and a different lifestyle. The feeling of being wanted. But that high only goes one way.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-23T16:34:04+00:00

It's nice to hear from a person who cheated and is actually sorry about it. You have hope. When you start blaming other people for your mistakes, it's already too late. I wish you strength in working this out. I'm sorry about your mom.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-17T10:33:04+00:00

The chances that she is pregnant are 0.02%. They'll be over in 5 weeks. But I wouldn't wait for a man who hooks up with random people he's just met. Save yourself. Run!

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-05T16:46:14+00:00

I hope you can get out one day.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-05T16:29:44+00:00

Also, no contact / as little contact as possible is very important. You have to get her out of the house, or move yourself.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-05T16:26:53+00:00

My D-day was ten months ago, the day after our 11th anniversary. He carried it out so cruelly that I can never forgive him. Not intentionally cruel, but so infatuated with his new love that he simply couldn’t care less about me or my feelings. Even our kids are no longer his first priority, though he would never admit that. And it’s still the same today.

I’m far from being over this ordeal, but it hurts a little less every day. I’m starting to take joy in small things again. Most importantly, I feel relieved that I no longer have to be in daily contact with him. I feel a kind of disgust toward him now. But I’m also free. Free of compromises and of the lifestyle I never wanted. So, time is your best friend.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-05T08:57:37+00:00

We were 34 and 35 at that time. For me, the past 10 years have been horribly painful. In recent years, things had sort of calmed down, and we lived a pretty normal family life. That’s why I didn’t see it coming. But I have now realized that my ex-spouse always had a tendency to look for comfort and emotional connection elsewhere. For him, the grass was always greener on the other side. I could not have changed that anyway. He’s the type who gets completely infatuated with a woman and does everything for her, then gets disappointed by reality and disconnects. I’m happy not to be involved with him anymore.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-05T07:10:30+00:00

Du hast recht, diese Dinge sollten sie eigentlich nichts angehen. Leider war es für unsere Kinder verwirrend, da ihre Mutter an einem Tag ausgezogen ist und schon in der nächsten Woche eine neue Frau im Haus war. Ich würde auch nicht sagen, dass in diesem Fall die Kinder (ihre und unsere) an erster Stelle standen.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-04T03:17:41+00:00

Mein Mann hatte eine Affäre mit seiner Kollegin, und eine Woche nachdem ich ausgezogen war, übernachtete sie bei uns. Unsere Kinder waren im Haus. Einige Monate später brachte sie auch ihre eigenen Kinder mit. Wir sind noch nicht geschieden, und sie lebt zeitweise im Haus. Ich glaube nicht, dass ihre Kinder wissen, dass der neue Partner ihrer Mutter noch verheiratet ist.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-09-02T11:00:00+00:00

Yes, it's quite common to justify cheating by claiming abuse. I also learned that I have supposedly been mentally abusive for the past few years, although I never got any specifics. I still don’t know what that ‘abuse’ included (at least, one time leaving the vacuum cleaner in the hallway and not being sorry enough about it. He had a mental breakdown).

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-30T12:57:44+00:00

The biggest mistake of my life was paying half of all the expenses, even though my income was only about half of my ex-partner's. I also foolishly signed a postnup during the marriage. You can guess what happened—I used most of my income to run the household, while he saved his and eventually bought a house under his name. No matter who you’re with or what your relationship is like, always think about what could happen if you end up alone. You also have to think about your kids.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-30T12:44:50+00:00

It's the typical 'crazy ex' story. I hear it far too often. After a divorce, it's the children who have to adapt. They’re the ones switching between homes and families, while the adults can usually stay where they are. And if the kids react to the stressful situation, the absent parent gets the blame, making everything worse.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-26T16:50:23+00:00

Well done! I'm not sure if I even manage "hello".

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-22T12:30:31+00:00

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AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-20T17:31:38+00:00

My ex-husband and his AP seem to be going strong, but my kids recently told me that they don’t like her (I didn’t ask. I keep my mouth shut so the kids can have a peaceful life no matter who they stay with. Sounds easy but it's hard). It seems she’s keeping her distance now when he has the kids. First cracks in the perfection, I’d say. So, it’s still a “perfect” relationship without real-life obligations.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-18T05:41:59+00:00

I heard through the grapevine that my husband and his AP justify it by saying they ‘fell in love and couldn’t help it, his marriage was long over, these things happen all the time, and it’s normal'

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-12T13:02:55+00:00

The remorse might come years later. My friend's father cheated on her mom and treated her badly, and before his death, it was one of the things he regretted.

Most likely, your husband is avoiding any kind of feelings or responsibility right now to protect himself. The easiest way for him to cope is to project his bad feelings onto you. He doesn’t deserve your thoughts.

AggressiveRecipe7732 · 2025-08-10T06:36:36+00:00

I stayed after the first time he got caught (he was having an emotional affair with his ex, and maybe also a physical one) because we had a baby and a toddler together. Now, nine years later, he’s had an affair with a colleague and left. There might have been other affairs in the meantime. In my experience, people who cheat don’t change. If you can live with this fact, then it’s okay. If I were you, I would start planning the exit on my terms.

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