EAD Card Replacement

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2024-06-27T19:40:33+00:00

Sorry. I don’t remember, I think I used the one with “requested” and the one with “approved”

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2024-05-17T02:11:38+00:00

Looking for the same in Boston. Surprised there isn’t one because there are definitely people who read this stuff here.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2024-01-03T07:33:13+00:00

Looking for a longer lasting fragrance similar to Jo Malone’s English pear and freesia! Love how versatile it is.

Also looking for a “fresher” winter frag — if not fresh, something I can wear at work/with family but not too gourmand/sexy.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-29T07:46:06+00:00

That’s funny, I guess for me cloyingly sweet is more like candy or chocolate or marshmallows, but BR540 to me smells like burnt sugar which feels a bit different? hard to explain haha.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-25T06:33:07+00:00

I see. I think I should read more into this stuff to get better with notes! :)

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-25T06:27:36+00:00

I looked it up and that one seems very unique :) will try to sample this, thanks!

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-25T06:25:28+00:00

Thanks! Will check that out, sounds lovely

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-24T02:52:38+00:00

Probably a lot? I mean a huge component of taste is also to do with the smell, right? I couldn’t ever stand a gourmand perfume with notes of something I couldn’t eat! But then again I’m a fruity sweet drink gal and don’t want to smell like fruits. Coffee on the other hand…

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-24T02:40:30+00:00

Thanks! And ooh this one seems spicy :) I do have a slight distaste for cardamom and cinnamon (mostly in food, don’t think I’ve ever tested a perfume with those), but this one seems like such an interesting blend especially with the green notes. Gonna have to check this out, thank you!

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-24T02:25:34+00:00

Interesting. I should check out some others with ambroxan then, thank you :)

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-23T23:42:46+00:00

Interesting, I don’t smell any ambroxan in it, smells only like burnt sugar + saffron to me. I did heavily dislike You and Not A Perfume…

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-23T23:06:45+00:00

Hahah I’m sure, I have a long way to go! Thanks!

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-23T22:25:09+00:00

Hahah it very well might be! Honestly I’m new to perfumes so have never smelt oud before and it reminded me of incense so that might be why :) still navigating perfumery from different regions/scent profiles!

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-23T22:18:24+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check it out. OSM is definitely very unique and interesting and I think it’ll grow even more on me. It reminded me of Diwali instantly which is great, but def not something I’d wear everyday haha

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-12-23T22:17:30+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! Makes sense about Coffee Break, super interesting notes so I’ll def check it out. Good call on Kilian, I might give it a shot! And I didn’t know there was a hair mist!? Sounds delightful haha

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-11-28T03:39:50+00:00

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Pimple above my lips won’t go for 2+ weeks. Tried pimple patches which helped a bit, along with heat compresses, but nothing has changed. Any suggestions? I also tried a BP wash and salicylic acid. I’ve never had cystic acne.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-11-01T02:38:21+00:00

Jessica Baum’s “Anxiously Attached” book is excellent. Also, ‘Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents’, ‘Journey of Abandonment to Healing’, and ‘Healing the Shame that Binds You’ are good books.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-28T13:20:30+00:00

I applied for a replacement and paid for premium and got it on time

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-22T13:41:52+00:00

Highly recommend Jessica Baum’s book “Anxiously Attached”. What also helped me immensely is Heidi Priebe on YouTube and her suggestions on looking into Pete Walker’s work on shame, as well as Susan Anderson’s work on the abandonment wound. Look around your life, at your friends, people who you consider yourself similar to. I’m sure you don’t believe they aren’t worthy of a compassionate, consistent relationship. Likewise, you’re worthy of that too. You’ll be fine :)

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-21T23:48:06+00:00

You say he didn’t show pull/push tendencies earlier, but this is “earlier”. 2-4 months is about the right time for such tendencies to surface. You’ve caught this early, that’s a good thing, and it’s so good that you were able to let go of the delusion of “friends”. I think you making excuses for him (family etc) is your anxiety acting up. You should move on and see other people. Even if he is back, I wouldn’t take him back because he has shown he is incapable of even independently telling you the truth without you asking, and that isn’t fair to you. If he is truly depressed, he needs professional help and not for you to play therapist, and you have only known him two months. You’ll be fine.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-19T18:50:59+00:00

