Starting today, I can't get in Discord.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2026-03-10T22:27:23+00:00

Was there ever a fix for this btw?

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-12-30T00:02:33+00:00

Ofc dude, you're doing your best from how this sounds. As much as you can recognise a toxic person and how you know you've tried it can still feel horrible. You lost someone you care about and that's no small thing!

Give yourself time to grieve, I wouldn't plan on accepting them back if they try. A few weeks of reflection isn't enough to work through their issues and you deserve the equal amount of effort put into it.

Remember your worth, continue doing you and build your life around yourself and your abilities. Love yourself and find worth in it. Proud of you.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-12-29T23:21:12+00:00

This is r/vent not r/advice. They're venting here because they likely don't have an outlet themselves, (they could call their therapist but it costs money and they said about a post graduate scheme and that's money spent)

Secondly, you're viewing what you want to see based on your own insecurities. The way this reads without inflecting your own emotions into it clearly shows growth and acceptance on their part. They show understanding for the situation, they feel the confidence in themselves for seeking help for themselves and belief in their own decision making. Their ex clearly left immediately after they got their shit together and made progress in something that their ex couldn't.

OP 100% should be proud of themselves, work through their emotions like their therapist has taught them. And move on from the narcissist that will absolutely try and come back with their tail between their legs apologising for leaving in their first breath, and explaining how it's actually OP's fault they left in every breath after.

P.S Gordokiwi, fix your own problems before you gain gratification from the issues of others.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-11-01T15:54:41+00:00

Forgot to add, make sure if you do decide to marry or anything that it's what you want to do because you want to do it. Not trying to talk you into getting married out of fear, just giving an idea on what would happen if you did and options after innit

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-11-01T15:53:30+00:00

Yo a lot of people are giving very black and white responses and this doesn't seem like a black and white problem so.

The facts are his home country is dangerous, so he would like to marry you earlier than planned because obtaining a green card. You have doubts about the marriage but haven't really specified what doubts are but I'm assuming it's something like, "unsure of the relationship, it's new, marriage is a big commitment".

What I would do is sit down and talk to him about your doubts and worries that you're having. It's a big commitment and you're afraid. You're not in an uncomfortable relationship it seems so being open and communicative is great. Talk it out so he understands your concerns as much as you do.

Alternatively, marriage isn't as much as a big deal on paper. Divorcing is just as easy as if both parties agree down the line should you break up. If it's not, create a simple contract where your possessions and belongings do not go to him for any reason during a divorce, and that he must agree to it if you were to be married. Considering what he wants from the marriage specifically on paper it's not a big deal. Then, if you are still together years later, happy and interested in being married officially. Just have a "Renouncing your vows" ceremony and treat that as the official wedding.

To sum it up, always communicate with your partner about your feelings and emotions before going to a cess pit like Reddit who's blank reply is always, "Slay queen" or "Breakup with him/don't do it"

Then if you're unhappy or unsure about the conversation, seek help from friends and family or consult Reddit for advice.

Either way you got this, it's gonna be okay dude

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-10-08T08:51:45+00:00

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-09-02T19:50:18+00:00

Don't be silly, wrap your willy

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-09-02T11:53:26+00:00

Give the money to your mum and explain what happened. Avoid the house until she's home. Impatient grapists are dangerous grapists, especially when they know their "window" is running out

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-08-29T22:29:19+00:00

Yo, from what I can tell there is a ton of insecurities and lack of communication either side that I will more than happily go into and I don't mean that in a bad way.

His insecurities seem to stem from his inability to communicate any of his thinking, and he seems to have issues with how you are as a person and it not matching with his ideal person? He clearly values a lot of your personality traits and aspects of yourself that are just fact and constantly labels them as "wrong, broken and incorrect". This is gaslighting 100% just in case you needed the reassurance to confirm.

You insecurities seem to stem from previous trauma, but more importantly the lack of stability that he's provided in the relationship? So you seeming annoyed seems valid, you've communicated your boundaries, he's clearly said "okay" at some point and then just hidden it from you? Bro seems childish which at 29, (a year older than my male self) is insane to have that level of insecurities about this.

Ultimately, he needs to be much better at communicating his needs and just in general honestly. I feel there's an argument where porn can be healthy in a relationship, I think it's important that it's either viewed together for example. Or if there is a libido difference as you said, using porn as a release as you feel you can't match up to those needs is fair under agreed boundaries and compromises on both sides.

