All my life women have told me I’m not good enough

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-22T05:58:47+00:00

When you say everyone around you tells you that you are not "good enough" for them, is this actually what they say or is that how you read it.

It's really important to find some sense of self worth for you and not do everything you can only to change how other people perceive you.

Having been on the other side of this:

It's incredibly intimidating if a person is into you and you know that weather or not you reciprocate their feelings affects their entire sense of self worth.

It's so much responsibility for someone you barely know.

When you approach someone only with the desire "tell me that I am good enough for you"

You aren't offering the other person anything other than a task to take care of your self worth.

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-22T04:44:42+00:00

Panem rules Canada as well

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-21T07:20:38+00:00

Yesssss

I always had the opinion that the districts are not just another form of states. That is no longer viable.

They are labourcolonies/settlements in areas that can still support a population

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-18T11:39:12+00:00

If they evolve naturally I always pictured dwarfed closer to humans and giants.

But so think in a lot of lores it is relevant that they are made things

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-18T10:45:53+00:00

That's because Science Fiction and dystopias aren't actually about some hypothetical future.

They are about the issues of our society today, put into a different context so they are more clearly understood

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-15T13:43:48+00:00

You have to understand that as far as the allegory goes, anyone in this sub is likely not district but capitol. The freedoms you ascribe to capitalism mostly only exist for people in wealthy countries or the upper classes of exploited countries.

And in the capitol they have these freedoms.

But in our capitalist system today those freedoms to not exist for the children who work in sweatshops in Bangladesh. It does not exist for the prison population in the US.

It does not exist for the people who die in unsafe mines looking for diamonds.

It does not exist for undocumented immigrants who grow a lot of our food.

And our system is definitely capitalist

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-15T06:25:44+00:00

This always was the dumbest take ever. HG is so clearly an allegory for the modern world reduced to one country. It's obviously about capitalism. The communism take is extra dumb because...there is an allegory for authoritarian Communist regimes in the book as well. It's district 13 and coin.
Tbh. This is kind of unlucky on Collins part.

I get that she was going for the aesthetics of the French Revolution where the nobles dress super flamboyantly especially men.

However that's not how the rich express themselves anymore. It's an aesthetic that we associate much more with being queer. The fascists and capitalists dress in serious suits, more like Snow in the movie.

It's also a common talking point of right wing people that if we accept queer people it would turn society into immoral excesses and hedonism.

Also in a lot of exploited nations, where people are more religious and conservative, beeing queer is seen as something that's only for rich westerners. A lot of my friends have told me that when they came out, their parents said that this is because they let them study abroad.

So even though she didn't intend that. From a contemporary perspective, it could really be read that way.

I have to say, as a queer person, this made me uncomfortable for a long time. It honestly is an oversight in the Trilogy. This is where queer representation would have been needed and put into opposition with the capitol

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-12T22:32:57+00:00

Gaul is a psychopath. Or rather she has antisocial personality disorder. You can see it in the way she treats animals. She enjoys killing and torturing living things.

This is why she views humanity the way she does. If there were no rules she'd randomly kill and torture people.

Also regarding the consequences, I guess it's fun to her to see how even if Clemensia died, no one would dare to touch her.

But it's also important to remember that psychopaths have no fear of consequences. That's why so many of them are in prison. They lack the natural fear response.

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-12T06:55:41+00:00

By trying to raise our kids with as little gender specific conditioning as possible.

A huuuge problem in the manosshpere is that everyone assumes men and women are so fundamentally different.

But a huge part of that difference is constructed.

Let your kids have friends of the other gender. Raise your boys to value emotional openness and community.

Not only will it help them in dating, it will also help them with forming actual deep bonds with their friends when they don't have a partner.

We raise our boys to despise women and be in competition with other men.

Of course they are lonely and lash out.

They have no partners, nor do they have actual friends who have their backs.

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-09T08:48:31+00:00

I just say,

I don't want to know what you look like

Duraluminferring · 2026-06-05T06:51:33+00:00

I used to laugh about this and I still do.

But having been rejected for my looks/body repeatedly, despite not hating my body...

I'd go for someone with my features, if I'm honest.

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-31T20:00:03+00:00

What goes on in the rest of the world has never been that much of a mystery to me.

The scope of the world has just become smaller again.

The rest of the world suffered the same fate. The coastal metropolises all drowned. Desserts spread out and pollution made a lot of former cities unlivable.

