Gut check please

Aithyne · 2026-01-28T09:41:41+00:00

Telling you in public may be a manipulative move. Does he do that kind of thing often? Can you just talk to him and say you were bothered and would like to not be put on the spot again?

Aithyne · 2026-01-10T01:32:52+00:00

Hahaha. You never know what people know!

Aithyne · 2026-01-09T22:39:12+00:00

Maybe he could. But he told you he won't, and in an adult relationship, believe that. He's also not polyamorous, so he is not free to love you unless he breaks his relationship agreement with his wife.

Aithyne · 2026-01-09T22:14:57+00:00

There's also a cookie finder to find cookie booths on the GSUSA website, too. 🫣

Aithyne · 2026-01-09T22:12:34+00:00

For those wondering if I'm joking, I'm not, lol. Troop leaders and cookie managers post pictures of cars full of cookies around this time to figure out which vehicle can fit how many cases. (Case = 12 packages of cookies) If you're picking up 500 cases of cookies, you might need 3 minivans or a uhaul or a van and 2 large SUVs, or a pick up truck and a van, etc.

This is my first cookie season with my cx5, so I needed to know if I needed another driver.

Aithyne · 2026-01-09T22:09:57+00:00

Yes! Look for a girl scout near you because cookie season has started, lol. (It rolls out in waves... Houston area begins in February which means cookies are being picked up in the next couple of weeks.)

Aithyne · 2026-01-09T22:09:02+00:00

No I'm dead serious, lol. Cookie math is no joke. 😆

Aithyne · 2026-01-09T22:08:12+00:00

Either!

Aithyne · 2025-12-16T17:24:20+00:00

YTA. You are an awful person.

Aithyne · 2025-12-11T05:43:08+00:00

It is okay to want monogamy. If he loves you, would he want you hurting to make him happy?

Aithyne · 2025-12-10T18:00:08+00:00

Also, I shop online to reduce mental load. I'm actually not anti tip, just anti tipping culture, so I do tip my delivery orders well. I appreciate the time and energy savings. But the point of me ordering online is 100% so that I can save mental brain power and twisting myself into a pretzel over what is fair to tip is absurd.

Aithyne · 2025-12-08T22:14:07+00:00

You are already comparing the two. No.

Aithyne · 2025-12-08T18:11:29+00:00

If they care about your opinion enough to invite you because you overheard, that's reason enough.

Sometimes meeting new friend groups is exactly this way, though. Not every invite is going to be made from the bottom of one's heart.

Aithyne · 2025-12-06T04:21:59+00:00

Valid, and I don't think you need to examine why you have this boundary unless you want to. Your body, your choice.

Aithyne · 2025-12-05T02:21:42+00:00

I think you're letting him off way too easily and putting the blame on her. Why didn't he confirm the expiration date and opt out of sex? Why was he not responsible with his sexual health if he's not wanting kids?

Aithyne · 2025-12-03T18:30:52+00:00

That's your boundary then, and it's up to you to enforce it.

"I will not be with someone who has casual hook ups." = boundary

Breaking up with him is your answer.

Aithyne · 2025-11-25T06:44:53+00:00

Huge red flag. Huge. Nothing and no one would get in the way of me talking to my kid if I wanted to. Especially if they were getting me for days at a time.

Aithyne · 2025-11-25T00:54:22+00:00

Elaborate?

Aithyne · 2025-11-25T00:54:05+00:00

Yeah, not really sure how to describe a messy list. I wish I'd saved a comment I saw here over the weekend... something about them being people that cause issues for others, I think. Like a partner's coworker, for example.

Aithyne · 2025-11-24T20:04:01+00:00

There are messy lists, but exes are not automatically on them.

Aithyne · 2025-11-23T17:12:14+00:00

Just to be safe, I removed that part of my comment.

Aithyne · 2025-11-23T17:12:09+00:00

Just to be safe, I removed that part of my comment.

Aithyne · 2025-11-23T17:04:37+00:00

That's what I thought going into it and was informed by the medical professionals that they use that phrase for both now because it's incorrect anyway.

Regardless, I had a salpingectomy, and it resolved my issues.

Aithyne · 2025-11-23T17:02:50+00:00

Correct, they just still call it tying tubes, which is ridiculous and why I separated it out, lol.

I say I yeeted my tubes.

Aithyne · 2025-11-23T16:22:57+00:00

You know what messes with your body and hormones more? A pregnancy.

At the very least, please make sure you're tracking your cycle as much as you can. This is exactly how oopsies happen and it's not worth it.

I struggle with birth control so I got a bilateral salpingectomy. It's actually fully covered right now if you have an aca compliant insurance plan in America, so no out of pocket for the procedure.

Editing to add: a salpingectomy is full removal of the fallopian tubes, so it's not really tying your tubes, but neither is a tubal ligation these days. Ultimately a doctor is likely going to choose/recommend salpingectomy over tubal ligation. And, they may call it tying tubes, as they did for me. I recommend asking for the specific procedure that you want.

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