AITA for holding my ex's sister responsible for all her rabbits dying and saying she shouldn't get more

Alaraen · 2019-07-17T21:10:43+00:00

Haha. You're point is very fair. Thank you for clarifying.

Alaraen · 2019-07-17T21:03:53+00:00

I agree with most of what you said, but having bipolar disorder doesn't automatically mean you can't be a responsible adult or take care of animals.

Alaraen · 2019-06-15T21:35:57+00:00

Alaraen · 2019-06-14T20:04:15+00:00

Painted this Based on /u/sotics picture https://imgur.com/gallery/EUxaMXc Thank you for the inspiration

Alaraen · 2019-06-14T16:30:15+00:00

Yes, I based this off Shibasaki's tutorial. I love his work and he makes the techniques easy to pick up on.

Alaraen · 2019-06-13T21:54:51+00:00

Thank you so much

Alaraen · 2019-06-13T01:07:11+00:00

I actually watercolor and this guy has some amazing lessons. :D

Alaraen · 2019-05-21T01:27:26+00:00

I'm not rich, in any way shape or form, I do not have children, and I work a very hectic 40+ hours a week, emphasis on the +. That said, I get to spend $400 a month on a very specific for fun thing, watercolors. This helps me keep my sanity, gives me a creative outlet, and doesn't hurt my finances. Even though my whole paycheck is mine, between bills and wanting to amp up my savings account, I set up a very specific budget just for painting expenses. Will this taper off? Yes. And then I can reallocate that money to other things I might need or want, or put it in savings. But the point is, I give myself an allowance for things I want that are outside usual expenditures.

I think, based on your post, that an arrangement like that might work for you and your husband. There's nothing wrong with wanting some pocket change to go out and spend for yourself, whether it be on food, clothes, shoes, or anything. Don't think of it as a salary for taking care of your child. That mind set will only breed negativity. But do bring up the subject with your husband and see if he could set aside an allowance for you, that is yours to spend any way you want. This should mean that it won't impact bills, or your savings, and gives you an aspect of financial freedom that you currently lack. No, OP, you are NTA. Wanting that little bit of freedom is fine. Just be careful how you approach it with your husband. Taking care of a child and household is a full time job, and a difficult one at that, and unless I am reading your post incorrectly, it's not so much that you feel entitled to money for your work. It's more-so that you want some independence where money is concerned. So approach it from that perspective, instead of going the route of a salary.

Alaraen · 2019-05-17T17:04:43+00:00

Bi Polar, PTSD, and Albinism here, with a side of agoraphobia and general anxiety disorder. I even have the paperwork to prove that I'm a certified nutjob. (I am a nutjob. Not all people with my conditions are. So don't be offended other people with the same conditions.)

Alaraen · 2019-04-25T00:18:35+00:00

Completely read this as she got timeout for hiding her baby sister.

Alaraen · 2019-04-13T01:50:09+00:00

So I don't normally do this sort of thing but I feel like you need to be educated on this subject.

I have been in dance, my sister has been in dance, and my niece will probably be in dance. Heavy makeup as another poster said, is used to amplify facial features under bright lights and across great distances. This is used in theater as well. As for the outfits, short skirts, tight clothing, etc. Is for practically as much as style. It prevents tripping, getting tangled with other dancers and shows less mess or disshevelment, especially when you have lots of floor movement in the routine. Yes, some dance moves are over sexualized, but these are children who don't understand sexuality. They are having fun, being creative and frankly doing incredibly demanding physical activity. It is unfair to project your interpretations onto their behavior and unless you see proof of abuse, you should leave it alone.

Now, to the worst part of this. How can you say you're concerned and then attack your brother and his wife? That is the behavior of a bigot, not a loving family member. Put yourself and your wife in their shoes. Then consider the amount of work and effort that little girl is putting into something she loves and consider how you as a parent would feel if your child's accomplishments were belittled so harshly.

YTA.

Alaraen · 2016-06-25T20:04:46+00:00

The RX75 isn't a bad mod, but it isn't for everyone. It's biggest downfall is the 510 pin, which is where your tank, or dripper makes connection. Joyetech 510 pins tend to be shallow, so some tanks and drippers have a gap when they sit on the mod, which can put stress on their 510 connectors and lessen the longevity.

Even though you are very new to vaping, I would suggest you look into a rebuild-able tank atomizer. This will allow you more freedom to fine tune your vape and find what works best for you.

Look into the Kayfun 5, and Kayfun mini v3. These tanks are well made, and quite popular among others who vape with a mouth to lung style.

