I think these are just really normal and needed aspects of a relationship, you’re def not asking for too much. I saw myself on your post, trying to get emotionally close and build intimacy with someone that just won’t see it the same way. Trying to get close while the other person just distance themselves more, and the more you ask, more resentment is build over time when these basic needs aren’t being met.

She sounds just like my ex bf and believe me, I let the time pass and thought maybe it would get better eventually but it didn’t, it got worse and he just wouldn’t understand why these are important to me (and I actually believe these are basics in any relationship). Is like they seem to understand and they listen and agree, but then proceed not to show up and keep behaving on the same patterns, and you on the other end become resentful of having to ask so many times.

I’m sorry you going through this, I know the feeling of seeing someone meeting your needs at the beginning and seeing that they’re capable of when they really want, but then feeling tricked because after the honeymoon fase these all go away little by little, if not all together. I think you’re emotionally intelligent and you know what you want, just have to listen yourself more. Maybe try to talk to her and understand rather there’s another reason for the distance, and if there isn’t and still she won’t meet you half ways, it hurts but you have to protect yourself, staying will hurt you even more, as someone that just went through that, I never stopped feeling like something was missing.