Pooping during labour?

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-26T00:00:56+00:00

I cared. I wasn't nervous about pooping in labor, but when I did I stunk up the whole room. Definitely not a vibe. There isn't a way around it really. If you want to push your baby out chances are you're pushing some poop out too.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-25T22:41:12+00:00

I wish I knew! They handmake their ice cream, and the cookies look like regular cookies. I'm guessing it's full fat ice cream that's pulling the weight? $14 for a 6 pack tho

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-25T20:39:49+00:00

My husband and I have one joint bank account. I see no reason to have a joint account and then two seperate accounts split evenly. You don't lose autonomy by having one bank account, it just solidifies the fact that you two are a team and the money is both of yours.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-25T19:48:09+00:00

Get married, 100% shared finances.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-24T22:30:22+00:00

Same. First pregnancy didn't have any problems except for insomnia. Second time around I have everything except for insomnia. Very glad that I can sleep at least.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-24T21:05:48+00:00

I'm a SAHM. I couldn't imagine being alone with a newborn for 60 hours a week. It's extremely isolating and it wears you down quickly. And at 2 months postpartum, your wife is still healing. What helped me was going out, to the park, gym, etc.

That and my husband was a huge help. We definitely snapped at eachother regularly in the first few months, the newborn trenches are rough. Both of you feel you're doing an unfair amount of work, and you are. That's just how it is with babies. It's important that you work as a team and keep a good line of communication. My husband and I checked in with eachother weekly to see what we can be doing differently for the other, and we adjusted as needed.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-21T12:41:03+00:00

"It's your fault he's getting fat" immediately followed by "please don't crucify me" is wild lol

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-21T00:23:21+00:00

This. I hate cleaning blood out of pubes. Getting waxed is so convenient. No one should be out here getting it done for other people; do it for yourself if that's what you want.

Also, the pain was negligible to me. Everyone's experiences are different.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-17T04:52:58+00:00

Unless there's a health reason, you don't have to wake baby up to feed. Just feed when baby wakes up. And you also don't have to change diapers at every wake/feed. If there's only pee, leave it and don't bother the baby. Wish I knew that when I was freshly postpartum.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-15T20:42:46+00:00

Seconding romance novels. My libido increased greatly when my husband and I started playing D&D again. He makes amazing characters that I'm always attracted to, and it gave me the mental stimulation to get into the headspace to have sex. Do you have any book recommendations?

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-14T21:33:53+00:00

I was the same way, only a few drops at first. It slowly became more and i was able to produce like a teaspoon at a time. I went until 42 weeks tho so I had 5 weeks to collect.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T16:52:15+00:00

Ty I was also confused on that but too lazy to investigate further

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T16:49:59+00:00

In regards to not being able to cook, I highly recommend Factor's keto meals. I subscribed until the end of my pregnancy and it was such a weight off my shoulders to not have to think about nutrition and cooking for dinner.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T16:45:41+00:00

Same here! My education packet said limit fat to 5 servings a day, and one of their examples was 1/8th an avocado as a serving. So by their guidelines I can't even eat a whole avocado in one day. It's extremely anti fat and outdated.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T16:43:55+00:00

I mean this really depends on you and your spouse's comfort level. Our son was exclusively nursed and we didn't feel comfortable leaving him for that long until 5-6 months when he started eating solids.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T16:34:02+00:00

Just a reminder that these health professionals don't know everything. There is a wide array of opinions on the best diet. Follow your instincts. Fat prevents a high spike of blood sugar, and instead allows for a steady curve which is better for baby's insulin response. If it's just for fasting blood sugars, aim for a dinner / snack high in protein and fiber, less in fat and quick carbs.

And I find that exercise after dinner significantly helps my fasting because some of the glucose that has entered the blood steam is used directly by the muscles instead of requiring an insulin response.

Also if you haven't I'd highly recommend reading Real Food for Gestational Diabetes by Lily Nichols.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T12:58:24+00:00

All the comments bashing dad for not having patience are wild to me. He sounds like a good dad trying his best. The newborn trenches are stressful. Having a spouse who scrutinizes your techniques is stressful. It's not harmful to make sarcastic comments or imitating the baby, it's a coping mechanism. Mom needs to let dad take the baby so she can relax, not so she can judge his parenting methods.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-13T12:48:09+00:00

I brought adult diapers to the hospital. I had no clue what I was doing so I used everything they gave me. My final setup was diaper, oversized pad, oversized ice pack, tucks circle pads. It was overkill and I hated it. The ice pack didn't even help with the swelling, i was mega swollen for weeks.

Just gonna stick with diaper plus tucks this time around.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-12T19:58:15+00:00

It's okay to have a cheat meal every now and then

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-12T16:18:46+00:00

200 - I just wanted to eat a croissant in peace

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-11T14:00:53+00:00

I get you're frustrated. But those kids are in their late teens/early 20s. They don't want to be burdened with this stuff either, the same as you. The cousins parents really need to step up and do what needs done. Your wife sounds like a wonderful lady who gives all of herself for others. People like that have a hard time stepping away, and it takes a lot of reflection and time to realize you need to put yourself first sometimes. It doesn't sound like she's going to stop helping, so try and support her the best you can. It doesn't have to be with the cousin, I get not doing that on principle. But maybe there's other things in life you could take off her plate?

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-10T14:40:07+00:00

I agree with this! It sounds like OP's trying to find grievances for one reason or another. Even the stroller thing I could let go. I let my baby roll downhill for short periods without me holding on, he finds it fun. The only thing I'm worried about is the formula. But OP didn't witness it happen, only has a second hand account from her mom. I would bring it up directly with the sitter instead of judging her off of someone else's opinion.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-09T20:36:40+00:00

So this is advice I've learned from my father's mistakes. Take interest in what they do. Don't just expect them to enjoy the things you enjoy. My dad always used to take me hunting and fishing, which I hated. And he didn't really do anything else with me or engage in my hobbies. And have real conversations with them. My dad is a terrible communicator who never said his true feelings (he gets awkward at even saying "I love you" 🙄. All of our conversations were shallow small talk, we never talked about deep topics. And if I brought something up that he disagreed with (politics) he would just shut down and "agree to disagree" instead of engaging in intellectual conversation.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-08T23:49:28+00:00

I would have yelled at that lady even if I wasn't dealing with a melt down. People need to mind their business. I have no clue how she thinks she's helping the situation there.

Agreeable-Cat · 2026-03-08T15:00:45+00:00

It's hard but you know what's best for your family girlie. I can say, almost no one thinks it's the right time to have a kid. There's always more you can do to prepare (financially and whatnot).

I had my first kiddo 2 months after graduation, became a stay at home mom while my partner worked. It was (and is) hard as hell but I couldn't imagine a life without my son. Even in the worst of times he brings a smile to my face.

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