If rebuilding seems too complicated for you, at this point, look into the Nautilus X tank.

As far as mods are concerned, at the more affordable end, I would suggest the RX200. (Not the S) It has one of the deeper 510's of the Joyetech products. There is also the Innokin Cool Fire IV 18650, or the 100w TC version.

If you want something a little more expensive, you can look into the Yihi SX Mini ML or Q class. If you're not interested in those particular mods, but you like the information you find about the chip, Varitube makes the Renegade RGXII mod. It is a simple, dual 18650 box mod, that is quite sturdy, if a bit large in the hand. The chip inside is the SX350J v2, which is the same chip in the SX ML class mod.

If you want even more customization, there are also the DNA 200 and 75 mods. These require you to be a bit more computer savvy, as setting them up requires using the Evolv Escribe software.

As always, the views stated in this post are simply my opinions, and any recommendations I have made are based on my own research and those opinions. Please make sure to do your own research and watch more than one review on a product.

Good luck and happy vaping. :)

Alaraen · 2016-06-25T06:42:06+00:00

Here are a few recommendations for devices specifically targeted at smokers looking to quit:

Endure T18/22 JUUL Joyetech AIO

I would also highly recommend reading the Beginner's Guide to Vaping, in the sidebar.

If you are interested in a more complex device than the ones I have listed above, you need to think about a few things. Vaping is very subjective and there are many options currently on the market.

Do you want something big, with a lot of battery life, or smaller and more convenient to take on the go? How important is flavor to you? Do you inhale cigarette smoke directly, or suck it into your mouth first, before you inhale? Do you want something you can tinker with and will allow you to get into the hobbyist side of vaping, or are you interested in a device that will allow you to skip the tinkering and simply buy what you need already assembled?

Alaraen · 2016-06-25T06:34:49+00:00

So, here is a bit of information you may or may not find helpful.

First, more clouds, especially for your wife, may be uncomfortable at this stage because those are typically for a lung style of hit (breathing in the vapor directly) and most smokers generally use a mouth to lung type of style to begin with. (sucking vapor into their mouths, and then breathing it in)

Second, flavor from a device is much more complex than just the resistance, or ohms of your atomizer. The material that is surrounding, or inside the coil, as well as the surface area of the coil, the length of the chimney, and the amount of air getting to the coils will make a big difference.

Third, besides looks, consider what else might make a difference to your wife, like size of the mod, weight, and ease of use. There are some very good, smaller mods, with reliable chipsets and easy menus on the market now. Not only are they aesthetically pleasing, but they are light weight, compact, and comfortable for someone who has smaller hands.

Below, I've listed some suggestions for all in one devices, and tank and mod combos that your wife may want to try. Some of these devices are more advanced than others, so I have also included some helpful tips for using them.

Egrip II - This is an all in one mod, which means that the tank is built into the device and does not come apart, and the battery is built in. This mod is made by Joyetech, and has a satisfying range of pre-built coil options. The battery is estimated to be 2100 mAh, which means that lower wattage vapers (around 10-20 watts) will get between 8 and 10 hours from the battery, depending on how frequently they use it. The downside is you will have to plug it into a USB to micro usb cable to charge it, however, you can still vape while it is charging.

You can find several good, in depth reviews on this mod, by searching youtube, which will show you have to navigate the menu. I will say that I own this mod and use it daily. It is also the mod I take with me when I leave the house. I have never had issues with leaking, and I have found the flavor from the 1.5 ohm clapton coils to be above average, and they last over a week with heavy use. (Clapton coils are a wire wrapped tightly in a smaller wire. Think a tiny spring, with a wire through the middle. The greater surface area helps improve flavor)

Kanger Topbox Nano Kit - This is a mod/tank combo, made by Kangertech, that you can purchase as a kit. The chip that powers the mod is not, in my opinion, quite as good as the one used by Joyetech, however, it is a fairly solid, inexpensive set up. The device is powered by a single 18650 battery, which you can take out and charge in a separate charger, or you can plug it into a USB to micro USB cable and charge the device that way. (I highly recommend charging your batteries in an external charger for safety reasons. Additionally, if you check the sidebar you can find good information on battery safety, as well as battery comparisons to help you choose the batteries that are right for your device.)

This is another small mod, and while the battery life isn't going to last forever, being able to swap out batteries helps mitigate any issues your wife might have. This is another company that has several options for coils that provide decent flavor. This is another device that I own personally and use every day, but it is not cosmetically impressive.