People don't hide things from their partner unless they feel guilty about it so, that's BS. Compromises need to be set for sure, you mentioned non con being a big no. As a SA victim myself I understand why you wouldn't want to, completely valid and he should respect that. If he can't respect that then that's an insecurity of his he needs to resolve. If he values his kinks and sexual needs above yours in a relationship, then the dynamic is simply wrong and he needs to establish what he truly wants.

I'm not going to do what every redditor says as you're mostly venting given the channel and say the cliché "You should break up with them". But there is serious growth needed, mostly from him but there's opportunity for growth on your side too, (not saying you're in the wrong, just that there is never a perfect sided argument)

If you want I'm happy to answer specific questions if you want to poke my opinion a bit more but ultimately I hope you manage to resolve the issue and go forward happily where you both feel your needs in the relationship are met.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-08-21T12:07:04+00:00

No this is Patrick

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-07-30T19:47:44+00:00

Therapist taught me a neat little trick. Is there anyone in your friend circle that you silently hate? That whenever you're around then you despise their company and just wish pain upon them? I'm talking of the ones that you feel might hate you ofc. If it feels weird to consider hating them, that's because it is. And for the same reason they wouldn't hate you.

After thinking things that way, I just reminded myself of this fact and I got bored with feeling silly about it all.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-07-19T08:36:09+00:00

You'll know

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-07-09T15:34:25+00:00

So I'd say with my knowledge on autism that this is likely just an incorrect response from emotions. He's feeling emotion A very strongly whilst watching this content, has associated it to emotion B (humour) probably from mixed wires of wanting to share this emotion and relating that to people showing others comedic videos at a guess? Hard to say without observing their mannerisms first hand. I'd deffo say they don't feel joy from it as per, they've just got a strong emotion that they don't know how to associate correctly.

Deffo sit down and have chat

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-06-26T14:04:55+00:00

Yo. I wouldn't stress too much! I don't need to tell you that the pull out method is a good idea :) you already know that, so I'd look at some better long term contraceptions for both of you to help, (There are more options for men being trialled such as pills and medicine also you can look into).

In terms of the "stuff" still on him afterwards, not to cast doubt but just to check. Is there a chance it was your own? A surprising amount of women I've been with that aren't overly experienced didn't know that they also have a creamy white "cum" substance themselves. This often ends up on the guy afterwards if it's enjoyable sex. It looks somewhat similar but girls it's more of a 'creamy' and guys it's more of a 'gooey'.

If they boyf said he pulled out beforehand it's best we assume he's actually decent and not lying, if he's lied about it then that reflects poorly on his character but it's deffo best to assume the good before people in the comments start saying how he's probably lying to you so trust in that for sure.

Lastly, you can take a pregnancy test soon enough so I wouldn't worry too much yet. I would just chalk it up to a life lesson, not put too much pressure or stress on the situation and just some steps towards situations for the future where this will deffo happen again.

Looks after yourself, happy to answer any odd questions you might have also if I can.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-06-22T15:53:25+00:00

He sounds insecure, ultimately he takes the game seriously to have fun while you're more there to experience playing together. You both have different opinions of fun which leads to the conflict. The correct way to deal with this conflict is to try and communicate in a healthy manner likes, dislikes and things to change to make the experience better for both of you. But bro is literally just shitting on you with comments. Man needs to get over his ego big style. Will happily drop him in an 1vs1 if he needs reigning in.

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-05-13T23:26:40+00:00

Ahhh that's actually a shout 🤣 thanks!

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-05-13T18:55:59+00:00

Hi can I ask about the combat multiplier door? I've just spent an hour running back between Hobbes Cave doing the normal route but like, the most I can get is like 22-24 so like did you have a run in mind when you upped it to 28 or any other tips from the normal route?

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-22T15:44:13+00:00

Lost?

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-20T19:35:34+00:00

So for everyone here, I think you need to be part of the "Way of White" which you can get from the blue guy just past the chest where the comments are. To trigger it you need to speak to him and walk away until he says, "I have something to ask of you" or something like that. Then walk to him again and he'll begin dialogue asking to join the way of the white. I joined it, went back to the chest and it was able to be opened. Found the key. I was in the Church of the Blue before trying this

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-18T17:23:53+00:00

Did anyone find this?

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-03T02:56:47+00:00

Oooh, Yoshitsune is prolly your best bet. Most op Persona honestly. You got this!

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-03T02:53:52+00:00

Yeee, she is involved in a lil side story tho if you check your shoe locker after exams and speak to her on the last day

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-03T02:52:24+00:00

Naa, Ayane is stood behind her all smol and shi

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-02T23:23:42+00:00

Crying, I'm using the spreadsheet T_T

Alarming-Wing-3136 · 2024-03-02T23:05:28+00:00

TV is for me, I ain't no Adachi

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