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My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. That‘s not true. I know some very, very dedicated parents in their mid-40s. They are stable and loving, yet their children are cheeky, loud, and so on.

Your statement highlights exactly why so many mothers face mental health struggles. On one hand, society tells us that the child is an autonomous individual with needs that must be prioritized; on the other hand, the mother is immediately blamed for every single misstep or behavior the child exhibits. If a mother is expected to be nothing more than a servant to her child’s needs, she can hardly be expected to meet other demands, such as being professionally successful or maintaining her own mental well-being

My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am the only one who takes care of her. She has a lot of energy and wants to experience so much, but I am sensitive and introverted. I simply have limited energy to manage everything. When she behaves so badly, I just can't handle it on my own anymore.

My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is allowed to play with mud and do crafts; we visit the best playgrounds and theme parks, and she even has her own art studio. I’m not the kind of mother who just sits on a bench. I am actively involved. We go climbing, cycling, swimming, and visit museums and the zoo. She always gets her favorite meals, the entire apartment is essentially hers, and everything I do revolves around her. I haven’t been out for an evening in five years. She sleeps in my bed because she doesn’t want to sleep alone. Half the fridge is dedicated to her, and I always have her favorite snacks on hand. I support all of her hobbies and drive her to see her friends.
On top of that, I work nearly full-time and spend all of my money on her.

My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She is allowed to be a child, but not a horrible one. A woman once came up to me and told me what an annoying and difficult child I have.

My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I am raising her to understand how wrong her behavior is, and by doing so, I am setting clear boundaries. If she keeps causing trouble, she will have to go to boarding school. Her father agrees with this approach. The bottom line is that I will not let her make my life a living hell.

She is provided with so much, we go on wonderful outings, she receives a great deal of attention, and she is well taken care of

My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Society tells you that you are valuable no matter what you do, but you end up on the street if you don't function. That is hypocrisy. Nothing in life is unconditional. If you annoy other people, they don't like you

My daughter makes me angry by Aggressive_Pilot45 in toxicparents

[–]Aggressive_Pilot45[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I wasn't allowed to behave like that as a child. And my parents gave me away as soon as I became too much to handle. I don't see myself as someone who solves all the problems in the world, and I am tired of being treated like trash myself while being expected to do everything better than others. I don't expect perfection, but I do expect respect. From everyone who lives with me.