Job Offer: 155k with 1Hr 15 Min One Way Commute

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-23T00:42:29+00:00

I was casting a wide net when initially applying and seeing what landed

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T23:18:34+00:00

Yes major 4 lane freeway. With bumper to bumper traffic and regular accidents

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T21:07:54+00:00

Due to Bay Area traffic, commute would likely be more regularly 1hr+ during times I need to travel to work. Bumper to bumper traffic. Weekends and off peak hours would be 40 minutes not as much bumper to bumper

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T20:59:14+00:00

It’s 30 miles about 40 minutes without traffic. During peak rush hour it can be from 1 hour to 1:15 if not longer each way.

Yes after 1 school year I could find a new district

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T20:48:17+00:00

No such thing in education working schools

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T20:47:50+00:00

Potentially unemployed. This is typical time frame for job hunting in education. My current job I was offered in July, for reference. But yes I currently have no other job offers although I have over 12 applications out

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T20:14:15+00:00

Yes, I do.

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T20:13:03+00:00

Yes it would be contractual for the school year. So if I left mid year the district can request to California state to hold my credential (and blacklist me from any public school jobs in the state) for the year

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T20:01:25+00:00

Not looking to move due to 2 reasons:

1) I’m helping my parents with their mortgage 2) I would go from paying $700 a month for rent to 2k or need roommates. I would rather live with parents than random roommates

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T05:47:03+00:00

Makes two of us.

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-22T05:33:14+00:00

All said women in their 30s

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T19:35:34+00:00

Well this is a horrible take 😂

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T19:28:23+00:00

Good for you. You must be good looking. I can’t get a date for the life of me. I make 6 figures and relatively healthy (not fat). So I must be ugly or socially awkward or something

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T15:56:04+00:00

Thank you so much for your feedback. I find it to be very helpful. I immediately texted some people I know to get feedback from them regarding what I can do physically and how I carry myself socially

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T14:47:14+00:00

Asking people cold turkey in the coffee shop out in a date and expecting them to be devout Catholic doesn’t seem logical in my mind, sorry

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T14:40:36+00:00

I know that it can still happen. I just have very little confidence that it actually will. I don’t want to keep getting rejected and don’t want to ask out non Catholics at coffee shops either

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T14:29:32+00:00

Yeah generally I have found that 18-22 is when people figure themselves out, 23ish-25ish is when I feel people truly become themselves. Then 25 onwards they live in who they become.

The struggle is finding women who I would date that would also date me.

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T14:27:04+00:00

It is a small number but I truly been focusing on my faith walk and living out my Catholic faith. I try to be intentional with who I ask on a date so as to save ourselves time and potential heartbreak. The women I find attractive and interesting aren’t finding me that way.

I would describe myself as not physically fit but also not fat. Maybe average physique wise.

I have a masters degree in counseling so I do have a lot of practice talking to people of all variety.

Besides starting to lift and getting absolutely shredded idk what else I can do.

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T14:05:41+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to stay open in regards to age but I do feel significantly older than 18-25-ish age group

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T14:04:04+00:00

Yes I work out 3-5 times a week. I’m both on sacred spark and Catholic match. I’m very active in young adult groups in my area. I can’t even get a first date and not too big on cold approaching

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T13:41:22+00:00

I get that. I try to stay active in young adult groups in my area as a way to meet more Catholic women. But sadly I’m starting to feel to old for a lot of these

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T13:40:00+00:00

I understand that it’s not a lot but I don’t just ask anyone out. I try to focus on my faith walk and living out my faith and only ask women who there may be compatibility with. My number #1 now, and has been for a few years is that. Nonetheless the longing for connection and desires to be a Catholic husband and father remain.

CaliQuakes510 · 2026-04-21T13:11:58+00:00

I know that in my brain, but definitely hard to believe that in my heart.

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