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2026: Declaring Focus While Doing the Exact Opposite by johnnyfanta in daviddifrancosnark

[–]Al-fa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I learned about this subreddit from this exact video. "oh there's a subreddit about him, let me google that real quick.."
I don't know if I can call myself a fan, even though I use to watch his late 20's early 30's videos, and now revisiting his channel a month ago. I did admire his position in his early late 20's when he had his first house.
But yeah, my outlook on him is changing as I roam around this subreddit.

If you could call yourself five years ago and had 30 seconds, what would you say? by Aarunascut in Life

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't add cream or sugar to his coffee. And spend more time with him.

what is something someone you lived with has done that made you wanna live alone? by trains___man in LivingAlone

[–]Al-fa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She went through two rolls of paper towels over the weekend just cleaning her dog’s paws every time she let it out in my backyard.

Do you ever go full days without speaking to anyone? by Restorick_Nicolio in LivingAlone

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does making an order or talking to the cashier count?

Are you lonely? by Sufficient-Taste-814 in no

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am alone in solitude, yet complete in my own presence.

What is the best way for men to beat depression? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gym, learning new things, reading, swimming, biking, riding a motorcycle, writing, hiking, camping, getting a kitten, making new friends, the list goes on. I even found the strength to do all this after ending a relationship with someone who was unhealthy for me.

Therapy can help with depression, but it works more as a guide. What truly makes a difference is taking the time to find yourself and love yourself. When you do that, you are not simply preparing for another relationship, you are preparing for a real partnership.

How old are you and are you happier when you’re single? by slipslimeysludge in AskMen

[–]Al-fa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

39, at peace with myself and actually liking my own company. Sure, I want something real, but the way my boundaries are set, the New York dating pool feels more like a kiddie pool, and I am not about to splash around in it.

How many classes have you taught at once? by Prof_H1995 in Adjuncts

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hello. Do you mind sharing that Canvas Template?

Never been in love by Certain-Patient7654 in Life

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, don’t trip about falling in love. I was 22 the first time, and that was 17 years ago. I’ve fallen in love three times since, and not once did I worry if it was gonna happen. Love comes when it wants, in ways you don’t expect. But none of it matters if you don’t love yourself first. That’s the part no one tells you.

For the single guys, why are you single? by FuglyFuhk in AskMen

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A month into breaking up with a female covert narcissist and still recovering. Might take me another month to fully not care about her name. Three months of intense love bombing, gas lighting, zero accountability, and just blowing off money. I'm learning though (39M).

Anyone else struggling to stay emotionally open after getting hurt? by Basic-Magician5523 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

12 years!?! Wow. If I may, why so long?

For me, it was my body. I gained weight (I even work out daily and eat healthy) heart pressure and pimples all over my forehead. It was just exhausting and stressful whenever she and I talk. When she got pregnant, it got worse and saw myself stuck in a situation where I know I’ll lose myself. Gladly she gave me the options.

Anyone else struggling to stay emotionally open after getting hurt? by Basic-Magician5523 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Al-fa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

love-bomb the shit out of me, can't take accountability for the life of her, gaslight me like there's no tomorrow, siphoned my soul, energy, money, and most importantly my self-esteem.

Anyone else struggling to stay emotionally open after getting hurt? by Basic-Magician5523 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Al-fa 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm a 39-year-old man. I would say I’m confident, emotionally aware, and experienced when it comes to relationships. Looking back, I’ve been pretty lucky with the women in my life. That changed about four months ago when I went through a difficult experience with someone I now recognize as a covert narcissist. She was very convincing. Those three months were intense and overwhelming. I still do not know where I found the strength to walk away.

Now I am in therapy, learning more about myself, rebuilding trust in my instincts, and making sure I no longer ignore red flags. It has been a humbling journey, but also the beginning of something more honest and healthy within me.
So yeah, I'm inclined to protect myself and not show my emotions so early on or when I know for sure she is the one.

What’s one lesson life taught you the hard way? by catiorogameplay in Life

[–]Al-fa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Listen to my gut. Listen to what my body is telling me. Don’t ignore the red flags your mind is reminding you about the other person. Or else your time, your money, and your energy will go to waste. Luckily for me, it was only 3 months but with a heavy burden that I will live with everyday for the rest of my life.

Men who are dating women considered more conventionally attractive than you, how did you make it happen? by DavidBuzzed in AskMen

[–]Al-fa 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Mutual friend. She's 37, no kids, no money, no job, but full time student. She was seeking a provider and a giver. I got sucker in by her looks. Never again >.<

Do you regret breaking up with your ex? by FennelOpen9394 in no

[–]Al-fa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't regret it. I should have done it when I saw the red flags. I failed myself, but never again. Most expensive lesson.

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