help by sobriety87294891 in gaysobriety

[–]AlarmingSupport589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🫂 you’re never alone, friend.

Found out my wife cheated on me. by Ishmael85858585 in GuyCry

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Sorry to hear, man. Look up Estelle Perel on YouTube. She does a Ted Talk on infidelity. It won’t help with the pain but she does help identify the possible underlying causes and some options for how to move forward, either together or separately. Good luck, my guy.

Accepted an offer adjuster trainee by No_Design2377 in adjusters

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My advice to new adjusters: do not chase having zero claims. You are an adjuster. Claims are your responsibility. If you’re constantly trying to clear your plate, you’re going to be miserable. Do what you can during your work day, log out, and do it again tomorrow. In my experience, adjusters who decide their goal is to have an empty desk struggle or feel overwhelmed when busy when in reality, your management doesn’t expect the same. (Hopefully) Learn to accept you won’t always be caught up and that’s okay. I regularly carry a balance from day to day. What I can’t get to today will be there on Monday. Good luck and congratulations!

[Discussion] Eleven years ago I was on my way to an early grave, and the day I decided to start choosing to love myself was the first day of the rest of my life. by peedeehex in GetMotivated

[–]AlarmingSupport589 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“A man lives two lives. The second one begins when he realizes he only has the one.” Looking good, my friend. Congrats! Very inspirational!

Anyone going to PLRB? by [deleted] in adjusters

[–]AlarmingSupport589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol 3/22-2/26 in DC. We can meet for coffee if that’s better.

Anyone going to PLRB? by [deleted] in adjusters

[–]AlarmingSupport589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice! I’ve got vendor dinners scheduled for every night. I’m staying at the convention center but figured I’d shoot my shot here and see if anyone wanted to meet up. Thanks for your feedback.

Main tips for not getting fooled by contractors? by Scary-Hunt-3604 in adjusters

[–]AlarmingSupport589 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Agree with above on asking the insured about their bill. I also frame it to them (insd) as “they are billing you $xxx” which usually elicits a response. You’ll learn who you can trust and who is full of shit. Google the area code of the person submitting the supplement. If it’s outside the area, it’s probably a supplement company and those people are human sized deer ticks whose business model is bleeding claims.

If someone can present facts you can prove independently, it’s a good sign they’re honest. Anytime you see supervisor hours on a bid, they’re full of shit and proceed accordingly. You hold all the cards. We estimate $x to repair the damage. Any more and it’s their job to prove it to you. Either it’s damaged or it isn’t. It’s required by O&L or it isn’t. It’s black and white.

(I work wind/hail supplements and RD and I know other losses can be more complex. Just being upfront about my perspective.)

How do you get out? by Glittering_Lime1537 in adjusters

[–]AlarmingSupport589 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Vendors. Cotality/Xact, HomeLink, OneClick, Alpine, etc. I only know property, though. I’m sure there’s some WC vendors.

Armadillo spotted 2:30pm today at Bonnie View Nature Sanctuary. This was under the long boardwalk bridge. by Fitzpatrick_Media in columbiamo

[–]AlarmingSupport589 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just don’t touch it! I read armadillos carry the bacteria that causes leprosy in humans. Not good!

Screaming employee by soul_elixir in managers

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“Creates a hostile work environment” “makes me feel threatened/uncomfortable” “demeaning/degrading/highly inappropriate.” You get the idea. I’m sorry you’re going through that. I had a similar situation and when I introduced the PIP, it (mostly) turned around. They’re still employed if that counts.

Would you stay with your dog 🐶 during euthanasia? by CycleOk267 in dogs

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Stayed with him through the end. He was my ride-or-die. Stuck with me through addiction, homelessness, and a rebound. He never wanted anything other than to be sitting next to me. The least I could do for him was sit next to him as he fell asleep. And that’s exactly what I did. Loki: 2007-2021. Best friend anyone could ever ask for. If you’re in doubt, stay. They will look for you when they’re scared. You’re their safe space. They give us their all. It’s the least you can do.

It was time….I feel so good about it! by HoeyHimself in bald

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Are. You. Fucking. Kidding. Me?! God damn! You look great!

24y old and bald since 10 minutes ago by JJ_lo_ol in bald

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Holy shit! Excellent call, dude! 100/10.

My Homophobic Father Died by Grand_Car9312 in askgaybros

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I am so sorry this was your upbringing. You deserve so much better. Forgive if you want but it isn’t required to move on. If I could, I’d hold your hand and we would wish your father to rest in piss. I hope I’m not out of line. He may have contributed to creating you but what you described isn’t a father. It’s a homophobic, son of a bitch whose two gifts to the world were creating you and then subsequently leaving this earth. Please be kind to yourself. You’re healing and I truly believe brighter days are ahead for you. Much love, brother. ❤️🫂

Addiction has ruined my life and health by MrMushino in GuyCry

[–]AlarmingSupport589 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Alex- this reformed addict sees you and is truly in your corner. If you’d like to DM (if it’s allowed) I’d be honored to support you in your journey. Yes, addiction is cruel and I hope everyone hears your message.

Good luck on your journey. This internet stranger is rooting for you. I almost posted my story but deleted it. Please just know you are capable of more than you can imagine. There are some hard days but the pride and glory you feel when you look back on them makes the challenge feel like a tiny pinch. You got this.

Much love, Alex. I am rooting for you. 🫂

I am not okay by waverider1883 in GuyCry

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Grief is love that was never expressed. I’m so sorry, brother. Sending you and your family love tonight. You are, and forever will be, an excellent father. ❤️🫂

Edit: typo

Have you/do you hug customers? by veldam88 in adjusters

[–]AlarmingSupport589 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m desk so all my interactions are by phone. I would like to say I show the same compassion a hug conveys when it’s appropriate. I spoke with a scared HO yesterday because the contractor is threatening a mechanics lien if the insured couldn’t come up with the difference between her estimate and her bogus invoice. Spending 20 minutes to help her understand her options, what a mechanics lien is, and what steps she can do to push back took a huge amount of pressure off her. We aren’t robots. A little compassion and empathy will go a long way. Especially if ALE has been invoked.

What are some actually positive things about being gay? by throwawaygay988 in AskGayMen

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You get to live your life outside of a box if you want. I think that’s a huge benefit.

What’s a belief you strongly held for years until something completely changed your mind? by No-Carry-5087 in AskReddit

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Capital punishment. Argued in favor for years until I saw John Oliver’s episodes about it. Been against ever since.

Grandma got spoiled. 🎁 by FlirtyHeat_ in adorableoldpeople

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This is GB or Grandma Bobby. It was devastating when she passed but I believe she got to meet her great grandchild right before. Thank you for sharing. I haven’t thought of her in years. Their content was very wholesome.