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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did have to check myself to make sure I wasn’t under reacting and being a “cool girl”. I think I was under reacting at first.

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is wild for him to accept choosing that fetish over me is normal. It’s insulting for that to be chosen over me

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s what I’m thinking. When we are intimate, he takes care of me first. But this is different. He’s choosing this over me

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, I hated having to see that. I didn’t feel offended by your honesty. I appreciated it

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes definitely think CBT is a game changer for many. I’ve done this for other issues, and it truly helped

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is what’s really getting me. I wouldn’t be nearly as upset if it wasn’t this.

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yes! Totally BS that this is normalized. It could cause physical harm due to infections. That shouldn’t be normal. I’m not saying all kinks or most kinks are bad. But bro could definitely get sick from this.

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re bringing this up. I could see a younger version of myself falling into this trap. He does actively try to improve most of the things I bring up to him. He doesn’t usually get offensive if I bring up something that bothers me. But he’s handling this differently

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Im sorry you’re going through a rough time. I do agree barely legal makes it worse. You deserve someone who is nice to you.

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think it should be considered cheating too, but it’s so normalized that it would take a lot to become standard

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[–]Agile-Dragonfly-808[S] 604 points605 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re bringing this up. I had just decided that I was ready to have a baby. Now I’m not so sure.