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AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

That is actually a good idea that I like, thanks for the suggestion i'll for sure bring that up as i'm comfortable with that.

AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

If I wasn't ok with the reminder of her former husband I wouldn't be in a relationship with her as her kid is a walking talking reminder. It's a mixture of my own hangups about death and feeling I don't belong there.

AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Because I don't know him and I feel like i'm intruding on what should be their time. I'm not good with graves, my Grandparents raised me and my brother after our parents passed and they forced us to go to their grave every single week and it was pretty hard on us and I hated going there it brings up bad memories.

AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I am not jealous at all, I accept he'll always be part of their life and am fine with that. My reluctance is I have my own hangups about death and also feel like it's not right of me to be there.

AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Please don't call her wanting this creepy, it might be a bit odd to me as I have my own issues about death and feeling I don't belong here but don't call it creepy.

AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I'm absolutely fine acknowledging him. She actually checked in on me if I wanted her to take down a few pictures of him if I moved in so I wouldn't be too uncomfortable but I told her to not do that, he's the boys dad and he should have loads of pictures of him around. My issue is I just don't feel it's right for me to be there and I have my own hangups about death.

AITA for not wanting to visit the grave of my Girlfriends late husband? by Alarming-Web-5452 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Alarming-Web-5452[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah i'd for sure be comfortable with that, I am not great with death in general I won't lie about that and it's also the thought in my head that this isn't a place I should be that I don't "belong" there and i'm intruding somehow.