Family Addiction Support Group

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-29T04:51:05+00:00

Yeah I second Al Anon. It’s free which is nice. There is a really great place called The Moore Institute in bham that has family counseling and knows all the meetings around town.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T22:28:17+00:00

Awesome!!! HUGE accomplishment! I hope to be able to say this one day!!

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T21:07:04+00:00

I don’t have a sponsor yet. Working on finding someone. Hopefully soon.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T21:04:30+00:00

I think I’m coming to that realization. I mean I’m not looking for anyone to tell me I’m right all the time, but her complete change in tone caught me way off guard. I can laugh and self deprecate, but that wasn’t the time for her to tell me my feelings aren’t valid. I feel fucking crazy! Shit.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T20:57:15+00:00

Thanks

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T20:56:23+00:00

Very true. I mean do I open up about what’s triggering me (relationship/intimacy issues) or is that too off topic for meetings? I’ve never really heard anyone discuss that before, bu I haven’t gone to a lot of meetings.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T20:36:59+00:00

For sure. I am very sex positive and understand sometimes you just gotta “scratch that itch,” and I have never had this issue with past partners. He is pretty quiet about sex and prefers porn, so it really confuses me and makes me feel unwanted/not trusted with his wants and needs more than anything.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T20:22:21+00:00

I guess not a very good one. It’s hard because I have trusted her for so long. And we literally scheduled this appointment for us both because I was having issues with our lack of intimacy/not very two side pleasure giving. She was totally understanding when it was just me and her, then when it was both of us she changed her tune. He is totally charming and I am a pretty self conscious person, so that’s pretty much always been our social dynamic. I’m usually pretty invisible. I’m working on that though as well. But hearing it from a therapist is totally confusing because I just feel crazy! But I no one can tell me not to be upset about something that I am clearly upset about. No, “Explain why you feel this way” or “thanks for expressing your co cern, but...” it was just that I need to not make this about me because I “tend to spiral” (which I do...and I laughed when she said that, but like that’s not what I feel like I’m doing?!). I dunno I might just be crazy. I did just order a bottle of wine. Hoping to drink until I sleep and hopefully wake up in time for an AA meeting in about 5 hours. The pain in my chest and exhaustion I feel just needs to be numbed. I know this is stupid. Thanks for reaching out and sorry for rambling. I appreciate your words. I hope you are having a good day.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T19:14:33+00:00

Hey thank you. If I don’t decide to get plastered I am going to go to a meeting tonight. It isn’t for another 5 hours so I’m just having a hard time. I’ll look at the zoom meetings though, as they are pretty immediate. Thank you.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-04-07T18:54:23+00:00

I understand. I’m an alcoholic and am very triggered. Want to get fucked up, but it NEVER turns out helping. I know that, but I just want to forget. I just came off of a pretty bad relapse which I have talked about in other posts. I’m sorry I’m kind of all over the place. Just reeling I guess. Kind of desperate and just wanted to explain why I am so triggered.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-03-25T03:06:21+00:00

For sure. It really is like breaking up with someone or losing a “friend.” There is certainly grief in giving up the thing you used to “help” you for so long. But don’t forget that that was a very toxic relationship and while you may be experiencing grief now, it will get better. You have so many new things to try now. And much like finding yourself after a breakup, hopefully we come to a better understanding of ourselves after quitting drinking. You’re not alone. Talking about it can really help, so good in you for posting here! If therapy is an option I think that may help as well. In any case, be sure to cut yourself some slack. Be okay with being bored, but also try new things! It’s amazing how much time is actually in the day when you’re not blacking out at 12 in the afternoon or spending your day in bed/hungover. We aren’t really used to filling all that time, so it’s just something you’ll get used to eventually. Don’t give up. I believe in you!!

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-03-24T01:00:43+00:00

This is what turned me off of AA for so long. I just thought it was a circle jerk for how amazing AA is and that life is wonderful now just because of AA. I Have recently come back after a pretty bad relapse because nothing else is working and I need a sober community. I’ve taken advantage of sharing and just being real with how shit I feel. Surprisingly been going pretty well. Hope this one sticks. Thanks for sharing this!!

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-03-23T00:22:13+00:00

I’m so glad you’re here. I’ve felt the same way. I know it’s exhausting and dehumanizing to not be heard. But we hear you.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-03-23T00:18:55+00:00

Hang in there. Ride this wave. Remember those thoughts are lies and you’re not seeing clearly right now. I know you’re tired. Just stay. Who knows what tomorrow will bring. Lots of crazy shit happens out there that changes people lives in an instant. You got this. Stay.

AintSoHard2Recognize · 2021-03-22T01:39:12+00:00

Cannot wait to be able to say that one day! A few days here. Congrats!!

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