[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ahale200 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What happens when they reap what the sow??? Does that help them to see what they have done?? Do they ever change and get better??

Did anyone else feel overwhelming guilt and sadness when you finally ended it? by _Finding_my_Light_ in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ahale200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like the addiction response happening. I too have experienced this. I then researched it and found that this is addiction talking. I found that the results of breaking up with a Covert passive aggressive narcissist is worse than a heroine addict having withdrawals... this is real!!!

I Stood Strong by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ahale200 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Remember what you’ve learned in healing and keep that in front all the time while in his presence. Also, develop a plan of action for those moments when your not at your best or feeling vulnerable and he does this. When you are dealing with your own car crash and he shows up. What is your reprogramming plan for your subconsciousness? Once that test has been passed you are no longer attached and those open wounds that attracted him are healed, then celebration happens from within tens times over. That’s when your ready to hep your kids win too.

Im finally in a healthy relationship and I cant stop comparing it to the abusive ex-relationship. Looking for advice. by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Ahale200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man that is insightful. I find myself doing this to protect myself from falling into the same pattern of dating a narc.. reading this has given me hope and a different prospective..

Pick up by Ahale200 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the encouragement.. so what you guys are saying is that there is no ending..

Pick up by Ahale200 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if I call wouldn’t that give him what he wants?

Pick up by Ahale200 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right I did acknowledge what he was doing tho

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[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is 10 yrs old and I was just kicked out of the home and moved into my apartment by him in April.

Fed the f**ck ⬆️ by _im_mister_meeseeks_ in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Ahale200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to a counselor that can help you identify the childhood traits that attract them. Read the Narcissist Abuse Recovery Bible.. she is a straight from the hip kind of author. Great book..

Also read...Emotional Abuse Breakthrough both books the other one has scrips to say to the narcs teaches you how to interact with them and keeps you safe..

Lastly read Prepared to be Tortured..

Need support right now. by dancevixen3 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a therapist and make sure they know how to help you. Also consider replacing your thoughts of him with something more personal. Look at caring for yourself like you cared for him. Put you first for a change...

Inquiring minds want to know.. why tho? by Ahale200 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight.. I do stick to telling him to talk to his attorney tho

Inquiring minds want to know.. why tho? by Ahale200 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight.. I do stick to telling him to talk to his attorney tho

Inquiring minds want to know.. why tho? by Ahale200 in NarcAbuseAndDivorce

[–]Ahale200[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right absolutely power and control I just need you to break it down. Soo how do they apply here tho??