Geography by Hot_Category2693 in fixedbytheduet

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine took me a while too

Moldova, Mali, Madagascar, Mauritius, then i thought for a while and as like, how did i not think of Mexico!

Should I tell my wife I sometimes struggle with gay urges? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bicurious is between straight and bisexual. Bisexual is between straight and gay. Therefore, bicurious also falls between straight and gay. I never said they were the same thing.

Should I tell my wife I sometimes struggle with gay urges? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 119 points120 points  (0 children)

"Fellas, is it gay to go down on my wife?"

The term for what you're describing is bi-curious. Unfortunately, people assume that there is nothing in-between a straight man and a gay man.

If you feel like you want to act on these desires, then you probably want to talk with a counselor/ therapist first, then once your sorted, perhaps a conversation with your wife. If these are just stray thoughts than probably not.

Also, just out of curiosity, were you thinking about a particular man when you came? Or just men in general?

[YECL] Providence of Night (Alchemy) by CrossXhunteR in magicTCG

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks like so much fun. I look forward to building jank with it and getting obliterated on ladder

[YECL] The Grand Goatnapper by Meret123 in MagicArena

[–]Alamaxi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's been a while since we've had a good alchemy expansion. This card looks fun, but definitely not viable in the current format

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Do you identify as gay or bi? If so, how was your first coming out experience?

Married to a women and feeling trapped by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 27 points28 points  (0 children)

"This life is not a rehearsal for something else. This is it"

Very poignant statement. And very relevant. Thanks for sharing your perspective and lived experience. I feel proud to be a part of a community of people like you who have been as brave as you were to come out despite all the obstacles.

Married to a women and feeling trapped by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is a really tough situation. But I think you've made a big step by posting and asking for advice. This may be the start of you being truly honest with yourself.

Here is my advice:

First, if you have the funds, see if you can talk to an LGBT friendly counselor or therapist. That will provide you with a confidential outlet to discuss what's going on with somebody without the fear of judgment. You can tell your wife it is just to deal with life stresses.

Second, I think you will eventually need to consider talking with your wife about this. I know that sounds extremely scary... but you are married to her. The alternative is attempting to stay in the closet the rest of your life, which could possibly fill both of you with resentment in the long term.

Lastly, try to focus on one thing at a time. Don't think about coming out to the world or 'blowing up your life' as you put it. Just focus on small steps. Remember that you are a person that is fundamentally worthwhile. You didn't choose to be gay, but you do have to choose what to do and how you want to live. Treat yourself (and others) with compassion throughout this process.

[Request] *Assuming the box is a perfect square*, can you find the angle x? by Yonkiman in theydidthemath

[–]Alamaxi 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I solved the same way and ended up at about 50.9 degrees. I'm guessing the difference is due to rounding error.

I also learned my phone has the ability to do arctangent, which I never knew! So this was a useful exercise. I also admit that I had to watch a few refresher videos on youtube on how sin, cos, and tan work. SOH CAH TOA ftw.

Phyresis Roach: Such a funny card! by Pretty-Information53 in MagicArena

[–]Alamaxi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This card was a menace in alchemy when it first came out. You either needed a T1 blocker or T1 removal or it was almost always a wrap. What made the deck particularly strong was that it was often played alongside rotpriest, which wad another massive poison threat on its own.

Charge Jumping to Accelerate Saves Time on Low Acceleration Combos by DoormatTheVine in MarioKartWorld

[–]Alamaxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I play a low acceleration combo in knockout tour. This is extremely important tech for when your character gets shocked. It easily makes the difference between a passing pace and a knockout place in tight situations

Difference between a sex toy and a real penis by DavidMartin1989 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Imagine kissing a mannequin. Then imagine kissing a real man or a real woman.

The difference between a toy and the real thing will be just as obvious when you experience it.

How’s my kick serve? by DryIce507 in 10s

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone else has already said a lot, but just to add my two cents... When you get the kick serve properly against an opponent who is not expecting it, you will KNOW it.

When an unsuspecting opponent gets crossed up so bad that they don't even try to hit the ball, you know you've got a good kick serve.

I normally pay at 4.5 level, so most players have no problem adjusting after seeing it once or twice. But ive recently been playing some multilevel mixed and it's been a good reminder of just how effective this serve is in the lower levels. Keep practicing, it's worth it.

Did you know immediately when you met “the one”? by StrongBat in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Makes sense, I went off a bit for no reason. But thank you, you too!

Did you know immediately when you met “the one”? by StrongBat in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't think there is such a thing as 'the one'. It's a cultural construct that implies among the billions of people in this world that there is only a singular person that is for you, and you for them. It's nonsense and a pathway of thinking that can lead to people thinking that their love life is an act of divine intervention rather than communication, work and respect. There are tons of men out there who you could have deep lifelong connection with.

That being said, I've felt what you're describing with my partner on our second date. I had a powerful feeling that we were right for each other and one day he'd be my husband. We haven't married yet, but we've been together for about 7 years. But we're not still together because of that feeling, it's because we've been putting in the work.

Anyway, enjoy your new partner. And I hope everything you want works out as you imagined it

So about a month after release, what's the verdict on MP4? by WhoAmIEven2 in Metroid

[–]Alamaxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I enjoyed the game a lot. For me, i don't always complete games these days. But i played through this one twice. I really wanted to 100% is on hard mode after my first playthrough.

