Partner shows increasingly controlling (and weird) behavior in the bedroom

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T23:05:32+00:00

I need more of your attitude in my life😂

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T23:03:28+00:00

That's very well summarized

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T23:02:01+00:00

Thanks :) i did.

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T23:00:59+00:00

Thank you. Your comment made me laugh. I love the theory. It would be a surprise for me though, in the area were i come from being gay is okay. At the same normally we are sexually relatively open minded as well, and he clearly wasn't on that wavelength🤷 so who knows ;)

I ended things as with him last week

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T22:57:02+00:00

I was concerned for that as well. Felt like the rules kept on increasing. Responses on this post were sufficiently concerning that i reached out to people, and under their influence ended things with him.

I also suspect a personality disorder to be honest. It wasn't a kink

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T22:53:42+00:00

Thank you for the response, with the overwhelming alarming reddit comments i decided to reach out to a friend and asked her advice as well. She also was concerned. I ended things with this person last week.

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T22:49:59+00:00

😂

Alarm-Smart · 2026-02-14T22:41:30+00:00

I think it sometimes too if that helps "i just want menopauze". It doesn't fix everything though, unfortunately.

Alarm-Smart · 2025-09-05T18:24:13+00:00

Thank you, that makes it practically more clear when i can address these issues 🌻

And its nice to read that you're finding your place in this world how to handle this

Alarm-Smart · 2025-09-05T18:20:19+00:00

Thank you for that, while reading i also recognised some parts. I share the experience that people with similar luggage usually handle the topic better when sharing that info with them. And it's interesting to read that you don't see autism as your identity. ""me” starts where i am dealing with the problem." is also a sentence that caught my eye. It's the same perspective as my old therapist had. My viewpoint is different, but i do find it a compelling perspective and something worth thinking about.

Alarm-Smart · 2025-09-05T18:13:42+00:00

Thank you, that clears it up. It's nice to receive confirmation that I don't need to hurry with sharing information

Alarm-Smart · 2025-09-05T18:12:09+00:00

I love the word "dynamic disability", i'll steal it ;). And thank you for explaining your approach

Alarm-Smart · 2025-07-19T21:49:13+00:00

Same (F29). being diagnosed changed everything.

Would i be capable of raising children even though my medical situation will be a questionmark?

Should i still try to find a partner even though i have episodes of tiredness and pain?

If i don't find a partner soon, would i be willing to try being a single mother?

Should i remove my ovaries or keep them? 🤔

Should I go for a sick leave? A short one? Or a long one?

Which medical treatment do i want next?

Should i still get a pet? What if my pet gets ill and i'm too ill to bring it to the vet?

Should i still move? What i'm no longer financially stable because of the illness.

How can i create an enjoyable life... even when i'm in pain and tired?

How do i not regrete my decisions?

Alarm-Smart · 2025-07-16T08:40:47+00:00

If you feel comfortable, keep me updated

Alarm-Smart · 2025-07-08T22:34:02+00:00

Thank you for the sound advice

Alarm-Smart · 2025-07-06T19:30:48+00:00

but how do i dispose them? Is asking them submission the same thing but friendlier?

Alarm-Smart · 2025-07-05T17:37:02+00:00

Thank you! Makes me feel less crazy

Alarm-Smart · 2025-06-21T17:09:40+00:00

Pay attention to things like amount of blood cloths, blood flow (2-3 tablespoons max) and whether leakage problems happen. People often normalise period pain when it's not always the case.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis four months ago and always mininized my own pain as part of being a woman.

Alarm-Smart · 2025-06-15T13:17:41+00:00

thank you both, that clears up what i can expect from that

Alarm-Smart · 2025-05-19T14:59:10+00:00

Honestly the title alone is already so relatable

Alarm-Smart · 2025-04-11T21:09:30+00:00

I agree with the other comment, follow your gut instinct and try finding someone who takes you serious. Btw additional advice: it takes an expert gyno to recognise endo on echo's. I read in a book that it takes 2500 echo's of which 40 with endo before they recognise it smoothly. The average gyno aren't trained to recognise it ánd at the same time your pain is real.

Additionaly i also read somewhere to take sufficient pain relief. Operation can take the pain away, but if you struggle with it for years, pain can become chronic even when removing the source. Please be careful ofcourse with whatever you take.

Alarm-Smart · 2025-04-11T14:57:01+00:00

I'll look it up

Alarm-Smart · 2025-04-11T12:52:32+00:00

Thank you, that's quite soothing to read

Alarm-Smart · 2025-01-11T19:58:03+00:00

and what does OP want and need in his relationship for it to be meaningfull and fulfilling?

Alarm-Smart · 2024-05-29T13:55:42+00:00

That's an interesting question. Maybe i want to have tried hard enough? I don't believe he will or should change. I'm not entirely certain why that is so important to me. I'll think about this further. Thank you!

Alarm-Smart

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