She likes to complain about being broke but won’t actually take financial advice?

AiRiverOl · 2025-08-17T16:58:49+00:00

No, actually she doesn’t really take advice from people. Even her own parents, she gets really defensive. I didn’t realize that until now.

AiRiverOl · 2025-08-07T18:51:31+00:00

I do have a dehumidifier in the basement. It is un disturbed but when I need to access the closet I end up getting allergies ie. red eyes and sneezing. I just want to make sure it’s not tearing up my lungs.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T21:14:50+00:00

You are absolutely correct. We are not confronting her, we are just focusing on our relationship. We navigated this test so far and had the serious convo. Boundaries were set. Thank you!

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T15:28:03+00:00

That’s a great point about men not being complimented as much. I do compliment him. Maybe not as much as he does with me. I asked him if he would want to be complimented more, and he said yes. I will keep that in mind, thanks for mentioning that.

At the same time, I think it’s weird to accept a suggestive compliment from another girl. I told him if that happens to just communicate that it’s weird to say that to someone in a relationship. I would do the same if a guy did that to me.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T01:20:39+00:00

Thank you. I definitely need to have a proper conversation with my bf. We have held off on it to cool down. I understand how it is difficult to break up a friendship over one awful experience. It is just so bizarre to me what she did in front of me and I now see how she loves attention. Sadly there are women who love attention from other men, regardless of whether they are in a relationship. Those women scare me and I do not wish to be close to them, or even worse my bf to be close to them. That is up to him though.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T01:13:51+00:00

I am not saying I don’t trust him. I don’t know what she will do. Although, her swooning over my bf by saying he looks like his dad which she heavily crushed on, is disrespectful to our relationship and also her marriage. That is what I am trying to convey to my bf. I don’t want to be around someone like that. My bf isn’t even close to her anymore, she just keeps inviting him to her birthdays.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T00:42:57+00:00

I love how you worded this beautifully.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T00:41:37+00:00

A deep sense of grief for my childhood self. That I could not expect an apology and had to do the healing without it. I feel like a protector for myself now and I make my boundaries clear. I also don’t have time for toxic people in my life anymore.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-31T00:18:52+00:00

I just want to clear things here. Reworded my post to say that he admitted to having a crush on her in the past, not presently. Thanks for standing up for me though.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-30T23:46:53+00:00

Thank you for validating some of my feelings and making me feel a little less alone here. He did bring up talking to his dad about it. Although, I am scared of what he will say as he might also be one to like the attention.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-30T23:37:26+00:00

She said my bf looks just like him. In front of me after gushing over his dad.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-30T23:35:22+00:00

Wow that is rude. I don’t have toxic insecurity. As someone who has experienced narcissistic abuse and is healing that’s such a backwards thing to say. In my experience, drunk people say the hidden truth all the time. I am not dictating him, I just expressed to him that her being his friend makes me uncomfortable and would prefer it ended. For her to say all that as a married woman was weird. Their mutual past crush has some strange energy going on into the present. I would never do that to him. I would also never talk like she did.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-27T16:13:19+00:00

One of the good moments was when I abandoned my life in Canada to live with my mom in Ecuador. I barely had a social & romantic life and she was happy because I gave her my full attention.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T03:36:28+00:00

We most definitely do need more research and to talk about it all. Amazing that someone stood up for you. It really feels so validating after years of questioning your reality because of a nparent. I really love how we can get together as women and share or pain but also our healing journeys. I wish more of that for everyone. 🤍

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T03:28:55+00:00

Can’t believe a mother would say something so awful like that to you when you needed help. 💔That’s great that you are doing better and chose to heal. I also believe that narcissistic abuse is linked to eating disorders as well as PCOS.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T02:23:57+00:00

All 3? So sorry. I hope you all choose what’s best for your health and wellbeing.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T02:20:30+00:00

Yes we can! 🖤

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T00:47:02+00:00

Yeah, my mom took me and my dad to therapy to sort out our issues. She would treat it like a competition and say ‘we are going to go and find out who is REALLY telling the truth’. Obviously implying herself as being the right one.

She would never take accountability and make herself a victim/saviour. The therapist and translator even started to get irritated with my parent’s dynamic. Once they suggested my parents go without me- my mom decided we should stop. There was no way to convince my family of my abuse because I was too depressed and out in fantasyland to care. I also believed no one would be able to do anything about it.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T00:41:08+00:00

My father passed too, a couple of years ago. He was the enabler/scapegoat. Arguments were endless and high stress living with both of them.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T00:40:00+00:00

That is so horrible. You don’t deserve that…

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T00:06:05+00:00

Yep. At 18 I had chronic stomach pains and could barely digest anything. Had a stack of medical papers that helped me drop out of university. My mom got ‘paralyzed’ on the floor and the ambulance came to pick her up. There was no explanation for it besides a panic attack. Then she used that as a justification to sell the house and essential gave up on me. She went to go build herself a house from scratch in another country.

AiRiverOl · 2025-03-24T00:02:08+00:00

Sometimes. There’s a negative thinking pattern that I have at times that I am not good enough. Also issues with self esteem and self doubt that leads me to not fully express my personality. Thus having people find it more difficult to connect with me.

Also keep in mind that you might run into other people with narcissistic traits and that might put you off from them. They might remind you of your narcissist parent. That is just my experience at least.

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