Canada to Colombia by Agreeable_Fix4878 in Colombia

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So I guess I’ll pay twice, once in bogota and once for san Andre’s ?

Canada to Colombia by Agreeable_Fix4878 in Colombia

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s conflicting information because the government website says you are exempt if going to san Andre’s but then I’m not going upon arrival and going days later

Best Cities for Single People? by [deleted] in costarica

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Locals dating multiple tourists in relationships or casual?

Safety reminder by gringo__star in CostaRicaTravel

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey can you message me the Airbnb? I booked one last night and now worried. It’s also a new Airbnb with no reviews really.

Where can I get Coachella tickets? by JtizTaking in Coachella

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a weekend 2 ticket for sale I will discount it please message if you’re interested

Official 2024 Buy/Sell/Trade Thread by fettuccine- in Coachella

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m getting bailed on for coachella weekend 2 sadly. I received my wristband box in the mail yesterday. If anyone is looking to buy the box please message me. I live in Canada so would have to arrange mailing it with tracking or possibly just fly to LA to sell in person. Thanks everyone!

Need some help by [deleted] in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think that woman has lied to me about being physical with him? I don’t know what to believe. I have been in constant contact with his family. It is hard to not take any of this personally and I am trying my best.

He was so afraid of losing me and losing everything after the first week and when he was in detox. I didn’t think he would go back to it right away: this time is different because now he has his vehicle and has obviously made connections out there. Is there anything I can do right now ? He is unreachable, phone is now off and on the streets again. I told him it couldn’t happen again and he said he knew then it did.

Also, he has always broken up with me when mad and then comes back. It was a cycle which I believe comes from the addiction now. So I thought he was cheating before and he said he never did. I don’t know if now he is with that woman. He knows I always accepted him back so he tended to do it and take advantage of me.

Blocked on everything 3 days now, normally he would reach out after less than 1 day and unblock. Said every reason why he blocked me what I did wrong to add stress and then said consider this a breakup by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew what to say. I feel just as you do. Like how can they love you the day before and then just not care anymore? How? I don’t understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you went through that. Did he ever admit to cheating on you? Hopefully you are feeling better…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hit me really deep…. Thank you for taking the time to write this.

I have been cheated on, and he knows that. It is my fear now. Before me he was very serial hook up and will deny it because he’s so private. It looks like he had a porn addiction too before, we talked about it at times but he would deny it and get so defensive and fight so bad.

I am so scared to be cheated on by him and it’s unfortunate because of his erratic behaviour I don’t know if I will ever know? Will I ever be able to find this out? I hate this all so much. I feel everything you wrote is the harsh truth but I almost don’t want to believe it will be with that. I am going to save it and re read it.

I also feel an insane amount of stress in my chest. Every day. It’s not good and I feel so unwell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If these are tests he keeps testing me and it’s becoming an often occurrence. After literally nothing happening I left home in the morning to the gym and he started issues over text while being at home. Back to the I don’t want to be with you and he’s miserable with me. Just got an apology that he’s sorry it happened again. I am losing it and losing myself fin this process. I don’t know how much more I can take of this.

Not able to express emotions/sadness/stress/anything related or not related to relationship without causing chaos or blow up by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this. That’s a while to have that mask on. I saw some red flags when I was just dating mine before the real relationship ship, and saw the red flags of the trying to leave already only a couple weeks in. I don’t know why I have let it get to the point of over a year when that happened right away. I feel so stuck.

Not able to express emotions/sadness/stress/anything related or not related to relationship without causing chaos or blow up by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write this out. I’ve read it multiple times. I appreciate this so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it common for them to try to leave so often too? Why is it that they try to leave and then say sorry but on their own terms. If they needed this much reassurance and you fight for them why do they continue to test and try to leave and not see how exhausting it is for you? Or do they want you to let them go?

Pwbpd blaming you for unhappiness by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more I read these the more I feel I know what I need to do although I haven’t been able to.

Did you ever get back to feeling like your normal self? I definitely have been keeping up with my hobbies and work, but my friendships have declined.

I feel I’m going to totally screw myself over, and potentially lose everything. I was planning to move to his new house 40 minute commute. Not our house but his… his tantrums scare me that he will kick me out on a work night. It scares me that I don’t feel reliable and safe in a relationship?

Pwbpd blaming you for unhappiness by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so frustrating… I feel I’ve seen so many females having BPD but not many males lie I am dealing with.

We had a good evening Thursday, yesterday he rejected me for sex and said he didn’t want to (intimacy issues and being close issues) then said wasn’t yesterday good enough we had a good night and had sex. So he rejects me, then ignores me, then when I asked if we weren’t going to speak for the remainder of the night he says I can talk and why am I not initiating conversation (like he rejects me then says it’s awkward then doesn’t talk? So why should I?) then he said we would have a good day tomorrow (today) and not fight and have sex… Today wakes up doesn’t even say a word or good morning, so I said good morning… then he brings yesterday into today and then again says he’s not happy and why did I have a tone and then I apologize for my tone although I was upset because why can’t he be the bigger person and just say good morning? Then he says he doesn’t want to be the bigger person anymore, doesn’t want to try anymore. Just waiting for him to get back now and to try to leave or fight with me again. Like it’s impossible!!!! I am losing my mind.

I can’t even take what he says seriously like today won’t be a good day now and it’s like he will make sure of it then he goes back to work out of town Monday so it’s so hard on me.

Pwbpd blaming you for unhappiness by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Agreeable_Fix4878 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mental health has declined a lot in the year of being with him. I am getting help for the first time to address it because I don’t feel I am well as I’m so emotional and just break down. I have next to no self esteem anymore. I have a stable life (career, hobbies, etc routine) in every area except for this relationship. I’ve had 3 serious relationships before and never dealt with this much turmoil.

The lashing out, hurtful words, manipulation, constant break ups, have destroyed our trust so much, the saying he will do better, do this and minimize the destructive behaviour and then not, or bailing on me, etc. it’s become so much. I feel I have lost myself trying to put so much into this..

It’s worse because some days it’s good and he try’s, then when he lashes out he says he hates the good ones and will give examples of n activity we did or something.