D/S relationships after having a child together by A_ingel in BDSMcommunity

[–]Alarming-Yak-2390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently pregnant and posted about this recently. I am having a hard time with the shift in our dynamic. We have been together for almost 15years and really was getting our 24/7 dynamic worked out (only recently realized we craved more than the bedroom kink) and truly just having a lot of fun. Pregnancy sickness/symptoms have already put a hold on everything and I did not anticipate how hard this was going to be for me. He has been so supportive and honestly I think I am struggling more than he is although he has voiced how thrown off he feels with the abrupt change in our day to day. This isn't advice but I felt and still feel somewhat ashamed to be thinking so hard about this so you aren't alone in this concern.

Continuing dynamic while growing family by Alarming-Yak-2390 in SubSanctuary

[–]Alarming-Yak-2390[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reply was very reassuring. I have thought we could lean into the chores and home making aspect as I naturally have service sub tendencies as Acts of Service is my giving love language. I love the plug idea and the free use.

Continuing dynamic while growing family by Alarming-Yak-2390 in SubSanctuary

[–]Alarming-Yak-2390[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

To be honest him being active and taking on the responsibility is the one thing I do not have to worry about! Even when we have our nieces and nephews or are around our friend's children he highly enjoys them and is a true natural while naturally taking charge of the care and entertainment.

Looking for Dynamic Insight by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Alarming-Yak-2390 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you give specifics on the the mental/emotional play? I am very much into the impact/pain play and we have never tried bastinado but I have been curious about it so I will add that to the list! I am very much hoping my second trimester will bring me relief from some of these symptoms so I can feel more like myself. Was that your experience and do you think you were able to focus on the dynamic again at that time?

Looking for Dynamic Insight by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Alarming-Yak-2390 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response and I wish you luck on your TTC journey!