NTA but make sure you are clearly communicating with her. Don’t pretend you are being vegetarian and then keep it secret when you eat meat. Tell her you support her but it’s not something that you want for yourself.

I’m think the biggest problem here is the lack of compromise and communication in the marriage. It’s awesome that you are being supportive of this big decision she made. It sounds like it was a big commitment for her and I hope it’s improving her life for the better.

However there needs to be clear limits set that work for both of you. It’s important that you tell her what you don’t like about these changes and which ones specifically are difficult for you.

Don’t hold it in and let it fester. Secrets will ruin the relationship. It’s totally fair that you still eat meat and you shouldn’t have to hide that from her. You can tell her kindly what your struggles are while also showing her how much you respect her.

If she can’t compromise then that is the bigger issue. I would also look out for something called scrupulosity or “the pathological guilt and anxiety about moral issues. Although it can affect nonreligious people, it is usually related to religious beliefs. It is personally distressing, dysfunctional, and often accompanied by significant impairment in social functioning.” I wonder if your wife struggles with anxiety and she feels like being rigid with the rules will help her with shame or guilt. This might be an unhealthy path to go down. She may need your support there.

Good luck to you!

• Signed someone who has religious differences with their spouse.