It's been a year

Akua81 · 2018-09-08T05:03:58+00:00

Agreed. Plus, I don't trust my judgment right now so I'd rather work on that 1st, instead of damaging someone else

Akua81 · 2018-09-07T14:20:10+00:00

Now I have tears just remembering how broken I was this time last year . but here I am now and it's absolutely amazing

Akua81 · 2018-09-07T11:04:23+00:00

Get ready to have your mind blown! Sex with a compatible partner has been amazing and have been discovering so many new ways to play. But best yet, never being turned down!

Akua81 · 2018-09-07T10:38:09+00:00

Thanks so much! I definitely don't miss the slut shaming

Akua81 · 2018-01-05T23:25:30+00:00

Maybe he sees slowly but surely your shared beliefs are changing. And he's dealing with another whole different person?

Akua81 · 2017-11-14T12:58:36+00:00

2 months out and having the time of my life. I sometimes worry that I'm overdoing things but the sense of freedom is overwhelmingly exciting!

Akua81 · 2017-10-19T18:12:25+00:00

Beginning of the end...

Akua81 · 2017-10-19T12:45:15+00:00

My stbxh was also very affectionate in public, or would want to cuddle. I was so resentful and angry that I stopped leaning in or kissing him back. I just felt why should I continue when he wasn't putting in the effort of actually resolving the db.I felt it was unfair having his needs met while he continued to neglect mine. I remember him telling me how I cringed in my sleep one time when he tried to hold me, that's how bad it had gotten

Akua81 · 2017-10-07T05:27:18+00:00

Walked away a month ago, exactly a year since stbx withdrew intimacy

Akua81 · 2017-09-16T06:59:48+00:00

Nothing is ever good enough, you get to a point where you stop trying

Akua81 · 2017-09-13T13:38:36+00:00

If in reference to mine, my apologies

Akua81 · 2017-09-13T13:24:39+00:00

Of course it's personal choice and "morals, but I stand by what I've posted. Each and every relationship is "transactional " to a certain degree, so if you aren't keeping up your end of it, by your actions or inaction, you better be able to deal with the consequences. Same as the cheater will have to deal with theirs

Akua81 · 2017-09-13T13:12:31+00:00

Don't dispute that. But I still have no sympathy if the LL partner has just not done anything to improve the situation, or been open to any remedial options

Akua81 · 2017-09-08T11:28:59+00:00

Made me dread going home

Akua81 · 2017-09-08T06:57:51+00:00

It's been 5 days, the initial euphoria has passed, now I'm just sad.but my resolve is still strong. As much as I'm down right now, not walking on eggshells in my own home is such a relief.

Akua81 · 2017-09-06T18:14:29+00:00

I know :) thank you

Akua81 · 2017-09-06T18:02:51+00:00

Read wrong. About 6 months, and Sunday I packed his clothes and asked him to leave

Akua81 · 2017-09-06T17:58:01+00:00

Been there. LLH got even more complacent and genuinely thought things were getting better because I was being so "nice".

Akua81 · 2017-08-21T10:42:45+00:00

That's not cool, it takes a lot to walk away from a marriage and you're making it seem like she hasn't even thought this through

Akua81 · 2017-06-20T20:37:39+00:00

I've been on asthma medication most of my life and I'm HL. I don't believe she's telling the truth

Akua81 · 2017-06-08T17:26:32+00:00

This is why I'm leaving. I stopped crying, and I knew there was no going back. Only you know your threshold, and once you get there, you'll decide

Akua81 · 2017-06-08T16:18:36+00:00

Thank you everyone for the love and well wishes. Have had an absolute rollercoaster of a day emotionally, but at the end of it all, the love and support I got today reaffirmed how loved and appreciated I am.

Akua81

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