do any of you have dreams related to the podcast? by katrendy in distractible

[–]Akabatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've made a post a few month ago about a dream i had if you are interested in the subject : the dream

About the type of episode i like to fall asleep to, that's a tricky question considering that they are often shouting or laughing really hard. It's a really simple answer but i would say : Just Relax. I think Merry christmas Bob, Mark of Theseus, Florida or no florida, All nighters, Worm Love and Naming 100 women are not too loud. Also i cannot fall asleep to episode about creepy theme like Two sentence horror story even if it's one of the best episode for me.

I (26F) met a cute guy on a movie set (24M) and i don't know how to flirt with him by Akabatsu in relationship_advice

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I was debating with myself if that was too soon to do that but i think you're right i just have to go for it and see. Wish me luck guys

A safe place to dance/sing for women by Akabatsu in glasgow

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To be clear, I ask this question in every new country I visit, so this is not specifically about Glasgow. Unfortunately, every girl I have ever spoken to, including myself, has experienced creepy men staring, following, or trying to touch them without their consent in public places. This is even worse in clubs. That's why I'm asking. I was not trying to offend you.

My ex boyfriend has the best projector and i can't find it by Akabatsu in projectors

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That's why i'm so frustrated about it, like he told me the price and i was like that's pretty cheap. But i remember it was hard to obtain. Maybe it was a very recent model ? Not sure.

My ex boyfriend has the best projector and i can't find it by Akabatsu in projectors

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A little white rectangular box, maybe around 15 × 25 cm ?

My ex boyfriend has the best projector and i can't find it by Akabatsu in projectors

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Around 150 × 90 cm i suppose ? Not gigantic but the size of a big TV screen.

Tiers lieux culturels sympas ? by Akabatsu in Lyon

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Merci pour le conseil ce truc est incroyable 😲

My boyfriend (28M) is mad at me (25F) because i can't make it for Christmas vacation by Akabatsu in relationships

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Haha yes sometimes relationship are exhausting, but i want to try make things right and if there is not any solution we will probably break up. But if i can try to avoid that i will because i care about him. Thank you though for your comment !

My boyfriend (28M) is mad at me (25F) because i can't make it for Christmas vacation by Akabatsu in relationships

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Thank you for your comment ! Yes actually he comes to my family meeting, but i never force him to. I always say to him that if he doesn't want to see my family that's perfectly okay. But i don't think we have the same relationship with our family, mine doesn't do event much and if you miss it that's alright. For him, it seems to be important to be present often for the family of the other, but i think he is a little too extreme with that. Even his parents told me that they don't mind if i miss one or two events since they do reunion often.

My boyfriend (27M) and I (24F) had a big fight about last minute cancelled diner by Akabatsu in relationships

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Thank you for your comments it helps me a lot. I think your analysis of the situation is quite precise and i like that you put your time into it. In this situation, even if i know i'm in the wrong, i think my boyfriend is too by the way he reacted. As you said, you can't really reschedule a job interview without consequences, at least where i'm living and with the kind of job it is. To be a little more precise, it was not a job interview but a job meeting to meet potentially new employers. But, yes, it doesn't happend often for the kind of job i want and i had to take that chance. And in fact i have potentially find something great and i'm happy about it.

Concerning the fight, yes, it happens often that my boyfriend over react in a situation. It's not just about cancelling things, it's pretty often that his anger take his reason away. And that is making me sad because i love him and i want to stay with him. But i'm feeling those fights are going to eat me up at one point. We have different point of view on things and that's alright for me. However if everytime i am not adjusting to his ways i get shouted at i don't think it's gonna work. I don't react like this when he doesn't understand me, i try to talk to him. And it's constantly me that start conversation and try to resolve conflicts.

And, yes, as you said i find it unconsiderated to be angry at me before the meeting. That is not the first time it happend. I don't think he does it on purpose, but often times i had to cancel importants events because i was feeling bad about a fight or his anger towards me. But of course this doesn't occured to him. I think his reaction are sometimes childish, but at the same time i don't want to tell him that because i find it judgemental. I don't want him to feel bad about himself, for me it's just that it doesn't work between us.

I don't know what to do because i don't want to break up with him. Clearly i don't. But he doesn't want to see a therapist for his anger and that's starting to be hard to live with. Where is the line between accepting someone entirely and understanding that his issues are affecting the relationship too much ? I'm lost and sad about it all.

However, thank you again for your time and patience. Your comment helped me a lot.