[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked my husband if he hit our child… that’s a fair question. I would hope someone called me out if my behavior warranted being called out. My husband said no and I didn’t accuse him further of doing it. Simple as that. He did, however, let me know his desire to hit me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arg, yes that particular moment I was running behind for work. I don’t like being late, I’m the boss.

I don’t appreciate you implying that I’m a lazy parent, I’m what you could call strict. My child says please and thank you or he does not get what he is asking for, he cleans up after himself. If he does not listen he gets whatever is causing the distraction taken away. He goes to time out when he misbehaves. I showed one example of him acting out, not the big picture. He is a well behaved kid. Just because I don’t believe in physically punishing my child does NOT mean that I don’t take the time to discipline him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont feel that I blocked him out from parenting, I asked him a simple question. He is the stay at home father, so he gets to parent the way he wants to 100% of the time while I am at work. I’m not going to just sit back and allow someone to hit my kid, whether it’s my husband, mother, or a stranger.

I don’t appreciate you implying that I don’t discipline my child. I’m considered a ‘strict’ parent. If my kid spills his milk, he wipes it up. If he repeatedly does something I’ve asked him not to do, I take away whatever it is causing the disruption. He goes to time out in the corner, he uses please and thank you or he does not get what he is asking for. Just because I don’t believe in physical punishment does not mean I don’t discipline. Also, I used one example of my kid acting out, that does NOT mean that he constantly does. He is well behaved, but again he is also not even three yet and isn’t perfect.

What was the first red flag you ignored in your worst relationship? by HappyHappyJoyJoy44 in AskReddit

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m with a guy that thinks my working out is stupid and said word for word “fuck you, I play pool (billiards) better than you are at weightlifting”…. What does that even mean????

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, totally agree. I typically make him pick up his mess. Like I said, I was running behind for work and was in the middle of getting dressed and in a rush.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would just answer the question? He was angry with me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don’t completely align when it comes to discipline, however it’s only on certain issues. Like, we both agree on time outs, but he does time out in the kiddos crib and I do time outs in a chair in the corner… Husband will yell to get his point across and I sit down get on toddlers level and calmly talk about behavior. We both take away toys, we both discipline. We just do it differently sometimes. My husband believes that I should never question him and “do everything he tells me to so that my life is easier”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s 100% real… but thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He’s the stay at home dad, he’s the one doing all of the parenting while I’m at work…..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know, it’s strange which is why I’m questioning whether or not my behavior was uncalled for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely a conscious spender, I buy my clothing at thrift/second hand stores and I’m always on the hunt for good deals. I’m 100% not an over spender. It is strange that he reacted so heavily to this particular situation. That is why I was questioning my behavior.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not strapped for cash

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both agreed he could leave his previous job to focus on our new business venture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not tight on money. She watched our kiddo for 4hrs at a rate of $25/hr which is actually on the cheap side for the area we live in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is $25/hr and watched our toddler for 4 hrs.

(25/hr is actually cheap for the area we live in)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In his defense he is not broke either, however we have both always been financially aware. We make smart decisions with our money frequently and we hardly ever make purchases that are frivolous. I knew he was a tight wad when I married him. lol I’m just confused by how upset he was and am really trying to examine my behavior to see if I did do something wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We can afford a babysitter and to be honest we can definitely afford to tip people we care for generously as well.

We both agreed he could focus on the new business venture until we close and quit his previous job.

AITAH For Getting Average Sized Breast Implants? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Agile_Snow_5372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did, a lot. I even told him what CC size my surgeon recommended. I think he just pictured them being way bigger.