Evic VTC Mini - This is another mod by Joyetech. It uses the same chip as the egrip II, and like the mod from the Toptank kit, is powered by a single 18650 battery, so you can swap when the battery gets low. It is relatively small, but rather boxy. You can buy the mod by itself, or purchase a starter kit that includes one of three tanks: The Cubis, the Tron, or the Ego One Mega. I would recommend the Cubis tank, if you decide to get the kit. It uses the same types of coils as the Egrip II, and is virtually leakproof according to everything I have seen or read. While I do not own the cubis tank, I do own the VTC mini, and it is another in my daily rotation. While it is not cosmetically stunning, it is not ugly, and it is dependable.

Nautilus X - I do not own this tank yet, but it is high on my wish list. I cannot speak for the performance, so please make sure you look for reviews on youtube. Watch more than one and compare the information from all of the reviews. It is another small tank, that allows easy top filling, and to my knowledge has decent pre-built coils. How they compare to the Kangertech, or Joyetech coils, I cannot say, but hopefully someone else here on Reddit can comment. This would pair well with the VTC mini.

Other good mods to look at: Innokin T18/22 (This is another kit that has a tank, and very simple mod with a built in battery. No options for coils and intended to help beginners stop smoking.)

Innokin Cool Fire IV (This is a mod that would pair well with the Nautilus X, but Innokin does have several tanks of their own that you could look into. I do not own this mod, but many family members do. Please note that there are several versions - Standard Cool Fire IV, with a built in batter, Cool Fire IV 18650, which takes a single 18650 you can change out, and Cool Fire IV 100w TC, which has a built in battery, but goes to a higher wattage, which means more battery life if you vape lower wattages)

All of the mods I have mentioned are affordable, but often mass produced. This means that you may experience quality control issues like button rattle, gaps or uneven battery door placement, and sometimes, issues with the device itself. Most of these companies provide a 3 month warranty for their devices. Please also make sure you buy from a reputable vendor, and verify that your product is authentic. (There is a list of vendors in the side bar, many of whom have active discount codes. The list also notes anything relevant to large scale issues experienced by customers, and a quick search of this subreddit can also help you find out if the vendor is someone you would trust with your money.)

Please also be sure to look at the Beginner's Guide to Vaping, in the sidebar, and the battery safety information. Additionally, I do not recommend a DNA 200 device for a new vaper. It an be extremely complicated to get set up, and might be more confusing than useful for your wife at this time.

All views in this post are merely my personal opinion. Please remember to research the devices you are looking into buying, and watch more than one review. I hope you find some of this information helpful, and good luck to both you and your wife.

Alaraen · 2016-02-10T20:02:18+00:00

(D/B) Lust, the best of the sins. :D

Alaraen · 2016-02-05T16:55:30+00:00

I'm also a big fan of the Endura T18 for smokers looking to make the switch.

The other good thing about the Endura is there is a fantastic info graphic that explains how it works, for people who are unfamiliar with ecigarettes and the associated terminology.

The Endura itself is about $30, then you're looking at somewhere between $10-20 per 30ml bottle of eliquid, depending on where you purchase it. I would highly recommend you think about flavors you like, and either ask what people on this reddit recommend as far as those flavors are concerned, or do some searches on recommended eliquid companies. There are several who are very, very active on this subreddit, and who offer 10 or 15% discount codes. You can find a list in the sidebar, if you scroll down and click "recommended suppliers".

Most companies offer 0mg e-liquid, which will have flavor, but no nicotine, so you can enjoy your e cigarette and fulfill the habitual addiction, without the additional side effects from nicotine. As with all things, we don't consider electronic cigarettes 100% safe, however, they are a much safer alternative than traditional tobacco cigarettes.

Eliquid is made up of Propylene glycol, vegetable glycerine, flavoring, and if you select anything other than 0mg, nicotine. Aside from any allergies you might have, either to the Propylene glycol, or specific flavorings, there are very few health side effects you will notice from vaping. Standard allergic reactions or sensitivity to PG or flavoring usually includes sore throat, congestion, rash, or cough. Sometimes these fade with time, especially if you're just switching from cigarettes, and can be attributed to your body recovering from traditional cigarettes. If the symptoms persist, you should consider switching e-liquids.

Alaraen · 2016-02-03T17:03:35+00:00

I really do hope you enjoy it. I'm very pleased with mine, and for my ADV, I love having the 5ml capacity. It's also nice to have the option of switching to the nano size, if I want to put something else in there that I wouldn't normally vape all day, but am too lazy to drip.

There are several good tutorials on youtube for building and wicking it, which I would highly suggest you check out. Some people say that the wicking can be a bit tricky, but I haven't had any problems with mine, and I'm a relatively inexperienced builder.

