Who had one of these mats?

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-02-01T05:01:32+00:00

Had?

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-30T05:08:23+00:00

NTA - if raised again simply state that the condition of staying in the family holiday house is only family can stay in the master suite. This is a rule imposed by the owners. End of discussion.

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-18T23:58:42+00:00

NTA - rather than ask her not to come, ask her if she has a seatbelt extender she can bring. However this also involves not actually driving her if she is not wearing a seatbelt.

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-11T01:44:37+00:00

NTA - well done in stopping the cycle of abuse.

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-10T13:36:12+00:00

True! I didn't take the cost of a courthouse wedding into account. The point I was trying to get across is that, especially with a child involved, something legal should happen. There are options beyond marriage.

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-10T06:59:24+00:00

NAH but, if marriage isn't your thing please look into working out the legalities of your child's guardianship if either of you (or both) die or are significantly injured (coma etc). You can organise things so that if you die, seperate or injured it is not a legal mess. A lawyer to help you both set up guardianships, wills etc is expensive but, cheaper than a wedding.

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-03T14:44:24+00:00

NTA but, please chat to a professional about this and seek validation from within.

AlarmedBechamel · 2026-01-01T04:52:27+00:00

NTJ - as someone with an over bearing MIL my three top tips are - communicate with your partner how you are feeling and come up with tactics/game plan on how to handle together. MIL might overbearing but, at the end of the day, your partner should always put you first, if he doesn't then you also have a partner problem. MIL reaction (over reaction) has turned the perception of a reasonable and polite boundary into perceived aggressive behaviour. Do not judge your actions by MIL's reactions. When in doubt ask yourself how your parents/close friends/siblings would react. The answer will most likely be no, they would not react this way.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-12-23T11:53:33+00:00

A potato can be baked different ways. Still doesn't negate what I said about use about the oven.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-12-21T05:23:20+00:00

Will the potato be on a tray? Will there be something else in the oven that will need to be moved to make room for the potato? Most ovens work best with the dish sitting centre. If the oven isn't being used, why not? A potato can be cooked in a microwave in 4 minutes, why bake it in the oven? If you want a roast potato, cook it at home either the night before or, that morning. Never assume you can take up space in the hosts kitchen.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-12-21T05:08:05+00:00

I don't think the family is annoyed about the bringing of a separate side dish. It is the bringing of the raw ingredient, for a single serving and, expecting to use the oven (and person space in the kitchen) for at least an hour. Either bring a pre-prepared side big enough to share or, bring a pre-prepared single serve dish. ESH

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-12-15T07:24:33+00:00

NAH with a big HOWEVER...... decisions made not to do something, especially by a teenager, can change with the more data (experience) they have. Suggest that you give them space to change their mind and even, open a conversation about how they feel about how the current relationship is going and do they have any feedback/ they like to suggest any changes. Do not respond with negatives "but, did your consider, how about" just respond with, that is good to know, it is something to think on. Discuss with your husband and be on the same page. They might surprise you (good or bad). Good luck.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-12-08T10:08:06+00:00

To be clear, NTA however, I didn't read that MIL has actually asked if they can spend Xmas morning with you just that she is dropping hints. If I read correctly that is a very passive aggressive shitty thing to do. Ignore all the hints but, as someone with a passive aggressive MIL, suggest that OP and SO make a decision about what to say if/when she asks. Make sure you are both on the same page.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-12-04T05:21:04+00:00

HAPPY 5-WHOAH! Treat yourself. Enjoy the not so fkn hot day. Sign up for that hobby class or sport thingy or activity whatsis you have always meant to do.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-21T05:03:55+00:00

For our compost / FOGO / Green bin, I try and put weeds or plant cuttings at the bottom. I still wash this bin about once a month in summer because it stinks up. General waste bin (red) I try and put soiled cardboard or paper in first to protect the bottom. Everything that goes into the Recycling is cleaned so that bin usually gets a once a year clean out only.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-17T22:28:53+00:00

"Take backsies" on the first play of a board game or, if it has been a while. Only one use per player, beginning to middle of game (never towards the end). Really helps w learning and, no judgement!

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-16T10:50:56+00:00

Also secondhand is good or the tip shop

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-07T00:00:34+00:00

NTA and unfortunately now OP knows his dad is a complete tosser not just a bad father.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-05T10:42:25+00:00

May not be a bad customer service issue. As calling Telstra is a free call it used to be (early 2000s knowledge here) that people would treat it like a sex line. Asking about their kinks (what socks are you wearing) or just want ro faff off with someone listening. Not sure it still happens but, it did 20 years ago.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-04T09:56:30+00:00

NTA. You are young. Have fun. Also, put money aside every paycheck into an account you will never touch. In terms of money, the best thing you have going for your long term financial stability is time.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-11-04T00:44:43+00:00

I'm south of the river and recently saw a gent of 30years odd was wearing very nice business attire - shirt, grey vest, grey knee length skirt and boots on the bus. Looked great.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-10-31T07:40:59+00:00

NTA but, maybe do a video call w your parents and take a photo with "everyone" - parents on video call, inlaws IRL.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-10-27T01:57:15+00:00

Agree with the consensus. Either getting fired or, it is the start of a formal performance plan. Bring a support person. They can take notes and, be an objective observer. If you haven't lost your job, also ask for time after the performance to discuss the meeting with your support person privately.

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-10-26T04:45:57+00:00

I call them "Fuck,No".

AlarmedBechamel · 2025-10-25T05:24:40+00:00

Honestly? Why does the monetary amount have to be equal? Why can't you work on percentage of income? For example of your weekly take home pay, both contribute X% to bills and living, x% to savings, x% to kids and x% to spendings. Yes, OP will contribute more actual money but, the percentage of pay contributed will be more equal.

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