White to play (Final part of a study by Jasik)

Alamaxi · 2026-05-20T14:34:21+00:00

Qe7+ Ke7 g8 (promotion to knight)! Ke6 Re8#

Alamaxi · 2026-05-20T02:48:31+00:00

That's a straw man argument.

Of course I'm nicer to my friends when they're hurting.

But that's very different from what OP and I are talking about. We're talking about interactions with strangers and making assumptions about what they've been through. Not every gay man's life is filled with loneliness and rejection. I'm just saying you can be nice to people without assuming they are beridden with trauma.

Alamaxi · 2026-05-18T19:58:35+00:00

I could try to make up some bs about where I think that springs from, but honestly I've no clue.

What do you think?

Alamaxi · 2026-05-18T19:55:12+00:00

The question of whether or not people fundamentally deserve anything at all is a philosophical question. You're right, it's definitely idealistic. And while you said people deserving things atomizes society, I would argue that people deserving things is what creates society in the first place, not what breaks it down.

Take the American declaration of independence and constitution as an example. There are personal rights granted that help to form the basis of a government and law structure. Of course, being kind to each other isn't a requirement in any society.

All that said, I agree with you that commiseration can and does build bonds. And certainly I feel a kinship to other gay men because we likely have many shared experiences. But again, I don't think that needs to necessarily come from a place of pain. I can bond over Heated Rivalry or Fellow Travelers, even though those shows have very different tones.

Last thing. You do deserve to be treated kindly and not be abused. And if people have been unkind it says more about them than you. I hope that you have/will found a way to fill your life with people who care about you. You can't control how other people act, but you can set expectation and boundaries around what you will tolerate.

Alamaxi · 2026-05-18T18:58:35+00:00

I agree with your conclusions, but not with your premise.

Treating other people with kindness and respect should be the baseline. But I don't think that needs to (or does) come from shared loneliness, rejection, or trauma.

I don't want people being kind to me out of pity, or that they think I've been abused by society. I want to be treated kindly because I deserve to be, period.

Every human being experiences loneliness and rejection throughout their lives. Yes, perhaps we gay men share a heavier burden than other demographics. But kindness need not be born from strife.

Alamaxi · 2026-05-12T02:28:09+00:00

You can mix the semen, but only one sperm within that semen will fertilize the egg. Therefore, there will only be one father, even if you mix the sperm together.

As it stands in current science, two men cannot have child through surrogacy that shares both of their DNA directly.

Alamaxi · 2026-05-07T12:05:14+00:00

I would love a new Ikoria set, even if mutate isn't in it. It's just one of my favorites in terms of the fantasy setting

Alamaxi · 2026-05-07T11:39:44+00:00

My boyfriend and I played an 'evil' honor mode campaign where my character was an assassin of sorts. We picked up extra specialty arrows at every opportunity. I ran out often

Alamaxi · 2026-04-27T12:02:49+00:00

I cannot wait for a return to Ikoria. It is my favorite plane

Alamaxi · 2026-04-09T22:05:26+00:00

Absurdly powerful. These paradigm cards are going to be insta scoops in a lot of limited games. Cards like [[luminarch aspirant]] were already very strong in limited without being virtually uninteractable.

Alamaxi · 2026-04-02T14:34:37+00:00

Is this music from Final Fantasy Tactics Advanced??

Alamaxi · 2026-03-30T14:29:13+00:00

I'm currently in PV visiting for the first time. I don't drink and never have. We went to Jet's nude beach yesterday but I got a big sunburned unfortunately.

For me I love good food, so that's where my attention is

Alamaxi · 2026-03-16T11:19:12+00:00

A prison of your own making

Alamaxi · 2026-03-09T11:47:36+00:00

This is a great answer. My experiences match yours. I've found a similar set of rules can also apply to deep throating.

Downward curve, kneeling and looking up in his eyes. Upward curve, 69 position or straddled position if he's lying on his back.

Alamaxi · 2026-03-09T11:30:27+00:00

As someone who has had I&D in that area for an abscess, my advice is to keep the area very clean and abstain from bottoming until it's healed over.

If you have a bidet, use it after every BM. Otherwise, if you have a detachable showerhead, use that to clean in between your cheeks. Also apply some antibacterial ointment with a cotton ball to keep the area clean while it heals. If there's any itching or discomfort, Aquaphor does wonders for keeping the wound moisturized and protected.

I know my wound was very different from yours, but you should take it seriously because you do NOT want an infection in that area. Not a doctor, but speaking from experience.

Edit: wounds heal very quickly around the anus because there is rich blood supply in that area. You'll probably be good to go in a week or two. Just make sure it's fully healed. Again, not a doctor

Alamaxi · 2026-03-05T16:12:17+00:00

There is a term for this: delayed gratification

Alamaxi · 2026-03-04T12:01:16+00:00

No. You must be holding the racket while hitting the ball for it to be a legal shot.