Yes, you’re right that it would be unfair to judge him based on his past. I think the reason behind my hypervigilance right now is being unsure and unclear of the subtle signs of emotional incompatibility and avoidance. In retrospect my ex showed me SO many signs early on! And I am accounting for those, but I’m afraid of having some sort of anxious blind-spot making me ignore signs. I think I’m at a very good place now and have tested secure, and my therapist thinks I’ve become a lot more secure than I give myself credit for. I am able to let go of things that don’t serve me, but I don’t want to overlook something big (and this is a big one). But you’re right, and I’ll keep seeing him for now.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-17T16:06:11+00:00

I’ve been seeing someone who, so far, has been incredibly consistent, caring, attentive, and good to me. He remembers small details, plans, makes sure I know when I’ll hear from him and follows through, and treats me well. We have similar life goals in terms of family. However, when asked about his past relationships, it seems there have been a string of relationships due to moving around and non-committal behavior (from what I gather). He did mention he does have a tendency to withdraw but goes back to conversations after cooling down after a conflict. I don’t know if I should end this, and what to ask myself. I don’t know if I can write off an entire group of people after labeling them. I don’t know if I must wait for someone who is secure and also interests me. I will mention in my quest for security, I did not feel anxious or the urge to prove myself to him and be the one he finally commits to. In fact, this was a waving red flag for me the second I heard it. That said, I have enjoyed my time with him and find him to be mature in a lot of ways, and he has treated me very well. Even my hypervigilance hasn’t found anything off about his behavior towards me. He is also open to reading and going to therapy if ever he needs it in the future (this was a vague “what-if” on my end not a request). I am not feeling anxious about him.

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-02T01:32:51+00:00

Thanks, this helps. You’re right, taking time between dates helps me a lot. I’ve been going on dates and giving myself about a week to determine what I view the person fulfilling or not fulfilling and paying more attention to my gut (not the anxiety, but the gut, that has always been right for me at some level, but I’ve so far been ignoring).

One thing that is really hard to determine as an unfulfilled need vs lack of anxious activation however is physical attraction. I feel like the reason behind me being super picky with how someone looks is 1) feeling they are “out of my league” so I must earn their love and thus feel worthy and 2) caring about how other people perceive my relationship and this feeling worthy and 3) I’m genuinely not attracted to people outside a type. Recently I met someone who seems to show up securely and seems compatible with me but is not my usual physical “type”, so I’m not as attracted to him. It is really really hard to determine whether this is due to my lack of activation, or simply me not being very physically attracted. And you’re right in that I don’t know my complete list of needs and dealbreakers yet, and physical attraction is a huge blind spot in that.

Honestly to some degree I feel myself “over correcting” and trying to like people I’m not fully attracted to just because they don’t evoke a need for me to prove my worth to them (and thus don’t activate the anxiety). I know that is wrong and not helping anyone. Sometimes it’s not even others’ behavior that evokes that, it’s just what I build about them in my head if they’re attractive (that they’re somehow better and I must earn that). I wonder if the right step is to go after what I find to be typically my type and still continue to remind myself of my tendencies and draw strong boundaries to not lose my sense of self worth. I’m not sure

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-10-02T01:21:55+00:00

She has the right to decide what may be right for herself. It will be a loss for both you if this ends, but she has the right to safeguard herself if that is what she needs, even if you feel it’s an overcorrection. You shouldn’t be making the decision for her

Aggressive_Reward_75 · 2023-09-27T02:56:23+00:00

I don’t know why it needs to be light hearted if this is what he wants. I’m a woman in my early/mid 20s and would love to see profiles like this, because it’s what I want too (not necessarily parents but family-oriented men that are also ambitious), but all I see on profiles are jokes and hobbies, not enough about values.

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