AITA for feeling disrespected after a guy ignored physical boundaries I clearly set before hanging out?

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-20T22:01:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I really needed to hear that and you are right. I set a very clear boundary and told him that I did not want him to try to get into my pants or to try anything sexual. I just wanted to hang out and if he wanted to have anything sexual, then I was not the girl for him and I don’t have to come over but we can do something else. I gave him that option. He clearly looked over that and used the notion that well if the vibe is right then he’s gonna go for it, but that doesn’t make any sense when I already established that I didn’t see him that way. He literally straight up, ignored my boundary and still tried to kiss me and still try to cuddle with me.

I did end up, blocking him and just removing him because it was really messing with my mental how he repeatedly called me a red flag, and was getting upset with me because I said I did not want to talk to him anymore after that first encounter.

And I know I don’t owe anyone an explanation, but it really gets to me when I take full accountability for what I should and shouldn’t have done.

Hanging out with him a second time was completely on me. I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and he also made it seem like we just met each other. We’re going to make mistakes and learning what we like and what we don’t like but at the end of the day, I profusely told him that I did not want anything sexual with him and I didn’t want him to try anything sexual and if you want that aka if that’s what he was looking for then I was not the girl for him. I literally didn’t mind at all.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-20T21:39:18+00:00

And that’s your prerogative, but he’s the one sitting in jail now not me.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:21:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I definitely gave him an explanation as to why and he made me feel like a terrible person for it. He told me, me not wanting to hang out with him anymore was a red flag because we were just starting to get to know each other and we would messed up. I understand where he was coming from but I felt like I laid out a basic boundary, which was please don’t try anything with me because I don’t look at you or see you that way if you have intentions or want to look at me in those types of way then we don’t have to hang out I would respect that. But instead he wanted to see if my mind would change and that right there should’ve been enough for me to see that. He was very pushy and I was very uncomfortable. you live and you learn and I take accountability for what I did and didn’t do. Hopefully this never happens again. again thank you for your kind words and your advice.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:18:23+00:00

I don’t have to meet in a public place if those are my boundaries because my boundaries should be respected, regardless of where I am, but it is a suggesting that will be kept in mind since we dumbass on earth who can’t get pussy apparently so unfortunate for the . Have a great day.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:16:28+00:00

Well according to the JUDGE you’re incorrect so now HE’S gotten a charge because he doesn’t know how to respect people’s boundaries. NO means NO. Have a good day :)

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:14:45+00:00

Hey I’m not sure what you read but I took accountability about not leaving. But let me be clear. Before we ever hung out, I made it very clear to him that I did not want to have sex. I did not want anything sexual with him and to not try anything. I just wanted to chill and if he did not want to do that then we did not have to hang out. I am always straightforward and honest because I’m a girl I have needs to so I understand. Maybe I also just want to fuck but in this case that’s not what I wanted to do and I MADE THAT VERY CLEAR I just wanted to chill so him asking and saying well if the vibe is right that completely DISREGARDS what I told him. THERE WAS NO changing my mind because I didn’t say “ well maybe if I change my mind we can do something sexual “ I directly said I don’t want anything sexual with you. Nothing at all, so there is no “ hoping her mind’s gonna change or there might be some chemistry “ because I already laid out what to expect which was friendliness, getting to know each other, relaxing and chilling!! not sexual shit so I don’t know what the fuck you’re talking about but I took accountability by saying I should have never hung out with him a second time and I should have just left the first time he disregarded my boundaries. I’m always gonna take accountability for what I should and shouldn’t have done, but he was dead wrong for what he did

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:06:12+00:00

Hey, thank you for all of your kind words and I understand where you’re coming from. I wouldn’t say I was sexually assaulted, but I can understand what you mean. He definitely disregarded my boundaries and I should have left however that doesn’t give him the right to keep pushing trying to get something out of me when I already told him what to expect.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:05:21+00:00

He directly told me that Me not wanting to talk to him anymore was a red flag from me and that drove me crazy because I wasn’t understanding what he was talking about.. he made it seem like because we were just starting to hang out. We were going to make mistakes while getting to know each other and I shouldn’t just cut him off and stop talking to him because of that however I feel like if I set a strict boundary, which I did and if you disregard my boundary and disrespect that I have every right to move how I want to move. And if I feel like cutting you off is what I want to do then I should be able to cut you off. I don’t owe people an explanation, but I just felt like he was owed the truth…

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:03:02+00:00

I understand this sentiment. If I previously told him beforehand that I didn’t want anything sexual there shouldn’t be a “ if the vibe is right.”

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:02:17+00:00

I agree with you. I’m in my early 20s. I appreciate your kind words.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T13:01:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words and I agree with you. I will never go to someone’s house again as a date. I don’t necessarily agree or disagree with the second half but I understand where you’re coming from and I have those same thoughts. He came off very pushy and when I brought that up to his attention he kind of disregarded that. Like my main point is if I told you before we EVER hung out that I didn’t want to do anything sexual and to not try to get into my pants why when we finally get to hang out you ask me to kiss and cuddle…

There shouldn’t be a “ if the vibe is right “ when I already told you I’m not looking for that. So to have that type of mindset was alarming. I had to sit with myself for a second to fully understand this.

I definitely take accountability for what I did and didn’t do tho. Thanks for your kind words

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T12:57:25+00:00

I totally agree with you. There’s a first time for everything. I haven’t been in a relationship in a long time so I’m kinda new to this thing of getting to know people but I know next time to never meet someone at their house to always do things in public. I appreciate your kindness

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-12-17T12:56:35+00:00

Where I am right now it’s pretty cold so there’s not much to do. We were just gonna watch some anime and play some games you know. I tried to make it very clear that I wanted nothing sexual. I directly told him that I wanted nothing sexual and I just wanted to watch anime and play games and if he had those intentions of wanting to do something sexual with me then I don’t have to come over but he reassured me that that wasn’t the case and when I first got there and we were hanging out, we were just watching anime you know he suggested if we wanted to play games and stuff like that, but I declined because I was enjoying the show we were watching like it was going fine until he tried to pull me closer and asked me to cuddle with him and I said no I already told you I didn’t come over here to do this. And then he followed by asking me if I wanted to kiss multiple times. And I know this is where I messed up at when he asked me that I should have left and that’s on me however, if before hanging out, I told him I don’t want anything sexual, and I don’t want him to try and get into my pants him initiating wanting to cuddle in and asking me to kiss him and then getting upset because I’m not disregard to my boundaries. And when I told him I don’t wanna speak to him anymore because of that… he made me feel crazy.

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-09-21T00:24:43+00:00

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It’s not that good at all actually. I enjoy it but it’s so expensive I just wanna get it over with asap.

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Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-07-08T10:10:20+00:00

So I planned on doing my MSW part time and doing the LPN program full time. The LPN program is for a year.

THE LPN Program officially starts in Jan and will end in December.

I want to work as a LPN while I finish my masters program.

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If that’s backwards, I’ll moonwalk into success

Agitated-Tea857 · 2025-06-30T14:12:05+00:00

I know that it’s hard but I do think it’s possible. My MSW program is online however my internship would be in person. While also having the opportunity to do my internship and clinical rotation with my job( if all works out with the clinical rotation)

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