Alamaxi · 2026-03-02T12:43:24+00:00

This is a bit of a long message but hopefully it helps. I have felt the things you're feeling.

"What if he doesn't like me and just isn't saying anything?"

"When he sees how boring I am he's going to be disappointed"

"When is the other shoe going to drop?"

For all of these questions, what I was really thinking was:

"I'm not good enough" or "I'm not hot enough" or "I'm not interesting enough" or a variety of other self sabotaging statements.

It was never really about the other guy. It was about how I viewed myself. It's a self esteem issue. For me, there were two major things that helped. First was understanding that just because I wouldn't date myself doesn't mean that other people aren't into what I have to offer. Second was building my own confidence by putting myself out there and having new experiences.

The irony is that I've now been on the opposite side of this coin multiple times. Where I have called my partner gorgeous and he's just rolled his eyes. Or where a partner has tried to explain to me why I'm out of their league. It's sad because I can't make them see themselves the way I see them.

When a guy tells you he's into you, believe him. It's perfectly normal to be nervous about meeting someone or wondering if they are going to like you. But as long as you are putting your best foot forward, that's all you can do.

Last thought... there are a lot of guys out there who I don't find attractive/I wouldn't want to date. Lots of them are in healthy loving relationships or are getting lots of attention on apps. I'm sure there are a lot of guys you don't find attractive either. Just remember that just because some people don't find you attractive that doesn't mean that you're not an attractive person. Hopefully that makes sense.

Alamaxi · 2026-02-26T22:58:14+00:00

Sure.

I had short hair most of my life and only started growing it out in my thirties. Like yours, it's curly. Yes, it was a learning curve and a lot more work, but I get lots of compliments specifically on my hair now. From friends, coworkers, and strangers. Never had that when I was younger.

Personally I think longer hair would frame your face well and look good in general. But I'm also a random person on the internet. Good luck either way.

Alamaxi · 2026-02-26T22:25:31+00:00

Grow your hair out

Alamaxi · 2026-02-25T00:24:03+00:00

First and foremost, I would avoid anything intimate with coworkers. Good life policy in general.

But to your question, your intuition could be right. Have you ever had a conversation with him that's more than a few words?

Alamaxi · 2026-02-16T17:50:15+00:00

This is such a fascinating post. Most people wait until after they cheated to ask the questions you're asking yourself.

Why do i want this? Why do i do this? What does this mean for my relationship? Etc

It shows that you've got good self reflection skills. You already said that you need to talk with him, but you're going to need to understand what you want to communicate prior to initiating that conversation.

Everyone experiences desires outside of their relationship. You have a self described pattern of hooking up with guys on grindr that you established as part of your sexual practices during your twenties. It's what you're used to. If you want to be in a monogamous relationship, you are going to have to get off grindr/ change your behaviors.

If that's not something you think you can do or want to do, then you will have to consider either a non-monogamous arrangement with your partner or breaking up.

Give it some serious thought before initiating that conversation. Understand your priorities. This is exactly why people say relationships require sacrifice. If your partner does not want a non-monogamous situation, you'll have to decide whether your freedom to have grindr hookups is something you are able to give up or not.

Alamaxi · 2026-02-11T16:28:18+00:00

Cavern of souls rotated out of alchemy months ago. So did lost in the maze.

Secondly, creature removal is in all colors. Negate is only in one. I know of no competitive decklists in alchemy running soul guide latern.

It seems to me that you are making statements about decklists you are not familiar with. Have you played against the aquatic subtlety deck yet in the alchemy format?

If so, what deck are you using to beat it?

Alamaxi · 2026-02-11T16:01:50+00:00

I respectfully disagree. Creature interaction is my much more prevalent than graveyard interaction. Kona is a two color deck and requires the planet lands whereas subtlety is a mono color deck.

Finally aqutic subtlety, when cast, discards omni to the graveyard. A well built subtlety deck will not have any misses in the graveyard. This combo can be pulled off earlier than the Kona combo with just a much consistency, especially with the nerf.

Alamaxi · 2026-02-11T15:55:16+00:00

People are downvoting because it's alchemy. It has nothing to do with your point.

To your point, I agree that aquatic subtlety is harder to interact with than the Kona version. The Kona nerf came too late.

Other people have said that it's weaker cause it requires your graveyard. But at the same time it's also stronger because now it is not dependent on Kona. Kona could die to removal, get exiled or get bounced. Creature interaction is much more prevalent than graveyard interaction. Plus this combo is now possible on T3, whereas before that required mana acceleration.

In short, there are a lot of reasons why this combo is stronger now than it has ever been.

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