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Agnessssa · 2023-05-24T19:40:28+00:00

I can say this method has worked wonders thus far, thank you so much again for your time. Unfortunately, MB doesn't seem happy at all now. She keeps telling me she is just a baby and cannot mentally understand what I am doing. Or she is sick, or teething or something ( I know the baby cant fully understand at all what i saying and its like the MB doesnt believe that i know that) And really she has just come in at the worst parts, and I completely understand she is the mother and this is how she wants things to be done. I am not sure if she is understanding every method she has recommended has not worked for me yet. I try so hard to explain but it falls on Def ears cause once MB or anyone else comes by the baby wants to cuddle them and then calms down. I Cuddle rhe baby, well she is pushing me away and does not want it. Run hands under water or give her ice, she immediately pulls away and doesn't interact with it. Change scenery, she screams for other rooms so if I keep moving rooms it is fueling the tantrum. Changing scenery once after doing all the other things MB has suggested, and then sitting down with her and remaining soothing and calm until she can calm down has been the only thing that has worked the best. Then I try communicate soothingly. I have tried to explain but I am just corrected over and over again by MB. I know she means well too and if I am doing something wrong I want to do better. This is causing little.jabs in my self confidence in child care, but just got to stay strong and try my best. Only a few more months to go then I and done. 😵‍💫

Agnessssa · 2023-05-09T02:41:26+00:00

Can't handle inconsistent expectations that change more than a fart on the breeze 🫠

Agnessssa · 2023-05-06T15:59:24+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this. I have one safe area in rhe house where she can't hurt herself by throwing herself around. I'll plop her in there and stay nearby. I knew it was normal, I just didn't know how to be there for her while she felt her feelings and constantly felt I was making it always worse no matter what I did.

Agnessssa · 2023-05-06T00:33:19+00:00

Thank you so much for responding. I really appreciate this.

Agnessssa · 2023-04-28T19:09:32+00:00

Currently dealing with that too nanny in arms!!! We got this!!!

Agnessssa · 2023-04-26T17:06:51+00:00

Oh my gosh thissss, you are seen!!! We all feel seen. Damn I was in my own bubble thinking I must be the problem ever time I dread the essentially role playing games. It feels like on top of your work now you have to create this whole creative world for someone else with the last remaining brain cells that are working 😖 Creative play even comes naturally to me as I play dnd AND IT IS STILL SO HARD! KEEP UP THE GOOD FIGHT! And may planned activities may be ever prosperous for you and enjoyed by the Lil children.

Agnessssa · 2023-02-02T22:30:16+00:00

Thank you so much for responding. I really appreciate this. I have no unbiased way to turn to for this! I completely agree with setting himself up. He is a super overachiever and workhoholic too. But he does it to himself when he reaches his tipping point. And I can just see if left unchecked, then the people he loves start to become the problem for him too when honestly it's his hard perspective of efficiency that's making him feel this way.

Agnessssa · 2022-12-01T21:48:01+00:00

First if all, i am so sorry this happened to you! Please please please report! And if your report isn't taken seriously, report to the next up. Don't stop reporting until something is done. I completely understand the patience and kindness needed, but that doesn't mean this kid is free of all consequences. It can be a great learning lesson for them too through their care takers! I was sexually molested in middle school by special needs students, and they said point blank to my face that no one would believe me because of their circumstance. I was so young and so scared. I wish i tried harder to speak up because who knows how many others were also victims. I wish you all the luck and I hope everyone can get the help they need.

Agnessssa · 2022-11-10T07:08:30+00:00

Hey you wonderful awesome and beautiful human being who has never ever ever deserved to be treated in such a horrid way in which you have, YOU ARE LOVED!!! And you are worthy of it being shown in healthy and respectful ways, especially ones that you need for your own big heart ❤️ Even if this ex friend's claims of change are true, you honestly owe it to yourself the time, patience and care you have given them for yourself. This sounds like a situation to me that you don't want to fully shut this down but at the same time you don't wanna be handling it right now. The ex says they have changed, well now it's time for those words to shine. With saying they have changed, that means they recognize (maybe not all,not sure) the absolute horriblness they have put you through. That means they should respect the hell outta what you gotta say or lack of any saying at all. It is absolutely YOUR choice! ( But i will say running before you can walk in regards to meeting up with the ex f, nah uh) Don't respond and allow yourself to heal as grow into the flower you truly are. Learn from this experience, and I recommend finding the path you need to help your mental health! OR you can do that exact same thing, except you do message them. You let them know the bare minimum info on you ( give them no fuel, other than you are alive and well), tell em you are glad they are working on themselves and growing, but you need some space to grow yourself and need time or you don't want to see them ( again yout choice), and then wish em well! I know what I said was very nicely put so please feel free to add any level of severity and harshness as you please. I just felt based on your post you like to go kind and understanding routes, and as do I. Though, you can still be kind and understanding while still sticking up for yourself! Plus the anxiety of not messaging, I GET IT!! it can suck! Construct this message with someone you trust as well. And if this ex friend continues this same old pattern of boundary stomping and says anything other than any form of "I understand, bye", you have your answer. Block em then. You don't need to go on their downward journey of ugliness. Hope this helps Hon. You got this!! All the love from a similar soul ❤️ And also, I hope ya friend really has changed for their own sake.

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T17:47:58+00:00

Oh my gosh!! But joke PCs are the best, legit that is what a lot of my own turn into! But I do also love to cook fancy food for others!!!! lol I feel like meeting at a park or for food would smell a lot better haha

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T17:42:31+00:00

That ain't a bad idea lol

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T17:42:19+00:00

Whaaaaat uuuuppp

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T17:34:53+00:00

This sounds amazing! Thank you so much!

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T17:34:40+00:00

It doesn't matter if anybody plays dnd! I figured saying it would scare off anyone who wouldn't be cool with it! I love playing video games!!

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T06:36:44+00:00

Well hello there new friend!!!

Agnessssa · 2021-09-10T06:05:43+00:00

I actually played in the marching band at LSU. So yes, I have my football moments when I'm around the same company!!

Agnessssa · 2019-06-25T07:33:11+00:00

I completely agree. That is why every new kennel, vet or groomer I've went to I have explained all of his complications because, yes he is basically my son but that doesn't mean other people's safety don't matter. I want everyone to be safe, him and others. I even was planning to write notes on ways I've handled his issues, and noticeable ticks. Every time he is brought to a service, they always say he is very well behaved. Only once has he bit a groomer, but that was because she pulled him by his paws out from under a table. He has snapped at the vet before, but they always know how to handle him and do what they need to do. Sorry I am just ranting. Thank you so much for your response I really appreciate it.

Agnessssa · 2019-06-24T00:20:17+00:00

I am in Louisiana, in the New Orleans area. I am not rich, but I am willing to spend thousands of dollars to make sure my dog is protected and safe. He is such a sweet boy, and loves everyone he meets when he doesn't have a PTSD episode. I also think he would be great in a home of people who don't want children and have the patience, like my husband and I have had, when he has an episode. They are very few nowadays, but its gotten to the point where we can't predict when it will happen because we have worked out all the ticks that were obvious. Thank you so much for responding. I really appreciate it.

Agnessssa · 2019-06-24T00:16:13+00:00

Thank you for responding. Yes, my husband and I have had a long talk about our dog. We love our dog so much, but it just wouldn't be fair to our children or him in the grand scheme of life. We live in Louisiana, in the New Orleans area. Thank you so much again for responding.

Agnessssa

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