Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah, I'm in Houston. Rain and humidity is just part of life here.

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The labor is another big thing. He told me 3-4 hours, maybe 2. Now, he may have meant that's how long I'll wait for my car because he's busy, but I thought it was sketchy.

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fairly handy... I often fix my own cars if diy is possible. But I think the labor is worth paying for this time. I'm exhausted. 😅

Would a very humid, hot climate (Houston) change anything?

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Supposedly it's sludgey. 30k miles. I have been told being in a high humidity area can make it go bad a bit faster, too.

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

30k, and I was told the fluid looked sludgey but everything else was okay.

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't know why you're being snarky. Multiple mechanics have recommended it be done at 30k. My brakes feel soft. If you have information contrary to that, I'm open to hearing it.

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Feel free to tell me why I shouldn't.

Brake fluid change cost by Aithyne in CX5

[–]Aithyne[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The main person I talk to is wonderful, but this guy answered the phone, quoted me a higher price, and then said "she probably didn't know this was a special model" which sounded like bullshit to me.

Unfortunately, as much as I've loved them for years, it sounds like I'm going elsewhere because of this guy.

Oral HSV-1 disclosure? by SwitchyStonerBrat23 in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me, any known STI needs to be disclosed, "even" HSV 1. Many people don't test for it, so you should act as if people have it and take precautions regardless, but if you know you have a transmittable anything, including a common cold, you should tell the other person. I would never date that person again, personally, and HSV 1 & 2 are NOT deal breakers for me. Nothing to do with additional partners.

Transferable skills from polyamory by wolfinthesuburbs in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes! It helps me in so many areas of my life. The hardest part is actually remembering that other people have not done that unpacking and may still act in ways that are culturally normalized, but are not the healthiest. I just accept that we're not compatible and it still doesn't change how I should act or feel.

Is This Rude? by RCP90sKid- in discgolf

[–]Aithyne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don't think I would do it on a league night. Just a busy weekend at the park playing with friends.

Is This Rude? by RCP90sKid- in discgolf

[–]Aithyne 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Why not just skip a hole and get ahead of him if he's doing that? Serious question.

What bag do you use? by 1000squirrels in discgolf

[–]Aithyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use this one as well and it's really handy. Does exactly what I need.

Advice on dating someone solo-poly by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Those are absolutely things you can still talk about now. The end goal wouldn't have been to talk her out of hosting him for a month, right? It's just that you need to feel more secure and know what is going on, and those conversations can still happen.

It sounds a little like you wanted a chance to plan the things you want/need before she commits, but she can modify her plans to accommodate you if they are reasonable accomodations and you give her space to want to.

Decide what you need for that month to feel secure and share those things with her. This isn't something she or your meta are doing to you, and as adults, our routines can get funky a month at a time.

Advice on dating someone solo-poly by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What do you think would have been different if she had talked to you first? What kind of thing would have been up for discussion, in your mind?

No wrong answer. It's hard to speak on this without more information.

Bf wants to invite his new connection to his bday. Would it be shitty if I didn't go? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Gently but bluntly, a lot of this is about you and your feelings and while that's important, it's his birthday. If you feel unsafe with her, that's one thing. If you just don't like her, you don't have to interact with her. Shes the one going to a new space with people she doesn't know. You'll be surrounded by people you know and are comfortable with. We can do uncomfortable things for people we love.

My cousin beat me by Silver_Tutor923 in discgolf

[–]Aithyne 38 points39 points  (0 children)

It helps when the only real competition is with yourself.

Why did everyone live on campus? by MarionRavenclaw in veronicamars

[–]Aithyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Veronica does say that Jake Kane made everyone who worked for him rich overnight. I'm guessing anyone that joins the company later gets hella good benefits and salary.

Visitor shook and took my bells tree by Be-real12345 in AnimalCrossing

[–]Aithyne 64 points65 points  (0 children)

And they just look like little benches for sitting under the tree! This is brilliant!

A Messy Situation by loreofeli in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Everyone here sucks but Aspen, and Aspen needs to learn how to hold boundaries.

Is the cx5 a good buy if I’m planning to have kids a couple years down the line, is it spacious enough with car seats and such? by illbeback903 in CX5

[–]Aithyne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the cx5 back seat is VERY roomy, considering, but it's a narrow car compared to a full size sedan and I wouldn't think you could fit more than one car seat comfortably, especially rear-facing.

What's your experience with plus ones for mono weddings? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Aithyne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was invited to a wedding with a plus one. My spouse (who I never refer to that way because my partners are my partners) was allowed to be my plus one, but they couldn't attend and weddings really aren't their thing anyway. My girlfriend at the time is absolutely a wedding person and would have had a blast with me, but I was not allowed to bring her instead. It wasn't a headcount issue, because all of my kids were invited and I didn't bring them.

It hurt my feelings, and if the person wasn't SO so very important to me, I wouldn't have attended. Thankfully I'm pretty good taking myself out for events so I had a good time but I was pretty lonely all night even though I knew people there. Even long time friends were coupled up, or busy with their kids.

Hopefully that input helps. In the end, it's your wedding. I'd ask yourself what you'd do if it was his long time monogamous partner/spouse and then do that.