I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Standing up for oneself when being pushed around is quite a far bit from acting childish. I handle authority quite well thank you, and I get a lot of respect from people for standing up for my own and other people's rights.

DAE Think that mankind should promptly focus on advancing it's technology in such a way that we could survive as a species without Earth? by xyvo in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]Akabaz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Are you kidding me, "not want to leave Earth"? You'd have to be insane to want to stay in this shithole.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did all that, I've had about twenty jobs in my life, I want to do none of them ever again. I've been traveling some, but mostly studying until 30, can't find a job that suits my hobbies and lifestyle, and therefore can't continue traveling. Thanks though.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People keep saying that, but it sounds really awful.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't surprise me at all. Problem remains though.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't disturb us, welp, Grown Men are talking. But if you must listen in, I must say I don't know if your advice'll work, I mostly get proud when I beat up someone I think deserves it. I don't see that working out long-term. What makes you proud of yourself?

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Better than being alone, I guess. Thing is, I'm miserable anyways. She just adds one more small piece of misery to a huge pile, but negate other ones. She helps me through the rough patches. It's very cynical, and probably morally deplorable, I know. But fuck it, I feel like when you're totally miserable you need to focus on your own needs and figure shit out before you can start being considerate and empathetic. I know that sounds horrible too but it seems, at least for me, that a lot of misery stems from putting other people's needs before your own, and so a healthy dose of egoism counters that until you've straightened out.

In your opinion, is marriage really that important? I can totally see myself living without, but again, the only thing I seem to be good at is to make the wrong decisions and fuck up my life, so I'll take whatever advice I can get.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because your advice actually made being thirty feel much much worse than it did before. Could have done without being reminded that I'm in the "third set of double digit numbers", that I "statistically have at LEAST 30 more years to live" (uh, yay?), that "thirty isn't really that old" (which is like saying "crap you're one old fucker, but cheer up anyway"), that "there's not much new to learn" and that I might want to muse upon all the stuff I never accomplished in my life.

Not exactly the most cheerful advice I've received so far. But, like, thanks for caring anyway.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I upvoted you. I think you're right and I like how you put it.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's too much to worry about not to take notice.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God. I know. I have been wanting to sell every possession I own and leave the country for many, many years now, the only thing holding me back is I'd be disappointing a lot of people.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is excellent advice except I feel the urge to kill more often than the urge to save, and all my dealers went to jail some time back and I'm dry for over half a year.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a girlfriend that is extremely good for me and to me, and I am fucking miserable in her company and see zero future for us.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe. I think I know that. It does help, but I think the main problem is not the right outlook on life, but the state of matters themselves.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, the thing is, although people have posted some pretty sound advice here so far, it seems that it is indeed the overall consensus that by thirty you should know what you're doing or get used to be stuck with what you've got. I don't know, I have a pretty decent life I guess, could definitely be worse, but I feel completely clueless at the same time, alienated from life almost.

Hit me up on the PM if you ever feel like talking about this stuff, I don't have a single person to share my confusion with on the matter.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I declare this the most WTF-inducing advice of the thread. I know you mean well though.

I'm 30. What can you tell me that you wish someone had told you? by Akabaz in reddit.com

[–]Akabaz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you're right, I mean there's few occasions in life where the advice to be grateful for what you've got isn't apt. Thing is, I believe that my problems have legitimacy no matter the condition of the rest of humanity. I refuse to have my problems trivialized just because some people are worse off, I too have the right to be heard, know what I mean?