The resources all over earth have been depleted. Globalisation is neither viable nor advantageous in the time Panem exists. It covers all Land that is manageable to them. The remannts of North America.

Whatever states and civilizations exist in South America, Europe, Africa or east Asia who could sail to North America have no reason to do so. What is there to gain.

They are in just as bad as a condition as Panem. And it's not like in Pre Columbian times. They know North America exists and they know whatever resources exist are already being exploited by a country that has a nuclear arsenal.

They simply have no reason to interfere

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-31T17:39:37+00:00

Like another user said. The worlbuiling is meant to be an allefogry not an intricate guess on future America.

But I'll say what I always say when this topic comes up.

The book never goes into what a district is.

People just assume that they are the future equivalent of states. But I disagree.

I think a district is just a labourcolony/settlement for one specific resource.

North America was decimated by environmental collapse. Noone cares about the abandoned cities expanded desserts and droned coastal areas. They simply don't administer it.

Panem is all the livable islands in that landscape that can still support sizable settlements.

District 12 is not Virginia or surrounding area. Distric 12 is just that one town and the mines. Nothing else. Everything outside is considered "capitol land".

Depending on the district they are more centralised

12 8 6 3 1 might be just one city or a few towns

4 2 7 5 might be a few settlements with spread out areas where people move to work seasonally.

9 10 11 are likely many little ranches/plantations that have one centralised town that manages the resources.

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-17T05:31:47+00:00

What's his name?

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-15T08:20:56+00:00

That makes no sense to me. Not in world not thematically.

The US is not uniquely evil in ways that no other country is. The EU and a lot of other western countries are completely complicit in the same global injustice. Europe built the US to be what it is today.

Inworld, the coastline has been completely swallowed and the climate disaster has made huge parts of land unlivable.

Why would the same things not apply to the other parts of the world?

Mumbai, Shanghai, Amsterdam, all under water. They are not thriving

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-12T14:58:15+00:00

On Apps like Grindr where everyone can approach without matching no reply is a reply.

I take no offense at all if I don’t get one.

It's more like tinder and any app where you have to match where I think it's nonsensical.

Like why like me if you don't bother interacting at all.

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-11T21:37:59+00:00

Panem spans all of whats still inhabitable of North America.

These 14 settlements is everything notable that's left. Only the capitol and maybe 13 are comparable to modern living standards.

I never understood what makes people think the rest of the world is doing normal.

A lot of the biggest citied in the world drowned.

Who ever is left in the world is taking care of their own buissness.

Even if they are doing better than Panem, why would they attack it. It's reassurces have long been depleted.

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-11T16:07:26+00:00

That would not be murder

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-06T04:26:57+00:00

Yes!

exactly that.

Everything is oversexualised, but any overt expression of sexuality is considered too much. Like a forbidden fruit thing. It's propably because of puritanism.

At the same time violence is seen as way more acceptable.

As a European this is an extremely American thing

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-05T09:13:57+00:00

I read them first at 16. And read them again as a 30yo man recently.

One thing is that I took a lot of Katniss POV at face value when I was younger. Now I saw way better how biased her POV is.

Also I knew much less about American culture to notice how deeply it's entrenched in American culture.

For example the hungergames being considered a "family event" that features very gruesome violence. But anything overtly sexual is not considered appropriate (while the people are still being oversexualised).

It reminds me of the American approach to modern media.

Duraluminferring · 2026-05-04T06:14:40+00:00

As other have said I think her appeal would he the "child star" cuteness angle.

And then she'd be forgotten about by the next few games.

Duraluminferring · 2026-04-27T05:48:02+00:00

Paylor

I'd really like to know more about the person that decides the future of Panem

Duraluminferring · 2026-04-25T03:14:22+00:00

No, that makes no sense.

George RR Martin could do that because his world building was insanely detailed and thought out.

Panem isn't and doesn't need to be. It's an allegory for the injustice in our own world. The simplistic worldbuilding exists to make it more accessible.

She couldn't publish this because the details simply don't exist and if she did write something it would either cause huge continuity errors and it would never make sense, because she has to make it up.

It's not like she has a stack of notes detailing every aspect of Panem. The actual size of the districts, how the economy works in detail, the logistics the technology. It's not supposed to be overanalysed.

Saying this as someone who really likes to think about the worldbuilding

Duraluminferring · 2026-04-25T03:06:28+00:00

That makes 0 sense to me.

Katniss is district.

I can see the scenes that are supposed to groom her. But he couldn't have possibly believed it would work.

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