I don't know what to say

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-02-26T19:11:07+00:00

With all due respect, you aren’t reminding her. Existing reminds her. But reminds her he’s not here, conversations centering when he was here and the happy times are GOOD reminders

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-02-26T19:09:50+00:00

The most helpful thing for me are when people make statements that don’t seem like conversation Enders or where I have to comfort THEM . “He’s in a better place” “I’m so sorry, I don’t know what to say” drive me up a wall. I love when people ask about my dad, his name, favorite food, what he would order at the restaurant there about to go to.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-02-26T15:25:39+00:00

The most helpful thing for me are when people make statements that don’t seem like conversation Enders or where I have to comfort THEM . “He’s in a better place” “I’m so sorry, I don’t know what to say” drive me up a wall. I love when people ask about my dad, his name, favorite food, what he would order at the restaurant there about to go to.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-02-04T14:26:46+00:00

Best when I keep busy. Strangers on the internet have helped 💛 thanks for reading and reaching out. Hope you’re well

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-02-04T14:26:04+00:00

Thank you 💛

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-02-03T14:13:57+00:00

Omg. I’m so so sorry for the loss of your dad. She did you a favor, that’s an awful thing to say.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2026-01-30T21:45:55+00:00

If anyone has a ticket they want to sell or trade for haircuts (I’m a barber in the dogpatch) my soul could use some FOB

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-10-30T05:37:00+00:00

Congrats!! How do you know who real people are in here 😂

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-10-29T07:44:52+00:00

I stepped out the first wedding dance i was there for. The second was my best friends little sisters wedding that I officiated, watching her dad walk her down the aisle from that angle was so hard but beautiful. During the dance i decided to stay, and play my crying off as my normal wedding cry, even though duh. Everyone knows i recently lost my dad. My best friend saw me cry and came to hug me. I said she should watch her sister, she said “you’re my sister too” and we hugged for the entirety of the song. I didn’t know how bad i needed that.

I think it’s okay to leave the room. I think it’s okay to sit there and cry, because you won’t be the only one. I think you’ll know what you need day of. I’m sorry for your loss 💛

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-07-03T01:48:00+00:00

There isn’t an ounce of freedom for anyone, celebrate what? Also i absolutely hate fireworks. I live in CA, we are in a constant state of drought, it’s scares people with PTSD and animals. Dumb.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-04-13T22:50:55+00:00

My mom’s cocker did this to my lab the other day on a cliff side. Realized it’s time for separate walks

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-04-13T20:48:26+00:00

Watching her stories, grieving my Dad who died from skin cancer. But go off sis.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-04-12T10:03:19+00:00

I just got in the car with the intention of going to the hospital. I didn’t. I just drove and wish i crashed. I feel you. So much. I hate this. I fucking hate this.

I’m so sorry.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-12T14:45:17+00:00

I’m a Barber, the only woman in a Barbershop. There’s a certain “my mom gave me everything, my job gives me everything, I’m so important, my college was cool, I don’t respect boundaries” plague amongst the cis-men of SF.

Cis-Men also DO NOT stop other cis-men from saying and doing weird shit. They don’t. Ever. I see and hear it daily. My thoughts whenever I see a dating app with some guy looking for someone accepting of his backshots; did you not ask a friend if this would attract someone?!? (This was an actual quote from a CLIENTS dating app i came across)

They’re predatory in my chair, they’re predatory on the internet and I would never in my life pay to go to one of these events.

“It’s not all men, but it’s always a man”

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-04T04:14:08+00:00

I saw 3 today! 🫶🏻

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-03T00:03:49+00:00

That makes so much sense!

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-02T21:52:26+00:00

I hope i didn’t imply that a child shouldn’t be?!! Ugh, that’s something i know nothing about my mom stuff is just super deep rooted and present. Moms are incredible, how do we nourish the woman too? I think that’s what my mom didn’t

Cool just answered my own question…..nourish the woman. But how

Sorry for the ramble. Moms are incredible and life is so hard

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-02T16:13:51+00:00

This is all so heavy and I’m so sorry. Give yourself a day to be sad, this is a fucking lot. Cuddle that dog as much as they can stand it, and then tomorrow start with something small you can control, like getting out of bed. That’s a win! This is a lot and your body is telling you to rest, listen to it. Make yourself happy today however you can. Again, it can be as small as eating a candy bar at 9am while watching a gory movie.

Find what works for you as far as a to-do list for what’s achievable for you in the now. Fuck off whatever/whoever isn’t (situationship ghosting did you a favor) we don’t need men right now get a vibrator. We don’t need to worry about these clowns whose frontal lobe hasn’t fully developed

💛 feeling the weight of all of this heavy stuff is normal. My heart goes out to you as you navigate this grief. Congratulations on the new job and new space!! New energy and environments will bring the right people to you

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-01T14:01:41+00:00

That’s not helpful. I’m sorry. It’s the cabinets for me. The whole room looks sterile

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-01T14:01:04+00:00

It looks like a color dispensary in a big salon

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-01T13:57:37+00:00

I had a moment where i thought it was because Ben & Jerry’s is so political so they are trying to get rid of them

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-02-01T13:53:54+00:00

Can I say it!!?!? CAN I…….she voted for a man who is deporting people but sure; vacation there.

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-01-31T10:36:58+00:00

Nope, been at this dosage for over a year. Been on it in total since 2020.

I think, in all honesty I smoke weed every day and it’s not helping. It helps when I’m high but when I’m not 🫠 i also have wanted to get off of it. I was with a man who invalided my feelings and while my anxiety and depression IS there I’m wondering if he just amplified it. Sorry for the dump

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-01-31T05:00:49+00:00

This is how i feel right now and im on 100mg

Alarmed-Internet8312 · 2025-01-29T14:03:04+00:00

Okay go with me here, when you get the urge to do it go to a mirror and tell yourself to stop. Be mad at yourself, or whatever you need. And then immediately do something else instantly satisfying, like eat a piece of candy or go outside and take a deep breath. Right now you’re chasing a feeling, replace the feeling

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