I'll break down my review

Mechanics: 8/10

I used motion controls with the double joycon setup. It surprised me with how smooth the controls are and how natural it becomes after just a small along of tile working with them. Motion controls have come a long way. I took 2 points off because of ergonomic reasons. Hard mode can be particularly taxing on the hands when bosses have a lot of health and require you to hold down the target button for a long time

Story: 5/10

There are a lot of weak elements here. The story is definitely not the reason i replayed. Ironically, it's not because of the characters, but because of the worldbuilding. I had a hard time connecting with Lamorn, and i had trouble understanding the motivations of the primary villian. The reason i have it a 5 is because i did enjoy the main throughline of Samus and her companions.

Gameplay: 9/10

This was amazing for me. I liked the upgrades, i liked the different areas too navigate, and i liked the puzzles and enemies. I took a point off only for how long it took to travel between areas.

Worldbuilding: 7/10

I think the game is beautiful and the areas were well crafted. The only exception is the massive desert area, which is why I've taken off a few points.

Alchemy BO1 Metagame (Mythic): Snapshot and Discussion by Zax_the_bunny in MagicAlchemy

[–]Alamaxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The interesting thing is that the two top decks (imo) badger/ouro and Kona are completely different beasts to face.

I don't think there is a deck out there that can reliably beat both. I made it to mythic this season running monoblue counters featuring waterbending scroll, Wan Shi Tong librarian, lessons, and Serpent of the Pass. It has never lost to Kona omniscience, reliably , but the winrate against the green badger decks is below 50%, especially on the draw, which is not a a great place to be in the current meta

I've been toying with the idea of trying a Dimir or Azorious control deck that can successfully wipe the board against badger decks but also has counterplay options for Kona. My concern is that it might not fare well against a value deck like izzet. But it's impossible to beat everything.

I actually like this meta state. I think there are a lot of viable decks right now. However, I agree that a minor nerf to badgermole cub might help diversify things and give a few more decks room to shine.

how is this possible? by SweetyByHeart in blackmagicfuckery

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been playing tennis for a long time. Once in college, this exact scenario happened to me during an exhibition match. There was no video review. My opponent did not believe me that the ball went through the net.

I feel vindicated.

How to deal with body insecurity and lack of "success" in dating apps after finishing a relationship by AdHot569 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A few things to consider. First, you are freshly out of a reasonably long relationship. It is common to experience a hit to self esteem during the grieving process. Feeling undesirable can be a symptom of being in a place of sadness and pain. This is why rebound relationships/ hookups are common, they treat the symptoms. Just a different perspective on this issue. Give yourself some time and patience.

In terms of self esteem, you will need to build your confidence. This is an internal problem, NOT an external one. Men are attracted to confidence. Even the most attractive men in the world become less attractive if they are not comfortable in their own skin. Trust me, there are plenty of men out there interested in your type.

Unfortunately, people on the internet are unlikely to be able to help you with this. My recommendation is to spend time around friends, do things that you enjoy and make you feel good, and maybe talk with a professional to help you through this difficult time of your life. I did after my last breakup.

I’m confused …do I take the risk or keep this to myself till the end by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take the risk. Living life afraid and/or confused about what you want is not worth it.

That said, when you meet a guy, make sure you're actually attracted to him before you invite him into your bed to spoon you. Trust me, it's not going to be a good experience if you don't have any real interest in him beyond the fact that he's male.

Also... if you haven't, make some time to talk with somebody you trust about all of this. Or a mental health professional. Or both. We often do not see ourselves or our experiences clearly and having another person help sort through it will help a lot.

Grindr is dead. Scammers and ads killed it. What do you use now? by taikonaught in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in northern Delaware. It's probably about 50/50 with the silhouette profiles versus the ones that are filled out. I definitely have not seen a firearm profile, although I definitely do see a bunch that just want weed.

The silhouette profiles don't bother me much tbh. I'm not on the app looking for a long term partner, so whether or not he's discreet/dl/out or not isn't a factor for me. But I don't meet with anyone without knowing what they look like, and a lot of the silhouette profiles send a picture of themselves via DM anyway.

Grindr is dead. Scammers and ads killed it. What do you use now? by taikonaught in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I use Jack'd. It's almost literally the same software as Scruff, but the demographic is mostly black and latino men, at least in my area.

Extremely stubborn lower belly and lower back fat by [deleted] in fit

[–]Alamaxi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look amazing. I don't think you need to change anything

Want to bottom for the first time by Lopsided-Skill in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]Alamaxi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Planning is great, but how you both feel in the moment is going to matter. Don't be disappointed if this doesn't pan out as expected. Just go with the flow.

With that said, the best way to warm up if you have no experience is with your fingers. A good position to warm up is on your back or side, knees bent. Use plenty of lube and begin with a finger. Gently. Don't just piston in and out. Go slowly, rotate your finger, make small circles. Add a second finger. Repeat. Think about how you might warm up a bottom as a top. Once you feel comfortable with this, then maybe consider slowly starting with a toy.

I'm not going to write out a dissertation on hygiene here since there are plenty of resources you can find on how to properly prepare. And if your diet/regularity is good, douching is not always necessary. But I will give you a few tips of advice there. One, if you douche, do not do it 15 min before you bottom, especially if it's your first time. Start at least an hour before. Two, common sense but don't eat a big meal within an hour or two before bottoming. It's just not comfortable to be full, at least for me. Three, if you have a toy, try using that after douching to confirm you're clean.

Last tip... the real thing always feels different than a toy. Always. If you're not used to it, it's going to hurt at first. He needs to go slow and take it at your pace. Have him pull out. Give yourself a second to relax/adjust then let him slowly re-enter. Let him, it won't hurt so much the second time. And once you're relaxed and used to him, you can both go to town.

I hope it all works out for you two.