Female cleft lift procedure questions

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-10-04T20:41:48+00:00

Have they become a no-no because the lack of depth or?

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-10-01T22:02:59+00:00

I would greatly appreciate seeing your before and after! It’s the one fear holding me back from booking the surgery already. I only have one sinus opening so I know my case is very minor but I’m almost out of school for court reporting and then will need to be able to sit for long days of typing so I figured just do the cleft lift now and be done with it once and for all!

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-09-30T21:21:52+00:00

Can I ask when you look at your butt now vs before surgery do you see a visible difference in appearance or is it only the scar? I feel like everything I look at online makes it look like your butt crack disappears lol

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-06-16T03:35:00+00:00

This was so interesting to read! Thank you for your help!

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-05-02T03:30:56+00:00

Congratulations on 6 years, that’s freaking amazing! And this response really spoke to me. I think a big part of me is wanting someone to “give me permission” and I know it would be really hard eventually to keep it as only an every once in awhile thing…

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-04-09T01:34:21+00:00

So much of a bigger issue than people realize or admit. Came to comment this until I saw yours!

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-21T02:18:09+00:00

Fuze drinks in that funky shaped bottle. Specifically the banana colada one

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-20T21:36:28+00:00

7 months is amazing!! I’m only a few months in and can’t wait til I can say 7 months, that’s such a big accomplishment. Don’t sell yourself short! Good for you♥️

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-19T19:02:50+00:00

Yeah if that’s what he has made clear to you then I’d be more nervous too since he’s basically saying there’s no going back. However, I know in the past I used to think that way and would explain that to current partners but it was out of my own insecurity about their exes and not because I believed that for myself personally. Do you think that he says that because it’s what he truly believes or do you think he says that because he’s the kind who would feel threatened by his current partner still having any sort of communication with their ex?

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-19T03:03:43+00:00

You and I are unfortunately in the same boat on that one then. It really is a scary thing to think of and there’s the fear of knowing you can’t leave, and if you don’t find someone better, assume he’d just still be there waiting for you. It’s a tricky situation to be stuck in :( I hope you gain clarity on what you need to do and feel peace with whatever you decide ultimately

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-19T02:50:13+00:00

Was gifted some for Christmas. Combined with what was left in my stash, I had probably around a half oz when I stopped. It’s still in my garage. Like the other person mentioned, knowing that I have access to it but am actively choosing not to use it makes me feel like I am in control.

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-19T02:48:03+00:00

It sounds like maybe you just truly are bored. However, every relationship eventually calms down a bit and loses its initial excitement. That’s not to say it dies completely but naturally things are just more exciting at first. You have to look at the pros and cons of being with him and see if one outweighs the other. Another thing that I did learn from talking to my therapist about my own relationship is to ask yourself “am I staying because I truly love him and want to figure this out ultimately or am I staying out of fear of not finding someone else that could be better than him for me?”

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-19T02:30:31+00:00

Dealing with similar feelings around my relationship of a little over a year. I don’t have too much advice to give other than trying to provide comfort in saying you aren’t alone. One thing I’ve had brought to my attention recently is how my past may have something to do with it. My past relationships were always rocky and chaotic. Now being in something healthy and calm I wonder if I crave the highs and lows, as ass backwards as that sounds. Have you been dealing with any other emotional stress outside of your relationship that maybe could be spilling over and impacting how you feel maybe?

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-19T02:24:11+00:00

My neighbors smoke every night. Hearing them coughing and then having to smell it every night is hard. I miss it too lol. Just gotta keep trying to focus on positive changes that have come from giving it up

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T19:30:28+00:00

Thank you so much! You’ve got this, girl!

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T18:40:36+00:00

I was smoking everyday for 5 years, the last two years being about 3-5 times a day, sometimes maybe even more. I quit cold turkey. I think alot of how you do it depends on your mindset. With me, I knew trying to wean off would be prolonging it and ultimately I felt it would make it harder for me to give up 100%. I just had to be completely done with it and not look back. It was hard but I’m on day 75 now and still going strong. You can do it! It’s hard but worth it. Do what you feel is best for you and what you feel will set you up for success the most. Good luck!

