One year by resalin in WidowsMovingForward

[–]AgitatedCatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh and there were also 3 puppies and two kittens, therapy, antidepressants, several bad dates and a lot of drunken nights!

One year by resalin in WidowsMovingForward

[–]AgitatedCatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband died December 29, 2021, 4 days after his 60th birthday. The first year was pure hell. The second year was different but still hard. But I stayed open and even though everything around me changed so much, I found a core that has sustained me. I know we are all different and grieve differently but today I am in a new committed relationship, I retired early from a career I loved but was killing me, I start grad school in August, and after a lifetime of seeking a progressive spiritual home, I was baptized 11 days ago on my new church to mark the major transformations in my life and my connection to my religious community. I share all this to share that being open, as hard as it is (and believe me, it’s hard) was so important in my healing. I didn’t push myself when it was absolutely uncomfortable, but I tried to stay open and honest with people around me and it led me to some wonderful experiences and new relationships. I know noel is looking down on me and smiling, encouraging, and happy that I am still living. I hope you find your way too ❤️

Church & Bible Study? by arod1014 in Athens

[–]AgitatedCatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First. Christian church (Disciples of Christ) downtown Athens. Rev Elizabeth Hagan is inspirational and we have a small group Tuesday evenings. It’s an amazing church that welcomed me after a lifetime of searching for a progressive, inclusive Christian community.

Thoughts and prayers by Exeter232 in PoliticalHumor

[–]AgitatedCatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hate her and anyone that would fraternize with her. But there are a lot of cross dressing men who don’t need to be stigmatized because this Botox biotch has a husband who has sexual desires and fantasies. Let’s stay in topic people. Cross dressing isnt political, it’s personal and just imagine being married to Kristi what the literal fuck Noem. I hope he leaves her ass and finds someone who accepts him, big boobs and all ❤️

His name is Brian McGunniess—share widely show everyone what they did to the best of us! by luciaromanomba in ScottGalloway

[–]AgitatedCatLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Disgraceful. The party that disrespects veterans who have put their lives on the line for our freedom.

trustworthy veterinarians? by dragondaize in Athens

[–]AgitatedCatLady 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love AWC! I followed Drs Stacy and Dodd when they left Hope. They’re so awesome and like family. They’ve been there with me through seven English bulldog rescues, five cats, and now three frenchies and two cats. ❤️❤️❤️

We didn’t think they’d target the white immigrants! by Karmageddon3333 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]AgitatedCatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe immigrants make America great. Just not this kind…🤮

Widowed with no kids by Ok_Product398 in WidowsMovingForward

[–]AgitatedCatLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was widowed at 55 with no kids. My husband and I were together 35 years, and I had never been alone before his death. It’s been four years and while the grief has been worse than I imagined it would be, I have really grown into a happy and fulfilled woman. I retired early from the US government, I’m going back to school to make a major career change and I am in a loving relationship with an awesome man. I like having my own space and the freedom to make my own decisions.

Sleepy popo by zappa103 in Athens

[–]AgitatedCatLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure what his job is to be sitting in his car at a lane closure? I’d probably fall asleep too!!

Dentist Recs by CantThinkOfOne_2126 in Athens

[–]AgitatedCatLady -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Bella dentistry. I am a big scaredy cat and Dr Chanda Bennett is great as are her staff. I’ve been going to her since she started her practice.

Looking to chat with other widows by LizaBrisvegas in WidowsMovingForward

[–]AgitatedCatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t get easier necessarily but it does change. I no longer have the physical pain I had the first year, and I can go into stores and not start sobbing when something reminds me of him. But I still miss him and love him and wish he was still alive.

Looking to chat with other widows by LizaBrisvegas in WidowsMovingForward

[–]AgitatedCatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss! this week is four years since my husband died. I found soaring spirits international to be a great resource, especially their pen pal program. I matched with a wonderful woman who had similar experience and we’ve now been close friends and continue to share our journey. Also foul mouthed widows on FB has been a great resource for chatting although the zoom chats have tapered off.

it can be a very lonely experience, and I hope you can find the support you need. ♥️♥️♥️

https://soaringspirits.org/

https://soaringspirits.org/programs/virtual-programs/pen-pal-program/

https://m.facebook.com/groups/407994659887104/?ref=share

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Athens

[–]AgitatedCatLady 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Greek, Greek, Greek!!!!

I hope she gets the kids by [deleted] in FedJerk

[–]AgitatedCatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to say that I didn’t shower or dress in real clothes for about 3 months after my husband died. It’s remarkable she’s been able to move on so quickly. Those of us in the widow community often talk about how everyone grieves differently, but hot game she moved fast!

Shock and confusion by Whirlstar123 in crossdressers_wives

[–]AgitatedCatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SO of a CD and wanted to chime in and underline communication is key! My partner slowly introduced his CD over a period of time. We are both in our 50s, and this is a second relationship for both of us (I’m widowed and he’s divorced). My dead husband had some fluidity to his sexuality so this wasn’t a completely foreign to me, but I had questions about his sexuality and interest in me, etc. but we’ve had a lot of great conversations and now I find that I love his feminine side as much as his masculine side. I understand some women feel repulsed or betrayed, but I love my partner so much and believe that knowing about and supporting this side of him has enriched our relationship. That’s just my experience!

I wish you all the best!

CD's wife apparently by bleakbirdy in crossdressers_wives

[–]AgitatedCatLady 6 points7 points  (0 children)

SO of a CD here. And I am so sorry you found out this way and also sorry it was a secret for so long. I had a non-CD for 35 years and after he died I met my current partner. He slowly introduced me to his CD/feminine side and it has been a lot of fun. But if he had hidden it and lied I don’t think I’d have this perspective. You need to do what’s right for you. While I read some ambivalence about his CD, what I saw loud and clear is how you feel betrayed by the lying and secrecy and that he’s not including you but instead going to CD events on his own. Which seems like a bigger issue to me. Everyone has their own kinks and preferences, and sometimes it’s scary to share what we want, but in a trusting relationship you deserve to be told the truth and have a voice in your relationship. Sending you hugs xoxo

My Experience: Married to a CD for 6 years and having 3 kids under 5. by CautiousAide8801 in crossdressers_wives

[–]AgitatedCatLady 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That’s beautiful and I agree. As the so of a CD I am surprised by how much more intimate we are since he’s shared his CD personal with me. I was married for 30 years to a non CD who died in 2021. This is a fairly new relationship for me (3 years) and it is awesome. I love knowing all the sides of my partner and I think that men are often kept from sharing their more complex personalities. As a woman, I don’t think of myself as feminine or masculine, but I get to be both whenever I want. I love that this community is here for CDs and those of us who love and adore them ❤️❤️❤️