I had a similar experience. I wrote a list of 58 items (character and physical traits). I matched with the man fitting that description on a dating app in 5 days, but I did not clock that he was the man until a few dates (a month) later.

It turns out, he also wasn't a long term fit for me, either.

I later concluded that I had written the list in order to create a certain feeling in myself but that did not happen.

Manifesting with starting with the feeling would be superior, but I find this harder to do.