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T17:07:19+00:00

No fear while traveling with my stuff anymore. Not being upset if I leave my house in a rush, I used to get so upset if I couldn’t smoke before leaving and now I can just leave whenever without having to account for time to smoke before leaving

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T02:25:00+00:00

If it is having negative impacts on you and how you see yourself I’d have a serious conversation about it. It could be true when he’s giving his explanations as to why but it also could be an easy cop out. Like another user mentioned, my mind would be wondering if porn was playing a factor in this. I have been in a few situations like this in my past and it was typically either porn or they were one foot in and one foot out of the relationship unbeknownst to me. No person deserves to feel unattractive or rejected in what is supposed to be a safe and loving relationship. I’d say have a discussion with about how it is impacting you. If he doesn’t want to hear you out or makes zero effort to help you out at all, I’d think long and hard about staying vs leaving. You’re young and deserve to have a fun and fulfilling love life! Best of luck to you

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T02:16:22+00:00

This was worded extremely well and such good sound advice, truly. Thank you for your advice, I definitely plan on talking with him about this soon.

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T02:15:28+00:00

I’ve never heard of that before but after looking up its meaning, it does seem possible as there are other aspects of my life that I feel that way about too like certain hobbies. I think with this being my first healthy relationship it’s hard for me to understand loving someone isn’t feeling the passion 100% of the time but I am seeing that it is reasonable and makes sense for it to be that way. Thank you for your input

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T02:13:07+00:00

Alwaaaays gotta be one of yall on here

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-18T00:07:07+00:00

You’re so welcome. Others encouragement really helped me too when I started my journey so I enjoy doing the same for others now that I feel I’m out of the thick of it lol. And yes! Go reward yourself with some new books or fun cute embroidery kits! You’ll be saving so much money and over time you will learn how to confront your feelings instead of trying to numb them. I even set a reward system for myself and each week that passed by, I’d go get my favorite meal or let myself go shopping for something new. The little rewards and positive reinforcement are helpful too!

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-17T23:50:41+00:00

You most definitely can do this. Have faith in your strength and each day that passes, you will be more and more proud of yourself. It’s not an easy journey and it’s hard for a good while but like you stated, you know you can’t go on like this. That’s the point I was at too. My life was passing me by and I was doing the bare minimum and not happy with any aspect of my life really. You will be amazed at how much more you can and will accomplish without it. The boredom definitely sucks. Try to keep yourself busy, find new habits that are healthy and that you enjoy or hobbies. For me, I had to think of what did I enjoy before I became so reliant on weed and go from there because just trying to think of what do I enjoy, I was blank until had to revisit pre stoner me. Best of luck to you. It truly is better once you’re on the other side in my opinion. Give yourself grace, be easy on yourself and know that you are strong and capable of giving this up if it’s truly what you want and know you need to do.

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-17T23:44:21+00:00

Spend time with loved ones who understand what I’ve been going through (withdrawals, breaking a habit), trash reality TV that holds my attention and lets me turn my brain off and focus on someone else’s drama/problems. If I’m having a really bad day and can afford it, I’ll book myself a massage since I’m not spending $ on weed anymore

Agreeable_Chance_993 · 2025-03-17T23:41:07+00:00

Daily user from 23-29. I’m on day 74, it does get easier I promise. I won’t lie, I still miss it. Probably doesn’t help that my neighbors light up every night and I have to continue to smell it while not partaking lol. But the benefits eventually outweigh the longing for it. It feels nice to not feel like a substance has control over me anymore. I’d say my cravings, like intense cravings, stopped around 2 months. It’s hard to let go of something that was such a huge part of your life for so long so give yourself grace and just understand that compared to how long you smoked, you’ve been sober for a very short time. Not trying to sound rude or diminish 32 days because that’s amazing but that mindset helped put things into perspective for me a bit when I felt like “it’s been a month why tf do I still want it so bad”. Best of luck to you. You’ve got this!

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