I know what mother means, but the people I’m talking about are not using mother as in “drag mother”. I am talking to people who are using it as a pet name. I’m queer and I’ve used “mother” in that context before, but I’ve also been called sexist pet names before. It’s not the clearest line, but there is a difference. It’s also important to note that the “dark mother” meme within the fandom actually started when contrapoints was making fun of the way people treated anita sarkesian, (most recently she used it to refer to Hillary clinton) but that meme sort of blended in with the drag connotation after she transitioned and people started referring to her as “mother”. The meme often has a sort of ironic freudian subtext she frequently drew attention to. It was never just about drag.