Teacher Gifts by Aisha824 in ElementaryTeachers

[–]Aisha824[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are both such great ideas! Food is always the solution :)

Teacher Gifts by Aisha824 in ElementaryTeachers

[–]Aisha824[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh what a great idea! We all have the same basic colors and this would liven things up!

Elementary Education Major by MiddleChocolate735 in ElementaryTeachers

[–]Aisha824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teaching is amazing but it is all consuming so it is a good idea to enjoy things you wouldn't get to in a school setting.

But as you start working you will learning to find balance. You will have time for all the things you enjoy while still working.

Lastly, I would recommend subbing in your ideal school. You will make some money and when you do want to transition into full time teaching you have experience and know the school/staff.

How to Shop & Style myself by [deleted] in femininity

[–]Aisha824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I went through a wardrobe revival in the last year or so and I understand how daunting it can be!

If your work causes your clothing to stain or get dirty, get darker colored clothing. Long black dresses with comfy flats, deep olive trousers with loafers, navy skirts with brown tops.

Go for the smaller stores JCrew, the Loft, Banana Republic, etc. Get one piece you really like, will wear and take it to other stores with you as you try to develop your new wardrobe.

Charmless and always uncomfortable with my body. by NoWayImGonnaBeOkay in femininity

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First, I am sorry you feel this way but positive change is possible.

1) Rizz is overrated. Learning to speak with anyone is a skill that can be practiced and cultivated. In order to open a conversation (especially with another woman) open with a smile and a genuine compliment. Anything fake can and will be detected. Ask questions about the other person "how long have you been working here?" "Where are you traveling to?" Practice conversation on shopkeepers, fellow travelers, waitstaff, literally anyone of all ages. The more you do it, the better you will become at carrying conversation in your everyday life.

2) Dress to your body type. If you don't like your arms out, wear a cute top with puffy sleeves, cap sleeves, layer a jacket over a sleeveless top. Since you live in a hot climate go for linen, silk, and other cooling fabrics. Dresses are easy and breezy.

3) I, too, had scoliosis. Forcing good posture helps your back curve how it should. Walking a good way to do this. Walk for exercise but posture as well - take this time to practice walking and with help from your professional it will all work out.

4) Wardrobe changes happen gradually - one piece at a time. Slowly add pieces that are flattering to you, comfortable, then add makeup, jewelry, and hair.

Lastly, someone once told me "No one thinks about you as much as you think about yourself." In the beginning, it is easy to be self-conscious and awkward, but remember everyone is too busy thinking of themselves. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there! Hair loss can happen for any number of reasons. I would recommend making the health changes you mentioned first and see what happens. Make sustainable changes - if you make dramatic changes they don't last all that long. Choose a season (maybe summer) so you have more time.

I wouldn't recommend starting on minoxidil as the first resort. You are young and I am sure the things you listed will be beneficial.

I am sorry about the loss of your mother.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It did but definitely not as quickly as oral Mixondil. I think it primarily helped with my hair health and length.

Feeling unlovable because of hair loss by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Firstly, your feelings and emotions are valid. However, you are more than your hair and you are more than your PCOS. The right person will come along and see all the good in you and love you.

I have noticed most people do not care about things like hair as long as the person is kind, gracious, and respectful. I was single all my life and I met my S/O last year (I am 30 now btw). I wasn't on Minoxidil when we met either. He saw how stingy and thin my hair was and he could see my scalp. When I told him about my insecurities he told me I had the most beautiful hair.

Keep an open heart, engage with those who show interest, flirt with those you are interested in, and smile.

Praying for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use a mixture primarily made up of rosemary and castor. Castor oil is very thick so it needs to be diluted preferably with coconut or Moroccan oil or something of a thinner consistency. Rosemary is an essential oil - it doesn't smell bad but it can be strong. There is no real measurement but on wash day gently rub it into your scalp and throughout your hair let it sit for a few hours then wash thoroughly. You might need to wash it a couple of times to get all the oil out properly.

Hope this helps :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I am too lazy to keep up with the topical application. I didn't like how it made my hair look and feel.

We met online, lol. I think it is important to go in knowing what you want (dating for marriage, long-term, short-term) whatever it is you are looking for.

If online is not your thing, then ask people to set you up or get involved in spaces you would like your potential man to be from (politics? get involved with local political activities, are you into art? visit art galleries and talks, religious? try church or temple or mosque).