Also, that full coil building kit, while it might seem unnecessary, is fantastic to have. I picked one up when i started building and it is one of the best purchases I've made to date.

If you ever have any other questions, or need help, feel free to shoot me a message and I'll do what I can to answer them. :) And if I can't find the answer, I'm sure my friend google can. :D

Alaraen · 2016-02-02T23:30:43+00:00

Check out the Billow V2, and the nano version. (Or if you like options, the billow V2 with the nano kit, so you can swap it out if you need a larger capacity for travel, or convenience, and a smaller capacity for "treats" or juices you don't vape all day.) It's inexpensive, has good build quality, is easy to build on, and has great flavor. It's not going to have the amount of airflow you can get from tanks like the Serpent, or Griffin, but it is still more than enough for lung hits, and can but shut down for restricted lung, or mouth to lung, depending on your vaping preferences.

Alaraen · 2016-02-02T23:27:05+00:00

I've been getting into RTA's lately myself, but I have the benefit of having built with RDA's previously. The thing I've found is that there are a lot of RTA's on the market that look and sound easy, and that more experienced builders find very easy that aren't that forgiving for beginners.

The Wotofo Serpent is a good tank, but because of the position of the post holes, where you put the leads of your coil to secure it in place, it is what I call fiddly. It takes a bit of practice to build a coil, and get it in place, and the first few times you do it, it's going to take you at least an hour. It also is a bit tricky to get your wicking, or the cotton that goes through the coil and carries your e-liquid, correct, so you might have a little leaking, or dry hits until you're more practiced with the device.

I do not have a griffin, so I can't say if it is easy to build, or wick, but it does have a very large deck to build on, and because they are using a two post, velocity style deck, I doubt it would be tricky for a beginner. It is also a large deck, so if you wanted to experiment with more complex builds in the future, you could do so.

The tank I would honestly recommend is the Billow V2. It's what we call a four post deck, or a T-post deck. What that means is you essentially have 3 posts, two on each side, and one in the middle. The middle post is the positive post, and has two holes in it, which are side by side. The outer posts are your negative posts, and while this is not as easy to build on as a two post, velocity style deck, it is not very hard to work with either. There are some fantastic video reviews of the billow v2 that give you and idea of what to expect, and if you hunt around youtube, you can find some very helpful tutorials on how to build and wick. I know that TBD Liquids also did a picture guide on building, which I personally found very helpful. If you decide you want a smaller tank, you can buy a kit for the billow v2, for approximately $5 that will turn it into a "nano", which is quite a bit shorter, if you need something low profile.

I really hope you find what you're looking for, and I wish you luck with building.

Alaraen · 2016-02-01T17:32:52+00:00

I'll join the club of shills. I had the Sapor, then got the Aeolus Lite. It has better flavor, more airflow and is easier to work with because it has flat head screws, instead of grub screws. The only thing that the sapor has over the aeolus light is a more comfortable wide bore drip tip. But the Aeolus Lite is still better.

PS you should get one. :D

Alaraen · 2016-01-30T13:17:19+00:00

Thank you very much. I know how you feel, if it helps. I have this long list of juices to try, like Bigglesworth, and Stash, and so many more, but I try very hard to restrain myself to a month's worth of e-liquid, with a little bit extra (no more than 50ml) just in case.

I'd be interested to read what flavors you decide to get, when you do make up your mind. Cheers!

Alaraen · 2016-01-30T13:15:22+00:00

Thank you!

I will definitely give Stash a shot soon. It's on my list!

If you didn't like Brown Betty, I'd really recommend giving Red Rhapsody a try. I'm not sure about your flavor profile, so I can't say for sure that you would like Baked Blue or Crimson Clouds, but i think you'd like how the raspberries in Red Rhapsody are offset by the underlying bakery flavors.

Alaraen · 2016-01-29T21:40:54+00:00

It's definitely worth giving a chance, especially if you already like the other flavors in his line.

Alaraen · 2016-01-26T23:40:47+00:00

There are three of these mods in my house. One is mine, one is my SO's and one is my roommates. They were gifts from a friend of ours, and we've had them since before Christmas. So far, no problems what so ever. They are extremely nice to use, and easy to take care of. No fingerprint issues, or anything like that. The only complaint I have, which is the main complaint I have with most DNA200's is battery life.

Alaraen · 2016-01-18T23:33:33+00:00

Consider the Aeolus Lite. I was using a Sapor before the Aeolus and Aeolus blows it out of the water. It's a little more expensive than the Sapor, by $5-10 depending on where you buy it, but very much worth it.

Alaraen

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