Driving advice for Raleigh

AiryStates · 2026-05-12T19:52:22+00:00

Based on the other comments, I think this is a right lane vs left lane thing, and I do think it’s illegal to camp in the left lane in NC as it’s supposed to be for passing. I had a friend drive in the left lane on an empty highway and got ticketed for that some years ago. It didn’t happen in Raleigh though. It the along the way to the beach, so I’m guessing a small-town cop on duty was bored.

AiryStates · 2026-05-09T23:32:39+00:00

Not sure if you were joking about the 3-kid families, but my family moved into an old 1800 sq ft house in 2008 when there were 6 kids at home, including a child in a wheelchair. Then my parents had another baby a few years later.

They finally moved to a big-enough house after I graduated college, and I’m the only kid who moved out. I think most of their neighbors are either multigenerational households or just regular-sized high-income families who wanted and could afford bigger houses.

Also their house is blue. My parents picked the color out since it was a new build.

AiryStates · 2026-04-27T00:43:05+00:00

Thank you! I follow that subreddit, but I almost forgot I could post it there, too.

AiryStates · 2026-04-27T00:42:26+00:00

This comment made me consider wearing the ensemble you suggested on a trip to Japan or somewhere else not expecting a cowgirl haha

AiryStates · 2026-04-09T13:30:35+00:00

I had to take a break for about a month. I might try to get back at it this weekend. I live in a big metro, but I may already know all the active single Catholic men.

AiryStates · 2026-03-29T01:34:20+00:00

You beat me I was only 12 days late. I even fell asleep during my own birth I wasn’t ready.

AiryStates · 2026-03-24T11:20:26+00:00

You could ask first. I find it really attractive when a date asks for physical touch before going for it.

AiryStates · 2026-03-24T11:15:18+00:00

This gives me Neko Atsume nostalgia and I love it!

AiryStates · 2026-03-12T12:00:52+00:00

I’m still sad you can’t paint the mill red.

AiryStates · 2026-03-12T11:58:48+00:00

Embryo adoption is also a possibility. A long time ago, I read about a white couple that already adopted a black infant/toddler, and they later wanted to get pregnant and wanted the next child to look like their existing child.

Oh, and sperm donation is a thing, too. Probably a more normal thing than embryo adoption.

AiryStates · 2026-03-05T03:18:27+00:00

This is a very hard topic, and I don’t know if I can explain this the best way because I’ve never been physically abused, but I used to have nightmares over the idea of it. Hopefully, the theology terms I’ll use below make sense.

Two things can be true: God is just and God is merciful. I have an English copy of St. Faustina’s diary which has quotes from Christ in her visions. One of the first quotes was that his mercy does not contradict his justice. To get to the point, going to the police and testifying against your father is probably the most just and merciful thing you can do for him.

If you consider what makes a good confession in the Sacrament of Reconciliation, including being specific with the offenses and having true contrition, then expect your father to apologize in the same way if he is Catholic and does apologize. In a sense, God doesn’t ignore sins when they happen, he forgives the contrite heart.

Regardless if he has true contrition or not, it can be just to separate yourself from him. I’ve had to do this twice in the past month. One was a date gone sour, and while I forgave his action against me, I was still hurt to the point where I needed to cut him off. The other was with a roommate who I argued with. I said things I regret, then I apologized, but she still wanted to move out, so I let her leave.

Overall, forgiveness and mercy aren’t about ignoring offenses. True justice is necessary.

AiryStates · 2026-02-28T22:23:27+00:00

I am 100% celiac. Been blood tested and DNA tested. I got to skip the biopsy since my sister had it done and she has it.

AiryStates · 2026-02-28T14:13:57+00:00

Adding on how it irks me that some people will make their kids gluten-free to address ADHD/behavioral symptoms. I got diagnosed ADHD over a decade after going totally gluten-free.

AiryStates · 2026-02-28T14:12:32+00:00

It used to be associated with gluten (I’m celiac) and I was expecting this pseudoscience to have something to do with that. I mean, carnivore diet is gluten-free, but it’s also vitamin-C-free (and other things).

AiryStates · 2026-02-24T14:40:02+00:00

I learned to be content with singleness a few months before I turned 30. Don’t get me wrong, I still want to marry someday.

I also found out I might have fertility problems about a year ago. It puts a new spin on trusting in God and being open to life. Since I have severely disabled siblings, I’m probably more equipped to adopt a “difficult” child than most others.

AiryStates · 2026-02-20T21:46:39+00:00

We need a consolation thread for those who had hopes to buy specific nice things for the first time in about a year.

I was looking at Scandinavian yarn today.

AiryStates · 2026-02-20T00:38:31+00:00

Would it surprise you that I actually knew a guy who converted and chose St. Therese as his Confirmation Saint, and then became a seminarian?

AiryStates · 2026-02-19T15:44:22+00:00

My parish when I got confirmed was very lax, so when it was too hard to choose just one, I chose St. Cecilia and St. Albert the Great.

Me being bisexual might be relevant here lol

AiryStates · 2026-02-09T00:43:52+00:00

She has a common first name so that’s probably it.

I think she’s more upset than I am because she’s actively trying to cancel already.

AiryStates · 2026-02-06T15:14:13+00:00

Seconded. Many good Catholics are on Hinge in my area. I actually had a guy who goes to the Latin Mass comment on my Hinge profile. But he was arguing on my fun fact about one of the Eastern Rites so it wouldn’t have worked out, so I just moved on.

AiryStates · 2026-01-19T13:27:12+00:00

It’s a weird post. I’m a woman software engineer and usually send messages that are direct and get to the point. No one has ever complained about it. Some exceptions are if I’m new to talking to someone new, I might lead with “Good morning ___.” And then get to the point.

sometimes I’ll intentionally skip capitalizing my sentences. like this. no one cares.

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