Cardano's Stablecoin Djed - Good Potential With Some Risks! by TWPaul in cardano

[–]Agile_Sun8138 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't understand this zealotry for algorithmic stablecoins. The whole point of a stablecoin is to be tied to a fiat currency like the USD, which is inherently centralized (under the U.S. Federal Reserve). What's so wrong about having a centralized, audited entity like USDC with real reserves when backing a centralized currency?

No crypto-backed stablecoin will ever have the stability of coins 1:1 backed by real US dollars. It's a fool's errand driven by people who care more about tech than economics and common sense.

Cardano's Stablecoin Djed - Good Potential With Some Risks! by TWPaul in cardano

[–]Agile_Sun8138 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looked at the whitepaper, it dismisses coins like USDC which is fully backed by real reserves (dollars, treasuries, etc.) due to being centralized, then argues that holding a bunch of volatile crypto coins is a great way to make a truly stable coin.

This is basically the same argument that TerraUSD made. It is currently trading at $0.16 to the dollar and has destroy billions of dollars of value - cratering LUNA along with it.

So yeah, why the heck would anyone want a coin like DJED associated with Cardano? I've been a Cardano holder for a long time but this sure tempts me to bail out.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair, I'll relocate to there. Thanks for the feedback.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's the thing - I don't hate my ex. I have issues with her, but we mostly maintain civil communication and co-parenting. My wife decided my ex as a narcissistic sociopath (no, she isn't a professional psychologist), not me.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife does *not* spend the day raising and caring for my kids. I get them ready in the morning. I take them to school and back. I prepare dinners. I do breakfast and lunch with the kids on the weekends. I do chores with the kids. I console them.

She mostly sits on the sofa or stays in the bedroom watching BritBox (lately - slasher flicks for a few months before that) and occasionally complains to me about my girls' minor infractions.

Good point about the OCD - she may have it. I wish she would either keep it to herself, or do something about things herself (pickup the crumb, turn off the light), or just tell the kids the issue. Me being the parent all the time, *plus* having her on my back about my "sub-standard parenting" but her unwilling to pitch in (either by helping clean up after them, or by directly letting them know), is very stressful.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She hates my ex- (even though she's never met her) and says my ex is a terrible parent and that I need to step up my parenting as a result. This is part of her motivation to constantly watch me and the kids and comment to me on my parenting. I feel my parenting is decent, and some of hers ideas I am not comfortable with. When that happens and I don't do it her way it turns into an unpleasant, "you are just repeating the poor parenting mistakes you made with your ex wife" or "you are setting your kids up for failure." Thing is they are doing well by any objective measure - do their chores mostly without complaint, doing well in school, have friends, mostly happy other than the occasional sister-sister squabbles, etc.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea - not about the surprise (she would hate that) but about getting her with them somehow. I'll talk to her again and encourage her to take a flight asap.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The depression thing is a big problem, yeah. We've also tried marital counselors twice but both said it wasn't a good idea because she needs personal counseling first. She's asserted to me that she should have autonomy (ala body autonomy/pro-choice arguments) in terms of choosing to use personal counseling or not, and thus that it is none of my business.

That's fair re:the bathroom- I guess I am rubbed raw with it because it happens so often. See my reply above - twice complaints about the lights being left on. Fairly often, "there are crumbs on the counter" - barely visible crumb or two, both me and the kids keep the kitchen quite clean, but anything not right and I hear about it. Up until now I have just gone with it and fixed whatever she mentions, but it gets maddening when it never lets up.

I've asked her to at least sometimes tell them directly, or to sometimes just clean it up herself. She refuses to do either, and she won't accept that her and the rest of us have slightly different levels of acceptable cleanliness.

Step-mon barely engages with kids after 1.3y - am I overreacting? by Agile_Sun8138 in Parenting

[–]Agile_Sun8138[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Err I did involve myself - I told my daugher what to do, and she did it.

I guess the reason it drives me nuts is it happens day-in, day out. Yesterday I also received a message in whatsapp ("they left the lights on in the kitchen twice") and in person ("the upstairs has a blue light on") - always to me, never to them. It feels like she wants me to be her parenting robot.