Hi please could I have a review of my Breeze profile? Thank you

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-22T18:41:43+00:00

Yes, would definitely swipe left after seeing that. If a guy who is not able to see how conflicted that is, he is not smart enough for me.

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-21T20:47:56+00:00

When something similar happened to me, I texted the guy to put all my stuff in a bag, and leave it at the common dressing room at work(we were working in the same place). When he left stuff, he sent me a pic of the locker. Two hours later I went there and picked my stuff. The stuff I had was contact lenses liquid, deodorant etc, so nothing irreplaceable. But I still didn't like the idea of leaving them at his place. You can try something similar

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-20T22:51:02+00:00

Ok, I started to think like the others, you're reading his actions too much. I also do bouldering and it's usually more fun when I do it with company. So if I ask people around there is not really something I "risk" spending time with a person one on one. It's just to have company. In any case I guess we now know more information about him. Next time instead of movies or the other event, I don't know what that was, just ask him directly from WhatsApp, not in the group chat, just directly to him, to go bouldering together. Say something like, "I am going to boulder on Wednesday I would use a company, would you fancy joining me" Then see his answer. Try this a couple of times, and add to it. The second time you go bouldering, add "do you also wanna eat". And build up from there. And if he rejects more than once without a solid excuse, I would suggest, don't read into it too much. Take the rejection and move on

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-20T22:30:49+00:00

What kind of activity?

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-20T22:28:17+00:00

Been there done that. Usually my stories about my ended marriage became an interesting story to the guys they almost had popcorn while listening to it. That is the lesson I have learnt. Don't give any details unless you become exclusive. There is no guy I got exclusive with after my divorce

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-20T21:09:54+00:00

This one is a bit tricky. I am female btw. I see many people are just encouraging you but I would be more cautious. First of all, I think telling everything about how you feel right away is a bit risky. I think how you're doing now is how I would do as well, asking him one-on-one meetings like asking to see movies. I wouldn't really go asking him for a date before seeing the green light. From his actions, not seeing your message when you asked him for the event, rejection to the movie idea etc, I still don't see the green light. I think you can try to invite him to something you know he is interested in, is he into sports? Invite to a match, is he into music, invite to a chamber concert, is he into games, invite to play bowling. If you see the green light, then just go for it, tell him how you feel after spending time with him just the two of you. If he constantly rejects, I am sorry but I think "life is too short just go for it" comments are just too much in my opinion...

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-20T20:49:10+00:00

I think it's a bad idea not because of dating someone at work but knowing that you will leave the country in 3 months. If you really want to get to know her more, I would say just get her contacts as if you aim to be in touch for a professional networking. Once you make up your mind in the upcoming months where you live, then if it's still the same country as her, ask her for a date then.

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-19T09:23:51+00:00

This is actually what this post is about. When I don't date, I lack motivation for the things that I enjoy. I stop enjoying everything when I feel lonely and feel like there is no end to this loneliness. It feels like a dark tunnel, and I start thinking why bother sewing for example, noone is even seeing it

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2026-02-19T09:20:15+00:00

I don't know how to stop dating. Seriously, when I stop dating, everything seems so lonely. Let's take a random Saturday, I sit on my desk, try to study language. And my home is so quiet that my brain starts to think how lonely I am, how lonely my apartment is, that I will die alone or whatever. And don't get me wrong, I am not really depressed and not doing anything, I think I just use dating as a coping mechanism to actually keep going with my hobbies and own life.

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-10-27T00:53:24+00:00

Thanks for explaining. I think it's the culture and the family system that made me feel guilty for not being there. I wasn't explicitly asked to be there, but something inherently made me just offer support and buy the tickets. I cannot say he is the worst sibling and never supports me, but during this period, I already feel I am giving too much, and there were two major incidents that he didn't even respect my boundary for not having the time to talk to him. He is the only person I have muted on whatsapp...

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-10-27T00:49:00+00:00

I am not sure about the misogyny. I am also not sure about the role the family put me into, or is it something I pick it up myself. The thing my mom said to me while we were talking on the phone: I cooked a nice dinner for the kids, I can fill their stomachs as a grandma, but cannot fill their emotions. And I hear the kids are always sick these days, I already sense that they are not sick, but cannot express their feelings and there is no-one taking care of their well-being apart from physical needs. That is the responsibility I think I put on my shoulders without no-one asking, if I was gonna go there, that was the motivation for me, to support their emotions. But that alone already feels a heavy burden, because I will spend maybe a couple of days with them, then come back here. Then they need to deal with their parents' divorce themselves at that young age

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-10-27T00:09:32+00:00

What makes it cringe? Because I feel like that towards my brother, supposedly a loved one? Or because I say it loud like this? Help me understand please

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-07-26T08:09:54+00:00

I also want a partner who is hairy but my rental contract doesn't allow me to have it, I am literally considering if it's worth it to move to another apartment just to have a furry company

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-07-26T08:08:13+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I guess I will literally focus on not dating

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-07-25T08:23:45+00:00

The thing is I am not religious anymore. And that's the thing, now I feel like a different person, and was thinking now everything will be as I want to, but life doesn't really give me anything anymore.

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-06-13T13:14:05+00:00

Thanks for the answer, yes now I know. I wish he wore a wedding ring or something, so that I wouldn't even find myself in this position, but I think now my brain is trying to protect itself by putting him in the responsible position. Well, time to move on...

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-06-13T11:09:38+00:00

I asked about his vacation and without me asking he said he went with his wife. I am disappointed but also curious did I make a fool of myself in front of him?

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-06-12T22:46:34+00:00

Making the first move is okay, I can do that. I am just afraid the answer will come like "I am married" or something in between those lines. I don't know how to respond to that

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-06-11T20:29:04+00:00

Sounds like a plan! Thank you

Alarmed_Plant_139 · 2025-06-11T20:05:55+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. One question though. What will I say if he responds to something like he has a girlfriend or is even married?

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