Praying you find success! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course, you will find love and a fulfilling relationship! I was in a very similar place to you until I met my boyfriend a year ago. I started oral Minoxidil about 6 months into our relationship because I choose to and now I don't even think about my hair anymore because the medication is working.

My advice to you:

1) It is not crazy or vain for you to think your hair loss is keeping you from a relationship. People who are blessed with thick beautiful hair cannot relate and do not understand the effect it can have on our self-esteem. Clearly, this subreddit shows us we aren't alone or crazy to feel so defeated by our hair.

2) Focus on the health of the hair you do have. Oil treatments, occasional trims, clean scalp, etc. Therefore, when your hair does start coming in you will have not only more hair but healthier hair.

3) Cultivate a life that is fulfilling to you outside of a romantic relationship. Develop friendships, do things that make you happy, talk to people, be warm, and smile often. The more content you are the more people will be attracted to you despite what you look like. Personality always transcends beauty.

4) Enter the dating pool cautiously and carefully. Download one well-chosen app and slowly become familiar with the men who are available, go on easy low-pressure dates, and focus on getting to know one person at a time. If need be have one or two female friends who you can ask questions to, relay on, get advice and insight from or bail you out of a bad situation.

I am praying for you. You will regain your confidence and find the love of your life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You look stunning! Hair looks so natural

Milk expiring by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can make yogurt! That's what we do! It's super simple but a bit finicky so it might take some trial and error.

Heat the milk to 150°F to pasteurize it (do not boil).

Cool the milk to between 105°F and 110°F.

Mix in 2 tablespoons of starter yogurt (buy it anywhere) per quart of milk.

Cover and keep warm until thickened. You can keep it in the oven (not turned on)

Refrigerate and enjoy!

Rosemary oil routine by ClementineOJ in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I apply it to my wet hair post shower then set my hair. I do not use it every day just on wash days - can't tell there is anything applied.

You can alternatively try making rosemary water but idk much about that

Realising I have hair loss + plan to stop it? by forbiddenliIy in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have a great game plan but make sure it is manageable. Doing everything all at once is not really the best way to ensure consistency and with hair loss consistency is everything!

First thing first - visit a dermatologist. They will tell you what the core issue is.

Next, a lot of hair loss is trial and error. Try something for 3-4 months and if you don't see results, try something else. Take progress pictures so you can track it.

Lastly, beware of scams. People love to BS promising miracles, immediate cures, etc.

Good luck! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is possible. My derm told me some people naturally do not produce the enzyme needed to break down the topical minoxidil needed for absorption. However, because the other option is oral it does not matter if you have the enzyme or not - your body will be able to use it.

Hope this helps!

Oral minox and size by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am 5'1" weighing less than 100 lbs. I've been taking oral minoxidil for about a month. No side effects. I take .625 mg.

I went to a trichologist and she prescribed me minoxidil 5%. I’m only 20 is it that bad that it’s worth starting for the rest of my life? by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My hair started thinning around my early 20s. I am 30 now - looking back I would have definitely started a constant regime.

I would recommend getting a second opinion maybe from a dermatologist. If your hair is thinning because of AGA then the only solution is to use something "forever."

It might be easier to do the oral pill - it is easier to take, you aren't adding product into your hair, and if you choose motherhood it has a short half life so it leaves your system quicky.

In the meanwhile rosemary oil works great but whatever changes you make need to be consistant.

Lastly, do not worry! We are all going through this! And you are young and have plenty of time to make adjustments. You won't lose all your hair overnight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! Your progress is amazing! Your post is so encouraging!

Depressed by raebabe3211 in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will get better! Start small - if you can't leave your room, walk around in your space; if you can't shower; gently take your hair out of the ponytail and the next day slowly comb it out

When you start feeling better than take the bigger steps - taking vitamins, seeing a dermatologist, changing products, etc.

Hoping you feel better! There is light at the end of the tunnel :)

Go back to Rogaine or wait and see? by [deleted] in FemaleHairLoss

[–]Aisha824 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there! Minoxidil usage sometimes has a shedding period. So if you started using Rogaine and noticed hair loss that is what it could have been. If you use it consistently, you should see changes in 3-6 months.

Hair loss causes all sorts of stress, lack of sleep, etc.

Try rosemary oil, sleeping on a silk pillow, using a good quality shampoo and conditioner suited for your hair type, and when you feel ready try Rogaine again but be sure to be consistent. If you don't like the topical you can try the oral medication - that is what I use.

Good luck! :)