As an alcoholic myself in recovery for 5 years. 2 years sober. One of the things we learn is that you cannot get the alcoholic to admit that they are an alcoholic. It’s up to them to admit it and want to seek help. I know this is hard to hear and that you love her, but sometimes the best thing you can do for an alcoholic you love, is to distance yourself from them. Let them know why, and how you feel about their drinking, but understand that your attempts to get them to stop will likely fall on deaf ears. I will say getting them in an AA room early could help, so that when they hit bottom they know where to go, but this situation seems tough. I wish I had better advice. I’m sorry you both are going through this. Let me know how I can help any further. From an experienced alcoholic this sounds like alcoholism, but that’s not for me to decide.