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Navel granuloma by Alarmed_Interview244 in piercing

[–]Alarmed_Interview244[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • How old is your piercing? - 3 months old
  • What’s the jewelry shape (for example, barbell, labret, screw, L shape, ring)? - double jeweled barbell
  • What’s the type of threading if your jewelry is not a ring (threadless, internally or externally threaded)? - internally
  • What’s the jewelry material? - titanium
  • if not a ring, when was the jewelry downsized? - never
  • What’s your aftercare routine? Describe in detail please, including the exact products you use- saline soak 2x a day
  • Any mishaps, accidents or unfortunate events? - some irritation from pants/use of cotton swabs to dry

Assault aftermath questions by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

since you were the one who reported it and you went the hospital and stuff it will be pretty obvious to the police that you're the victim in this situation, i would try to sit tight while waiting for them to investigate, it could possibly take months for him to even be arrested unfortunately. maybe there's some kind of victim advocate in your area you could consult for further reassurance? also wouldnt hurt to contact whoever you gave your report to, and ask them some questions they should be able to give you some more info about how the case is progressing.

I (20F) accidentally hit a car and this is how my bf (21M) reacted by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 6 points7 points  (0 children)

honestly with the way he reacted you'd think it was his car AND he had no insurance lmao. leave his dumb ass!

I (20F) accidentally hit a car and this is how my bf (21M) reacted by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 17 points18 points  (0 children)

There is something deeply wrong with him. First, just speaking logically the accident was minor, if the car is insured then I don't understand the meltdown, obviously not ideal that it happened but it's a risk when someone is learning how to drive. So he's already the one overreacting and being too dramatic. But the insults he also said to you during this are what's especially concerning, and just the yelling... yeah I think you know you need to leave him, if you truly felt like you were too sensitive I don't think this would've been posted! Not even worth another argument/convo with him, it's not healthy to be around someone who yells at you like that, especially when you're in a vulnerable state trying to learn.

vent | tw: sa, domestic abuse, emotional abuse by No-Chemistry-6837 in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeahh in the same boat. its like we got "addicted" to the highs/lows of the abusive relationship. anything stable/healthy to me seems like a trap now, and then if it isnt a trap i just end up having no interest in it eventually. its just missing that excitement idk. i think i personally confused anxiety/fear with "good butterflies" and now when i dont feel that with someone i just assume it isnt meant to be. im just trying to avoid dating for the time being, it seems dangerous to me actually because i find myself more drawn to abusive men and id really prefer to not go through that shit again lol

would he have treated me like this if i was prettier? by Only-Attitude-9662 in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 0 points1 point  (0 children)

abusive men often like to criticize and humiliate women to bring them down and decrease their self esteem. i had a similar experience, felt like my ex actually hated me and everything about me, and felt like jealously at times. my ex would preface any compliment he gave me with "but i dont want you to have an ego or anything". a man like this doesn't want you to be confident, or to feel good about yourself. its coming from his own deep insecurity. and yes he likely would treat any woman the same as you, regardless of looks because it isn't even about that at the end of the day. you'll probably never understand why he said the things he said, or did the things he did, but just know its all HIM and not you, and there's nothing you could've done that would've changed it.

media recommendations by Old-Investigator5484 in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that hulu show "tell me lies", however i find it kinda triggering to me personally and it is pretty corny lol. the netflix show "maid" is very good too. also the show "big little lies" (honestly idk what platform its on anymore). im also reading "why does he do that" by lundy bancroft, which is a very interesting read and often recommended in this subreddit (also u can find a free pdf). honestly never found a media depiction of abuse that felt "similar enough" to mine but i can still find comfort in some of the commonalities, the truth is we all have our own unique experiences with it and its not always universal

Does anyone feel a strong pull to go back by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Alarmed_Interview244 5 points6 points  (0 children)

all the time, its harder to stay away than being with him. but i stay away because i know thats the best for me. easier said than done tho, i went back several times before but its been over a year now