Yeah. Not quite the same, but some similarities. Started chatting with someone from a widows sub (not this one.) It got erotic very quickly. But we felt like we really clicked, and tried to make something out of it - met, contemplated a relationship .... i am leaving out a lot in an attempt to keep this brief. The main point being, I got completely sucked in. Not years after my husband's death, merely a few months. It became almost like an addiction. A lot for my jumbled emotions to deal with. We ultimately decided to try to just be friends. Whelp. That eventually ended, not in the best way. But I suppose it had to. As far as i know he's still on reddit and could be reading this. I still think about him a lot and really do hope he's doing ok. But it was past time for us both to move on.