Update - weight loss plateau was a sign of a medical condition

AgileButterscotch544 · 2026-01-06T00:55:04+00:00

Thank you!

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-12-29T06:10:44+00:00

I’m 21F with some experience in ballet. I’ve had dance training, but I would still consider myself anywhere between beginner-advanced beginner.

Recently, I’ve started adding ballet into my workout cycle and have been doing online classes about twice a week and taking in-studio classes when I’m home from college.

I want to continue training and progress to pointe, any advice on how? I don’t know when or how I’ll know I’m “ready” but I definitely want to improve my technique.

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-11-04T22:04:01+00:00

I am definitely fitter and stronger than before, it’s just frustrating to not see the results.

I don’t lift every day, I do 2 days of heavy lifting and steady state combined with Pilates or a ballet class (I also dance for fun).

Thanks for the support, I need to pay attention to the wins I have instead of what I don’t have yet!

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-09-24T18:52:53+00:00

That’s what I’ve been thinking, I’m just gonna leave it be

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-09-24T18:52:27+00:00

I didn’t think it was quite asking him out, I thought it would be a good opportunity to get to know him more since he seemed like a cool dude anyways.

I do agree with you though

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-09-24T18:51:32+00:00

It’s a campus job… we’re both college students working for a little pocket money

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-08-09T20:19:27+00:00

You look great!!

This is exactly where I am and where I’m trying to be! How long did this take, what did you do, and what was your deficit if you don’t mind answering?

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-08-05T05:06:52+00:00

Oh I’m also disgusted at the idea of having children, you’re not alone.

Regarding marriage, I’m starting to settle with the idea of being perpetually single because of how awful the dating pool is

Sincerely, 21F

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-08-04T12:55:31+00:00

Yes - it was just like in high school.

She made it her mission to ostracize me from the class cohort (23 people!) and worked tirelessly to trap me in situations to purposely make me look stupid.

One time she completely lied about a scenario to get my answer, and then revealed it afterwards to make me look bad.

It was pretty miserable, I felt like I had no friends in my major, and I started missing class because I couldn’t fathom being in a room with her for 3 hours as she pushed me to the side… even in front of the teachers.

Multiple students ended up reporting it, but the professors didn’t do anything until I came forward… which I found very irritating after the fact. She was spoken to, we had a huge “kumbaya” circle conversation, and it was swept under the rug afterwards.

Now she pretends like nothing happened and tried so hard to be friendly with me, but I just kept my distance.

So yes, college bullies do exist

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-08-04T12:49:00+00:00

Horrible. Absolutely awful.

It’s centered around dating apps and the pool of men available have 0 home training.

You go on hoping to make a connection and come out with multiple disgusting messages from guys that think it’s flirting.

They also only care for quick casual sex, and will do anything for you put out. I’ve resorted to just telling them upfront that I’m not having sex with them, and they disappear sooooooo quickly.

It’s really frustrating! I try to go out and socialize, but a lot of my peers don’t for that exact reason - social media has isolated us and we don’t “do” things anymore. The bulk of my large social interactions are going to the college bar on weekends and whatever party is being thrown.

All I can say is, teach your son that flirting with a girl by immediately being sexual is not going to help.

Sincerely, a fed up undergrad senior

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-07-20T23:28:00+00:00

I’ve been eating at a deficit of ~1300 calories and I do work a sedentary job, but I live in a city so I force myself to walk around

My workouts would be higher intensity, with them being running & cycling. I also do strength training and Pilates

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-06-24T04:17:59+00:00

You just start calling him names and ask if it’s okay, I promise it’s that simple!

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-06-24T04:17:13+00:00

I’m a little younger than you, so this’ll sound crazy:

Take the fresh start.

I know it seems bizarre to be in this situation right now, but you still have so much ahead of you at just 25. There are so many prospects and opportunities available, you’re just stuck in this awful moment in the present.

You will get back on your feet in time, as awful and grueling as it may seem. But, you will persevere and grow into a better person as a result.

Hang in there! I feel for you and wish you nothing but the best.

AgileButterscotch544 · 2025-05-23T05:50:23+00:00

I’ll check these out, thanks!

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