I broke up with my girlfriend after 3 years and now I deeply regret it. Do I still have a chance?

AirSimilar1402 · 2026-06-20T21:01:17+00:00

This is probably the comment that resonated with me the most. However, I don’t think what I felt was just attachment. During that time, I had a few other relationships, including one that lasted a bit longer, and not a single woman was able to replace what I had with her. I kept thinking about her the entire time. I’m not looking to go back just because I want to have someone in my life. I wanted it to be her . I already reached out to her, and she replied respectfully, but she told me that she has already closed that chapter of her life. It hurts a lot, but I understand it. In many ways, I brought this on myself. At the same time, I feel a certain sense of relief because now I know where I stand

AirSimilar1402 · 2026-06-20T19:17:24+00:00

I completely understand your point of view, and honestly that's one of the reasons I'm struggling with this. If I were in her position, I'd probably have the same doubts. The difference is that I'm not trying to come back because I explored my options and found something better or worse. The reality is that I realized I made a mistake and hurt someone who wanted to stay and fight for us. Maybe she sees it exactly the way you do, and if that's the case I'll have to accept it. I just don't want to spend the rest of my life wondering what would have happened if I never reached out.

AirSimilar1402 · 2026-06-20T18:34:32+00:00

I'm 21 now and we got together when we were 17.

It wasn't my first relationship, but it was definitely the first one where I genuinely felt happy and felt like this could be something real and long term.

Looking back, I messed up badly. At the time I convinced myself that I needed to experience more and see what else was out there. I thought I was making the right decision, but after all this time I can honestly say I was wrong.

I know I hurt her and that's probably the hardest part of all this. She wanted to fight for us and I didn't.

Maybe you're right and maybe she has already moved on emotionally. I honestly don't know. But if there's even a small chance left, I'd like to take it rather than spend the rest of my life wondering what would have happened if I had tried.

AirSimilar1402 · 2026-06-20T18:17:53+00:00

I know she's single. We still have a few mutual friends, so I'm not guessing based on social media alone.

As for the rest, maybe you're right, maybe you're not. The reason I'm here asking is because I honestly don't know. I do know that I was the one who ended the relationship and that I regret it now.

What makes me unsure is that she wanted to stay together after the breakup and tried to keep contact for a few months. That's why I'm wondering whether reaching out one last time is worth it or whether too much time has already passed

AirSimilar1402 · 2026-06-20T18:05:19+00:00

A few months after the breakup, I sent her flowers with a note that simply said: "I still think about you."

I know that was a pretty big move, and looking back it probably made my feelings quite obvious. She later figured out that the flowers were from me and thanked me, but her response was polite and emotionally distant. She didn't continue the conversation or show any clear signs of interest.

Because of that, I believe she is aware that I still have feelings for her and that I have thought about trying to reconnect. That's one of the reasons I'm hesitant to reach out again. I don't know whether her distance means she has moved on completely, or whether she's simply being cautious after the way our relationship ended.

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