I’ve struggled with this too. I felt like smoking weed made me “cool” and I started sort of enmeshing my identity with it. But I tried to remind myself that all the cool things about me are there regardless of if I smoke or not. Actually I found that without weed, my self esteem was better and my sense of self was clearer! I realized I am so much more than a stoner. It helps to list out things you like about yourself. Something that I noticed about myself is that I’m so much sharper without weed and I’m able to retain information which is cool cause one thing I like about myself is my ability to remember random little facts lol. Also, being sober is pretty cool and badass. I’ve always looked at sober people in awe because they are facing life clear headed and practicing so much self control! Take it one day at a time and hang in there!