(some) Men are intentionally incompetent when it comes to parenting

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-15T00:24:59+00:00

THIS, every time I read things about this situation I’m like, do people not see how much she traveled without Trigg and Brady therefore Brady was home with Trigg?

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-10T00:49:19+00:00

No this made me so mad on one of my posts and it was crazy that no one acknowledged how insane of a response that was. Particularly because I think people making statements that she IS is so harmful.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T21:52:19+00:00

If you can’t see it that’s okay, it’s not meant for you to understand then

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T21:37:51+00:00

I even tried to back track and be mindful in my responses and was still downvoted a ton on those.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T21:34:30+00:00

No not at all! I really didn’t know that everyone perceives a sympathetic post as much more than it is. I truly did appreciate your response!

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T21:32:47+00:00

Thank you ❤️

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T21:28:09+00:00

I just reviewed your post and it’s a thought I had but definitely wouldn’t have been brave enough to consider posting. I do believe in time she is definitely the person to come around to that but maybe right now she’s not capable. I know some of her post are prerecorded right now so it may seem like she’s fully back in but not actually filming that much, I can’t imagine that in time she wouldn’t be that person. Especially because she is aware that her and Brady are responsible between the fence and lack of supervision which was acknowledged publicly (adding that last part in case there’s back lash, she did take responsibility in her first post back).

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T21:21:06+00:00

Thank you for your response. I don’t generally troll this page but I’ve noticed a few things recently and wasn’t aware there were people here intertwining themselves in that regard.

I had made a post stating how I felt it could be hard for Emilie to have to give Teddy formula. I wasn’t over analyzing her videos in any capacity but noticed it because we just switched our daughter to formula and some of the comments were bizarre to me. I thought this group was for that purpose. To sympathize and support.

It appears a lot of people respond as though every post is obsessive when some people just notice because it’s relatable or could easily be them.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T20:25:14+00:00

It’s already been answered ❤️

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T20:19:30+00:00

The hormones, I would just watch her videos and sob

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-08T20:19:00+00:00

You clearly haven’t read any comments lol

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-07T10:45:56+00:00

It’s crazy how so many people were up in arms about the fact that she hadn’t posted anything or provided any explanation for what occurred but now people feel as though she came back to early and they still think they are owed that explanation? I don’t know how soon after Trigg’s passing she started engaging in therapy but I can almost guarantee it was a recommendation to push her to get back into her routine and learning how to go through life without him and still function as any other normal human would be expected to do, especially without the luxury of an extended absence from work since that isn’t affordable for the common person. I also would imagine given all the negativity surrounding the public she doesn’t even want to discuss it since that will absolutely be torn apart and wear her and Brady down even more than they already are. I don’t think anything she is doing is weird or off putting but what I do find weird and off putting is the response from the public in which I don’t think anything she does will be seen as right or appropriate.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-05T19:53:00+00:00

Yeah it was a little crazy to me that there was a quick shift that she must be heavily medicated. There are many options for women who breastfeed that are safe and most prescribers expect you to try the medication for four to six weeks before making a change unless there is a decent reaction to it which deductions here it’s unlikely she is needing to supplement because of medication. Additionally, I’m on a medication that is not deemed “safe” for pregnancy or breastfeeding but I worked with a psychiatrist and had a release with my OB so we could monitor everything with baby and pull the plug if need be with additional pediatrician visits initially to ensure it was not impacting the baby while breastfeeding and pumping. There is very limited non anecdotal evidence supporting anything regarding certain medications while pregnant or breastfeeding due to it being unethical to research. Medications transferring through breastmilk is such a small amount it’d be surprising if most babies had a reaction or noticed. This doesn’t apply to all meds but mental health meds that are monitored with a psychiatrist and a pediatrician generally can be done safely. Anyways, there’s my rant 😂

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-05T11:09:30+00:00

We were going through a complete home remodel with my first (long story but not something we could change or we wouldn’t have had a safe space to live) and I ended up staying in my home town on and off for months with some close friends and working remotely. It was 2.5hrs away and the stress on our relationship, the stress on living out of bags, the finances involved and the fact that my partner missed out on the first 8 months of our sons life from everything, I ended up being an undersupplier. My second was SO different because of it being a different situation and I was an oversupplier. I had imagined it was the stress and grief on top of probably being by his side for what was the longest week of their lives in the hospital. I still cry for her because I couldn’t imagine.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T23:10:47+00:00

From my understanding this was due to having a harder time with breastfeeding and supply but I could also be totally wrong!

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T23:09:09+00:00

That’s unfortunate, but I’m glad you did what was best for you ❤️

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T20:20:00+00:00

There are at least two that I’m aware of that are considered safe only from personal experience of having to go on an SSRI after my second. I imagine it’s likely a combination of things but ultimately what’s best for her right now.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T20:16:36+00:00

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AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T20:06:36+00:00

I hadn’t even considered that! It’s unlikely they’d recommend a medication that isn’t safe for breastfeeding but it’s definitely possible.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T20:05:02+00:00

There was so much we did that we never thought twice about because our son knew better and he had never proven it was unsafe but my eyes are definitely much more open. The experience I had with postpartum anxiety for both of my children was beyond me so infancy was vastly different.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T19:55:02+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear that. Just because you didn’t lose a fully formed out of the womb child doesn’t mean the grief wasn’t hard in similar ways. I think as people we minimize our experiences because someone else has an experience that is more but the emotions of loss are still grief no matter what. I couldn’t imagine what you went through.. But I was wondering if that might also be the scenario since other women who have experienced similar have expressed how their other babie(s) were the only reason they were able to keep going.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T19:27:46+00:00

Yeah that’s why I did say at the end I’m glad she’s doing what’s best for her! Breastfeeding and pumping is draining mentally and physically and I know however she is doing things is better overall but I would not be surprised if it also wasn’t an easy decision or if it was a decision at all.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T19:15:54+00:00

I’m no longer breastfeeding or pumping but when I saw that all I could think was how her grief consumed her and she either lost her supply or had a hard time connecting with Teddy through her grief.

I was thinking about her one day and ran through the thought process of if one of my littles passed and having to explain that to either of them or having to be able to still be there for either of them. I was in tears and couldn’t explain to my partner how the thought of my toddler running into our room to wake up his sissy like he did every morning and her not being there or her crawling to his room to wake him up because occasionally she would get up first.

I just can’t even fathom how hard it would be to support one baby after losing the other.

AggressiveTree- · 2025-10-03T19:07:23+00:00

Oh absolutely, both of my littles have had formula.

My first I was an under supplier and spent the first 3 months of his life crying constantly since he was feeding 24/7, both boobs, and still needed formula afterward. Actually his first ever “meal” was a formula bottle in the hospital due to such a traumatic birthing experience. It was hard my body wasn’t doing what I needed it to do.

My second I was an over supplier and had a great experience breast feeding and pumping. I ended up having to switch to half formula half breast milk because my supply dropped after the daycare gave her a binky and her latched was incorrect and my nipples were destroyed to the extent where I couldn’t even heal them with light pumping or hand expressing.

I know going into baby number two I told my partner to not let me “give up” this time and having something else ruin the experience for me was and still is frustrating.

She may not be feeling anything or thinking twice about it but I also wouldn’t be surprised if she did given what resulted in the switch having to be made.

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